I was obsessed with someone so much that even if he treated me poorly. I still wanted to be his girl. I was really very crazy back then. I did stupid stuff and it drained so much of my feelings. I was hopelessly investing my feelings into this man whom I knew that he's never going to reciprocate. The thing I realized later it was not him I was obsessed with but the feeling of happiness and dopamine I was obsessed with. That means if I want to get over this obsession then I have to be 100% happy with myself and have more meaningful connections in order to get over this obsession I have for him. Shift the focus from him to me. I feel that I have wasted my time and energy on him because I thought he is what I thought of him at the moment. I was just refusing reality. I feel empty now. There is no feelings in me but I am kind of happy with that because I have realised that the only person I have is me all my life.
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Once, but I would actually say she was still very immature. Her father & I were in a motorcycle club & she stole my # out of his phone. Talked a lot, then started dating. Problem was I had an amazing job that allowed me to work 2-3 days for 2 weeks pay. She was jus getting ready to graduate high school (she was 18 dont worry) & all she wanted to do was be with me 24 7 cause she thought she was missing something. She dropped out, of her senior yr just to be with me during all my free time! I was pissed, her fam was pissed, & yea it lasted maybe 3 4 more months after that & i couldn't take all the immature decisions she kept making.
No. I think most were intimidated to start. (Being more introverted and stand-offish).
And generally speaking I don't flirt around to feel good about myself, so I don't have a habit of giving mixed signals or leading girls on.
On the chance I'm interested, generally speaking I'm so intense and unexpected they usually run away.
But, there is a chance some were obsessed, perhaps only in their minds though.
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Um.. yeah.. eventually they begin to nitpick the small shit you do. After being put up on that pedestal, you're only bound disappoint eventually. In every case it has lead to the woman to damn near hating my guts when the dust settles. For all females idolizing their man, understand the guy is human.. not superman. It doesn't mean, dont hold you guy accountable. But if you look hard enough you'll find the chinks in his armor.
yes and she did everything in her power to make sure me and my crush don't end up together, when she realized I don't like her, but another girl.
She suddenly befriended my crush and was glued to her.
Cut the psycho out of my life almost as instantly as I noticed what she's trying. My crush didn't as she was probably not aware or if she did realize what her "bff" was doing, she did not want to start a fight. So I removed my crush out of my life, too.
Hate psychos. She reached her goal, she seemed very relieved me and my crush did not end up together.There was this one girl at my church of all places. She would consistently come up to me and say Hi in an loud voice then run away it was consistently annoying and embarrassing when around groups of people. Even after church she would look for me and say bye and smile and start blushing when around me. I even saw her my college and when talking to her, she seemed depressed that I wasn't attending church no more where I would consistently see her. She asked why I left and I told her the truth minus how I found her kinda crazy and obsessed over me like I was her boyfriend. Even had a friend who saw us together talking and asked if she was my girlfriend!
yes , this one time & it really freaks me out to even see her text message...
obsessed in some amount is good but when it gets out of control it is dangerous , creepy , nightmare too...
After that don't like even a little obsession shown by any girl in me...Well I have a couple ex-s that won’t seem to quit. One is still trying to get back together after three years even though she knows I am seriously with someone. She sent me a hand written letter a month ago telling me all this stuff and if things weren’t going to good she would like to go back. I was lucky to intercept that letter before my so saw it.
Ya a few of them, In some cases I think they might have had something off in their heads, the women were going around screwing every man and I think I was one they hadn't checked off their list. Yet it they would act obsessed over it, pretty weird in those cases. Creepy too.
I have seen it. Never experienced myself though. I have seen women go out of their way to forgive that guy she is obsessing over. Help him, create the best for him. Crying like crazy over him even if she is 70 years old. The heart of that teenager that fell in love never ages.
She tried to kill herself after I broke up with her. We were on a horrible relationship and I tried my best to make it work but eventually I had to end things. She was already depressive and she tried to end her life.
I should have told her to seek professional help before I broke up with her.
She is fine with a new boyfriend for a few years now and I am honestly happy for her.Yes more than once. I had a stalker for 5 years had to change where I lived my phone number new job new car everything
Yes I've had this several times, and it makes you really start to wonder if something about you that attracts it. Each time it happened it seemed to be crazier than the last, or they would say things I just had a hard time believing. I have never been able to figure it out.
I've had many stalkers including one that broke into my house and mounted me while I slept... it was a surprise to wake up having sex with someone you don't have a intrest in and your doors are locked
I heard that happens but never to me unfortunately. I would love it to. Actually, I just want the woman to make the first move. I can take it from there. But I want to know she is actually interested in me and not just a free meal or drink.
Yeah it's extra awkward when you don't even really know them.
Yes , oh yes and it was bad considering they wouldn’t take no for an answer in every polite way possible to the point I blew the fuck up and had to put an end to it by blocking them and changing my number
Yes... but it might have just been lust... she would send a lot of nudes and videos out of no where... but she was a nice person I just didn't feel the same regarding a relationship strictly friends with benefits at the time.
Yeah but never one that I actually wanted to be with, she wanted to text all the time and call even though I said I would when I get unbusy, she still did regardless so I blocked her, I wish a girl I was actually interested in would be just a little obsessed at least
Only when I was a teenager. This girl would call my house and ask for me all the time. One time I was walking up the busy steps to get to class and someone slapped my butt. I always suspected it was her lol
Yes, she was obsessed with beating me silly and forcing me to do her bidding.
Yes, and it was odd. It was kind of flattering, but just weird.
Yeah, it was a girl from school that wouldn't stop following me.
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