Scientifically yes, women do hold more grudges and hold them longer. But it's not as simple as it might sound. See when humans get angry, or get into a fight there is a physical reaction- adrenaline courses your your system, muscles clench, digestion slows as blood flows to other areas. And when an argument ends mens' body's release that tension and filter out the chemicals faster than a woman's. This means that even though the fight is over she is still in argument mode, physically, and she can't control that. And, subconsciously, because we're still in anger mode we look for a reason why. And she won't say 'oh because this is just my body reacting' she'll say 'Oh it's because this is what he always does. This is the same as this time and this time before and oh he didn't do this today' and such like that.
I sure that it is very possible that men have held grudges longer than women, I think it has to do with personality type. I myself am really not one for grudges, its just not me. I think the saying itself refers to well, have you ever p!ssed off a the wrong women, like in a personal way that is close to the heart. I believe that it can go with emotional terrorism (as some say), a man is more in the head and can usually not always attack on a physical level, while women are more emotional and can attack very deeply and vengefully. Instead of just a gut shot, a shot to take out the footing beneath you. I am not saying at all that all women are like this or that a man can't be, just that I believe that is sort of where it comes from.
I've never been one to hold grudges.. Forgiveness is a powerful thing and it helps me as a person. However, in a relationship that I had when I was younger I did hold a grudge about a few things. Or, actually I'm not sure it was a grudge but it was built up resentment. He cheated though so I think I had reason.
There have been other people in my life that have done me wrong but again, holding a grudge is really only hurting myself so I tend to let things go.
Yes,definitely.Every mistake you make,even if it's an honest mistake or just a perceived mistake which may not even be true,will never be forgotten.
It will always be held against you even if you were innocent.If you try to prove your innocence,you will be resented more.
I think women are more inclined to hold grudges and engage in acts of vengeance. Perhaps not as extreme as men do, but certainly more often. You screw up once with a woman, she'll remember it until the day she dies... and she'll never let you forget.
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Just from observation, it seems like when angry, men tend to attack physically while women tend to attack mentally. So it seems like women would naturally have a bigger tendency to hold a grudge. What more women (and people, I guess) need to realize is that holding a grudge is toxic, and it feels much better to just forgive and let it go.
Some women do, I think. Some are very petty but then again so are some guys. Maybe it's equal. I think that women will hold anger longer if someone they trusted really hurt them, so the grudge is more of a defense mechanism.
Being female, I know I can hold a grudge for a long time. I am still currently holding two grudges, one has gone on for maybe half a year roughly, the other is a little bit under half a year. I think that's the longest grudge I have held so far, and I still get angry about those grudges if something comes up to do with the people I hold a grudge on.
I've known some men to hold grudges but they're older and spiteful, like my grandpa. He still is mad about shit from like 50yrs ago lol.
Yes, I am one to hold grudges. It depends on what it is. I am an understanding person. I usually forgive the first time but not the second time it happens. Like cheating I won't let slide just depends on what it is.
I've known both men and women to hold grudges for 30+yrs. It's not a gender thing, it's an independent individual thing
Possibly, but not necessarily. It depends on the individual at hand.
some women do...apparently all my ex's are the kind that hold grudges...cool
i would say they are probably more vocal about it so it seems like they hold more but its probably like the same
It depends on the person and what has happened.
It has nothing to do with gender.
indeed
It depends on the person if anything
I think women do
Yes
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