In YOUR Opinion, Do Women Hold Grudges Longer Than Men?

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aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

In my experience, generally, yes. However, I think it's usually less of a gender thing and more of a maturity thing assuming the thing the person is holding a grudge about is something that should be let go of. I do think some things are reasonable to hold a grudge against or at least distance yourself from a person over, but many people tend to hold silly grudges.

For example, there is a girl I went to high school with who I may have spoken 5 words to. According to one of my close friends, to this day she doesn't like me and says she doesn't think we're on the best terms due to something that happened in high school. I never found out what the incident she was talking about was, but she's held onto it for 6-10 years. If I did do something, I certainly didn't mean to and would gladly apologize for it, but I'm guessing that if I don't even know what she's talking about, that she's either confusing me for another person or it was something foolish and stupid, typical high school-esque behavior probably. Certainly nothing to hold a decade-long grudge over, I wouldn't think.

Also, my last ex held a grudge against me (and might possibly still, I'm not sure) for YEARS after we broke up. It was all because I ended our relationship. He was even still holding the grudge 3 years into his relationship after ours, which to me makes no sense because the girl is a much better fit for him than I was and I'd think that the breakup wouldn't concern him anymore since he's in a new and better relationship.

I think at some point, it comes time to let go of some things. If not for the person you're holding a grudge against, for yourself, because it's really not healthy to carry around that negativity.

BlackRoseFairy · Accepted Answer

Women associate bad things with feelings more than men do, so yes, we can hold a grudge much longer than a guy...
But then this is also a matter of Personality and of course the person it affects... Some people are easier to forgive than others. 🤷‍♀️

Obtuse · Accepted Answer

In my very personal experience, it's apples and oranges. What I have found in my experiences (and keep in mind that this is hardly conclusive, and I don't draw bold conclusions), is that if you give guys a common goal, like working together in a workplace, they can put aside their petty differences and get things done cooperatively.

Meanwhile, if guys are absent a common goal to unite them, and they have differences, they can cease to talk to each other indefinitely and be extremely stubborn about it when everyone else is like, "What's the big deal with you?" This is not all guys, mind you, but I can find a certain stubbornness here when unique to guys who develop grudges.

I find, on average, women to be somewhat reversed. Sometimes I see the worse catfights among women if you give them a common goal, as though that common goal divides them rather than unites. Meanwhile, many seem to do better absent such goals. And when absent such goals, if they develop something resembling a grudge, they're usually far less stubborn about it.

igiem · Accepted Answer

Most woman hold grudges longer than men. Based on observation, they feel betrayal or other negative emotions differently than most men. This would hypothetically lead them to hold grudges for longer. In contrast, men would hold more severe grudges and almost never let them go. When a man is truly and honestly betrayed or hurt in a way that scars his ego, pride, and self-esteem, that kind of pain will never go away. It will always be there like some sort of ghost. In this case, men would hold onto this grudge until the day they die.

coolbreeze · Answer

I think both sexes do. But in extreme cases some take it to far.

silvermoon84 · Answer

There are still people I’m pissed off at from high school, my best friend is still pissed off at her ex for cheating on her fifteen years ago and my mom is still pissed off at my dad after divorcing him 34 years ago. Women definitely hold grudges longer

ariadneR · Answer

I think it varies with the person.
My mum will bring up shit I did when I was 5 and harass me about it. Or when her and my dad were dating 🙄
Then I have an uncle who is the same.
I tend not to hold grudges. I let things be. There is no point wasting your life on being miserable over something.

Meropatrick · Answer

Oh boy women hold grudges more. Its because a guy will hold a grudge if you killed his son. But a woman will hold a grudge against another woman who dressed better than her in party 300 years ago. So women hold grudges over smaller things and that what makes them seem more resentful than men

dmgstarfleet · Answer

Women remember every "sin" (in their eyes) their men ever committed from not texting back immediately 2 years prior to checking out another girl walking by 5 years prior to leaving the lid up again (they keep a running total on that one)

JessNicole23 · Answer

As a woman I definitely believe we hold grudges longer it just gets on the nerves that men doesn't understand us better lol!! I've obviously been sulking and not speaking for an hour, he throws his boots anywhere they'll land, I lose it and he thinks I'm mad about the boots😅

opnbuk59 · Answer

Depends on what the grudge is based on and their frame on mind and level of education but if I was to choose I say women do, due to them being more emotional, sensitive,

Ruby3 · Answer

Yes we hold grudeges for longer time because we didn't clear our problem at that time and act modest but on the other hand boys do both verbal and physical fight in smallest matter also and they vent out all their anger that time

Maraneva · Answer

It's usually just person dependent but women do have a better memory of what happened when. Men usually remember on a broader scale like who they met, where etc

Aleyalovelygirl16 · Answer

Yes women do hold grudges but it's because we feel like we can't trust a guy to fulfill our needs. Guys hold grudges too for the same reason pretty much

Lemia · Answer

I rarely hold a grudge against someone no matter the offence because whats the point, you've basically fallen out with them, there is a 5% chance you will see each other again

GOOSEBOY78 · Answer

yes. yes they do. and will remind you anything you said to them (eg random throw away comment 12.00am Sunday the 3rd of march 2004) is admissible in the court of public opinion.

