to be honest, i don't know even though i am one. i had a guy approach me and ask for a casual friends with benefits situation. I accepted because he seemed decent and i wanted to try it, but over time wanted to date him because i was lonely. apparently we did the whole friends with benefits thing wrong since we both talked about personal things and he took me out to dinner a lot. i asked him for a relationship twice and he said no. i guess I wanted more than i thought i did. i was really sad but accepted it, and eventually got a boyfriend. had to cut the friends with benefits off because he wouldn't respect the new boundaries I had. i never got into another situation like that again.
They dont know what they want, simple as that, and some of them do hook ups and casual sex hoping the guy would fall for them and when he doesn't they start crying
I don't think that's really the issue. I think its just that people in general don't like being ghosted for any reason. I don't think its women getting it in their heads that it means more. I think its more just that it feels crap when anyone doesn't show the human decency to have a conversation. Even just "I'm not into it anymore" and that's it. But I don't think a part of girls assuming its something else.
I’ve always needed an emotional connection, mental connection to have sex with someone and it feels better as you get to know one another. If I should find myself single one day I don’t feel I can be part of the hookup culture but may give in just to feel that physical touch of someone. It wasn’t around when I was of age so just feels alien to me.
Women are emotional their emotions take control, this is why I don’t do casual sex. But men a lot of times use a woman, they lead her on to get what they want. They aren’t straight up. They want to benefits of a relationship without the commitment
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I feel a lot of the time, one of the parties involved isn't honest with the other. I was in a situation where I believed a relationship was forming. I was told I was loved, that he wanted to be with me, and then when he later claimed it was simply sex, even though I literally did everything with him almost every day of the week and acted as his girlfriend. Hooking up is one thing, lying and using people is another and that is a totally legitimate reason to get upset.
I guess some women figure if they can get let in by a guy (or maybe more accurately, let a guy get in to them 😂), even if it's just physical, they can "fix" them...
It is as simple as women deluding themselves first into thinking that they are OK with casual sex and the second thing is that this is more than casual if that is how they feel it should be.
Because they don’t understand what a Casual Hookup means... doesn’t mean the guy is going to date you. If he does great 99% chance he won’t and females believe they can be that 1%.
Women choose men, not caring the slightest bit about their personalities, screw them... then are shocked that those guys whom women throw themselves at act just like that?
Those men have no reason at all to stay with any woman when they can have their pick? Why would they "settle"? (as woman love to say)
I don't know. I have no experience in that area. Sorry.
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Maybe they just want someone to blame other than themselves for setting themselves up for that situation. It's easier to make yourself a victim than to face the results of one's own poor decisions and break the cycle of going for the wrong types for a relationship (knowingly in this case). Also perhaps vanity thinking she had the power and couldn't possibly fathom a guy ghosting or turning a beauty like her down. Or maybe it's because people feel even if they say it's strictly just for sex
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I was recently with a girl who I had TWO full on heart to heart talks about how I wasn't looking for a girlfriend or relationship and I was having that talk with her because I didn't want to lead her on and hurt her heart. She said she felt the same and said it was cool.
She ghosted after she realized I wasn't going to change my mind and has been going around our group of friends calling me a fuckboy...
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Standard blame game. I call them "victim class fuckgirls". They get involved with fuckboys BECAUSE they're fuckboys and rhey know exactly what's gonna happen. Then when its over, they can lay the blame on him and act like a victim.
Why the hell do you think fuckboys are so successful at playing games even though they are so transparent and have that reputation? Because that's exactly what women want.
I dated a fuck boy. But he never said when we started “dating” “This is just a hook up, nothing serious” so I got weirded out when he stopped talking to me after a couple months. So I contacted him and yes, was confused when he dumped me.
That's different. I was specifically talking about women who KNOW they're getting involved with a fuckboy, do it anyway, and then play the blame game. These are the type that go after guys after being told by her friends that he's done the same thing to them.
Getting duped sucks. Lots of guys play those games (women, too), and lots of girls have fallen for it and been taken advantage of. I've seen lots of other girls, though, go running to those same guys after being told exactly what games he's playing.
I never experienced hook up. But i guess it would feel the same as when there's a girl from highschool in your followers and suddenly she blocks you. Ok i didn't have anything to do with you but damn i wish i've blocked you first.
I know right? I've seen so many question about women talking about how surprised they are when the guy wasn't interested in them after a one night stand... I mean... it is a one night stand isn't it?
Maybe they're trying to find a man that stays this way, because if they did it the long way, the guy would run off once they found out who they really are.
Yeah, I don't get that either. I guess girls can't really seem to get a hold of their emotions for the most part? Then again, that's just what I get out of it.
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to be honest, i don't know even though i am one. i had a guy approach me and ask for a casual friends with benefits situation. I accepted because he seemed decent and i wanted to try it, but over time wanted to date him because i was lonely. apparently we did the whole friends with benefits thing wrong since we both talked about personal things and he took me out to dinner a lot. i asked him for a relationship twice and he said no. i guess I wanted more than i thought i did. i was really sad but accepted it, and eventually got a boyfriend. had to cut the friends with benefits off because he wouldn't respect the new boundaries I had. i never got into another situation like that again.
