In my experience, generally, yes. However, I think it's usually less of a gender thing and more of a maturity thing assuming the thing the person is holding a grudge about is something that should be let go of. I do think some things are reasonable to hold a grudge against or at least distance yourself from a person over, but many people tend to hold silly grudges.
For example, there is a girl I went to high school with who I may have spoken 5 words to. According to one of my close friends, to this day she doesn't like me and says she doesn't think we're on the best terms due to something that happened in high school. I never found out what the incident she was talking about was, but she's held onto it for 6-10 years. If I did do something, I certainly didn't mean to and would gladly apologize for it, but I'm guessing that if I don't even know what she's talking about, that she's either confusing me for another person or it was something foolish and stupid, typical high school-esque behavior probably. Certainly nothing to hold a decade-long grudge over, I wouldn't think.
Also, my last ex held a grudge against me (and might possibly still, I'm not sure) for YEARS after we broke up. It was all because I ended our relationship. He was even still holding the grudge 3 years into his relationship after ours, which to me makes no sense because the girl is a much better fit for him than I was and I'd think that the breakup wouldn't concern him anymore since he's in a new and better relationship.
I think at some point, it comes time to let go of some things. If not for the person you're holding a grudge against, for yourself, because it's really not healthy to carry around that negativity.
Women associate bad things with feelings more than men do, so yes, we can hold a grudge much longer than a guy...
But then this is also a matter of Personality and of course the person it affects... Some people are easier to forgive than others. 🤷♀️
In my very personal experience, it's apples and oranges. What I have found in my experiences (and keep in mind that this is hardly conclusive, and I don't draw bold conclusions), is that if you give guys a common goal, like working together in a workplace, they can put aside their petty differences and get things done cooperatively.
Meanwhile, if guys are absent a common goal to unite them, and they have differences, they can cease to talk to each other indefinitely and be extremely stubborn about it when everyone else is like, "What's the big deal with you?" This is not all guys, mind you, but I can find a certain stubbornness here when unique to guys who develop grudges.
I find, on average, women to be somewhat reversed. Sometimes I see the worse catfights among women if you give them a common goal, as though that common goal divides them rather than unites. Meanwhile, many seem to do better absent such goals. And when absent such goals, if they develop something resembling a grudge, they're usually far less stubborn about it.
Most woman hold grudges longer than men. Based on observation, they feel betrayal or other negative emotions differently than most men. This would hypothetically lead them to hold grudges for longer. In contrast, men would hold more severe grudges and almost never let them go. When a man is truly and honestly betrayed or hurt in a way that scars his ego, pride, and self-esteem, that kind of pain will never go away. It will always be there like some sort of ghost. In this case, men would hold onto this grudge until the day they die.
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I think both sexes do. But in extreme cases some take it to far.
There are still people I’m pissed off at from high school, my best friend is still pissed off at her ex for cheating on her fifteen years ago and my mom is still pissed off at my dad after divorcing him 34 years ago. Women definitely hold grudges longer
I think it varies with the person.
My mum will bring up shit I did when I was 5 and harass me about it. Or when her and my dad were dating 🙄
Then I have an uncle who is the same.
I tend not to hold grudges. I let things be. There is no point wasting your life on being miserable over something.
Oh boy women hold grudges more. Its because a guy will hold a grudge if you killed his son. But a woman will hold a grudge against another woman who dressed better than her in party 300 years ago. So women hold grudges over smaller things and that what makes them seem more resentful than men
Women remember every "sin" (in their eyes) their men ever committed from not texting back immediately 2 years prior to checking out another girl walking by 5 years prior to leaving the lid up again (they keep a running total on that one)
As a woman I definitely believe we hold grudges longer it just gets on the nerves that men doesn't understand us better lol!! I've obviously been sulking and not speaking for an hour, he throws his boots anywhere they'll land, I lose it and he thinks I'm mad about the boots😅
Depends on what the grudge is based on and their frame on mind and level of education but if I was to choose I say women do, due to them being more emotional, sensitive,
Yes we hold grudeges for longer time because we didn't clear our problem at that time and act modest but on the other hand boys do both verbal and physical fight in smallest matter also and they vent out all their anger that time
It's usually just person dependent but women do have a better memory of what happened when. Men usually remember on a broader scale like who they met, where etc
Yes women do hold grudges but it's because we feel like we can't trust a guy to fulfill our needs. Guys hold grudges too for the same reason pretty much
I rarely hold a grudge against someone no matter the offence because whats the point, you've basically fallen out with them, there is a 5% chance you will see each other again
yes. yes they do. and will remind you anything you said to them (eg random throw away comment 12.00am Sunday the 3rd of march 2004) is admissible in the court of public opinion.
It’s not a gender thing, it’s a person thing.
All depends on personality.
Depends on the woman/man; I think women tend to be more vindictive about it but men are more striaght up violent and keep that shit up a long time
I think in general, women do hold grudges more frequently, while men take specific grievances like betrayal much more harshly.
Nope. I see less women being toxic and raging against all men than vice versa. Take the males on GaG for example who bitch about ONE woman’s screwing them over and then extrapolating onto all women.
yes cause women have a better memory but you dont know it cause they can hide it from you but a man would not be able to hide it as well
Immature people hold grudges longer, not men or women.
I mean that's a fact women are vindictive point blank elephant memory on everything that has ever been argued about and push buttons with those buttons
Yes im telling you if you do something to a guy he will forget about it quick women in the other hand dont they store that shit so they can always use it on you
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