Guy, what do you think about getting exclusive with a girl?

[true_lover]

hey!

so, what comes up into your mind when a girl asks you where you two stand. Did you ever ask yourself to get exclusive with a girl.

How would you prefer to be asked to become exclusive? any tips?

[Anonymous]

You girls always want something more. First its going out then being exclusive then its an engagement then marriage then kids, etc. etc.

Sometimes we just want to have fun and be with you without the pressure of always being there.

[true_lover]

So what you're saying is that relationships are just bullsh*t and that you shouldn't mention you kind of heading to the 'i love you' part ?

I mean I never really had a relationship cause I'm all about having fun. but just now I met a really nice guy and it sort of looks like he feels te same... but you think it would scare him of if I would ask (after dating for 3 months) where I stand?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I am telling you what's going on in the average guy's mind.

[mrchristian]

If I really like her, then probably I've already told her how I feel and like things to go further. I've never really been in that other situation but It would be nice if the girl takes the first step.

[true_lover]

yeah but when and HOW do you say it?

I mean I showed him I care about him I guess a LOT of times and vice versa for him... but it's just that the both ofus just can't SAY anything about how we feel

[mrchristian]

That's the point, you've showed him but not actually told him about your feelings, unless you wanna wait until he says something, you should probably ask him straight if he has feelings for you, if he really likes you he won't say no because he'll probably lose you forever.

[true_lover]

that makes sense :) now just find the courage to tell him. but I think I'll still wait a while before I'll tell him. I want to be absolutly sure that he doesn't turn out to be some random guy who acts real sweet at the beginning and ends up to be a jerk.. been there, done that too many times already

[BossDJ]

3 months is too soon for anything "exclusive" . Wait at least 6 months then just ask him how he would feel about the possibility of being together exclusively or you might scare him off for seeing too needy.

[true_lover]

thanks for the advice ;)

[Brando]

Assuming I liked her, I'd feel relieved. I would feel like I'm no longer in that "win her attention" phase so I would feel like I could drop a lot of those thoughts.

[Anonymous]

that's where all dating eventually leads. if he's not OK with that, then he should get out