They dont know what they want, simple as that, and some of them do hook ups and casual sex hoping the guy would fall for them and when he doesn't they start crying
I don't think that's really the issue. I think its just that people in general don't like being ghosted for any reason. I don't think its women getting it in their heads that it means more. I think its more just that it feels crap when anyone doesn't show the human decency to have a conversation. Even just "I'm not into it anymore" and that's it. But I don't think a part of girls assuming its something else.
I’ve always needed an emotional connection, mental connection to have sex with someone and it feels better as you get to know one another. If I should find myself single one day I don’t feel I can be part of the hookup culture but may give in just to feel that physical touch of someone. It wasn’t around when I was of age so just feels alien to me.
Women are emotional their emotions take control, this is why I don’t do casual sex. But men a lot of times use a woman, they lead her on to get what they want. They aren’t straight up. They want to benefits of a relationship without the commitment
I feel a lot of the time, one of the parties involved isn't honest with the other. I was in a situation where I believed a relationship was forming. I was told I was loved, that he wanted to be with me, and then when he later claimed it was simply sex, even though I literally did everything with him almost every day of the week and acted as his girlfriend. Hooking up is one thing, lying and using people is another and that is a totally legitimate reason to get upset.
I guess some women figure if they can get let in by a guy (or maybe more accurately, let a guy get in to them 😂), even if it's just physical, they can "fix" them...
It is as simple as women deluding themselves first into thinking that they are OK with casual sex and the second thing is that this is more than casual if that is how they feel it should be.
Not good. Not real. Not a surprise. lol!
Because they don’t understand what a Casual Hookup means... doesn’t mean the guy is going to date you. If he does great 99% chance he won’t and females believe they can be that 1%.
Whoever down voted me must be hurt.
Women choose men, not caring the slightest bit about their personalities, screw them... then are shocked that those guys whom women throw themselves at act just like that?
Those men have no reason at all to stay with any woman when they can have their pick? Why would they "settle"? (as woman love to say)
I personally don't know anyone like this. Maybe just some needy woman wanting something to happen.
I'm surprised you recieved a thumbs down for this one from a man lol.
@Selena2418 Win some, lose some.
I don't know. I have no experience in that area. Sorry.
Maybe they just want someone to blame other than themselves for setting themselves up for that situation. It's easier to make yourself a victim than to face the results of one's own poor decisions and break the cycle of going for the wrong types for a relationship (knowingly in this case). Also perhaps vanity thinking she had the power and couldn't possibly fathom a guy ghosting or turning a beauty like her down. Or maybe it's because people feel even if they say it's strictly just for sex
I was recently with a girl who I had TWO full on heart to heart talks about how I wasn't looking for a girlfriend or relationship and I was having that talk with her because I didn't want to lead her on and hurt her heart. She said she felt the same and said it was cool.
She ghosted after she realized I wasn't going to change my mind and has been going around our group of friends calling me a fuckboy...
Standard blame game. I call them "victim class fuckgirls". They get involved with fuckboys BECAUSE they're fuckboys and rhey know exactly what's gonna happen. Then when its over, they can lay the blame on him and act like a victim.
Why the hell do you think fuckboys are so successful at playing games even though they are so transparent and have that reputation? Because that's exactly what women want.
I dated a fuck boy. But he never said when we started “dating” “This is just a hook up, nothing serious” so I got weirded out when he stopped talking to me after a couple months. So I contacted him and yes, was confused when he dumped me.
I have to know that that is all the guy wants. If I know that I stay away
That's different. I was specifically talking about women who KNOW they're getting involved with a fuckboy, do it anyway, and then play the blame game. These are the type that go after guys after being told by her friends that he's done the same thing to them.
Getting duped sucks. Lots of guys play those games (women, too), and lots of girls have fallen for it and been taken advantage of. I've seen lots of other girls, though, go running to those same guys after being told exactly what games he's playing.
Oh yeah ok makes sense now
I never experienced hook up. But i guess it would feel the same as when there's a girl from highschool in your followers and suddenly she blocks you. Ok i didn't have anything to do with you but damn i wish i've blocked you first.
We cat belives you fucks are so heartless we thank your joking
It's just honesty. In return, guys would say that they thought she was being honest, rather than lying about her intentions.
@scottalanmiller I'm heartless
But I try to be sexy to make up for it
I can live with that.
I know right? I've seen so many question about women talking about how surprised they are when the guy wasn't interested in them after a one night stand... I mean... it is a one night stand isn't it?
Maybe they're trying to find a man that stays this way, because if they did it the long way, the guy would run off once they found out who they really are.
I dunno
Yeah, I don't get that either. I guess girls can't really seem to get a hold of their emotions for the most part? Then again, that's just what I get out of it.