TacocaT6969 · Answer

It’s not a gender thing, it’s a person thing.  All depends on personality.

Brindale · Answer

Depends on the woman/man; I think women tend to be more vindictive about it but men are more striaght up violent and keep that shit up a long time

BCA6010 · Answer

I think in general, women do hold grudges more frequently, while men take specific grievances like betrayal much more harshly.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I see less women being toxic and raging against all men than vice versa. Take the males on GaG for example who bitch about ONE woman’s screwing them over and then extrapolating onto all women.

chazerley · Answer

yes cause women have a better memory but you dont know it cause they can hide it from you but a man would not be able to hide it as well

R_Cakes91 · Answer

Immature people hold grudges longer, not men or women.

BlazinFiresAshNthaB · Answer

I mean that's a fact women are vindictive point blank elephant memory on everything that has ever been argued about and push buttons with those buttons

Honestyyy · Answer

Yes im telling you if you do something to a guy he will forget about it quick women in the other hand dont they store that shit so they can always use it on you

Bongem · Answer

I don't think so. I think it's more a personality trait than a gender one.

Varyag · Answer

In my opinion, women hold a more resentful grudge than men.

kingkathyy · Answer

I think it’s usually women that do that but there are definitely men out there that do it too

Purplemonkey24 · Answer

I think so. I tend to hold grudges. But I know guys who do too, probably depends on the person. So far I've held a 9 year grudge.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Women seem to hold grudges on each other for longer from what I've seen. It can be the reverse when it comes to guys they should be holding grudges on who honestly deserve it.

Kay0019 · Answer

Yes. I like holding grudges. It keeps me up until late at night...

kangy · Answer

YEs I feel so somehow. coz women tend to be more petty

Slyfox163 · Answer

I feel like it just depends on the person. Just because some girls hold grudges for a long time, doesn't meant that they all do. Same for girls. Sometimes it also depends on the situation. Why are they holding a grudge, etc?

ThatGuy133 · Answer

I don't think it's based on gender. It's mostly the person

monkeynutts · Answer

Depends on the woman, and man, I have heard anecdotally that cops say that certain races hold grudges more than others. Namely middle Eastern people.

justcurious2019 · Answer

i would say both men and women do the same thing sorry for all the flirting i hope we can be friends again

duanemc86 · Answer

A woman should get a new shovel for her birthday every year because she wears the old one out digging up old shit all year.

Pipeliner87 · Answer

I find that women are much more vindictive than men. They will bring hate with them where ever they go.

smb930 · Answer

The sooner you learn to forgive, the better. What good does holding a grudge do, really?

dragoblack · Answer

Most definitely, i've seen women hold grudges for years. Most i have seen guys hold a grudge is a few months

simplelikeme · Answer

In general, yes they do. Only because they are more sensitive and emotional than a man.

Quidthonian · Answer

I have never been women long enough to experience that.

msc545 · Answer

I'm not sure. I personally forgive, but I never forget.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

Women's do cuz they just... Don't never FUGGIN trust no more... Even in a committed relationship

LazyMan · Answer

Depends on the person. I will hold a grudge over the smallest thing until the day I die.

Plitty-Tank · Answer

On the3 average, I'd say women do and are more vindictive.

Regmorus · Answer

Yes, since men are much more likely to let it go just to find their mental balance again.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh hell yes women hold grudges longer than men. How is this even a question?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't know , i do hold grudges with immaturity but hey it happens

DanOh2018 · Answer

Yes they certainly seem to. I've had guys with whom I've thrown fists become friends.

Davis04 · Answer

YES!! This is coming from a female too😂

pigoat · Answer

In MY opinion they both hold just as long

AngelLily · Answer

I think Women do hold grudges longer.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I think it's the same.

winterfox10 · Answer

Oh yeah, women have very long memories

BaiYaoyao · Answer

From what I have seen, yes like 80%

worldscolide · Answer

Oh no I've known women who hold grudges for YEARS.

alance99 · Answer

It varies from woman to woman

Marissa095 · Answer

I don't know I do I don’t really forget.

Dean269 · Answer

Yes they hide it deep inside

SissyFrenchMaid · Answer

From my experience my answer is yes they do

iwannadancewithjesus · Answer

Really it depends on the person you ask

Atrocity · Answer

Well I think most women do not tend to forget...

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, we probably do.

AwesomeCookie · Answer

Yes typically

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