Is she really just a friend?

Question

Girl I work with and I have a strange connection. I’ve never even made an effort to be this girls friend and she’s so excited and happy to see me all the time. She will yell my name or grab my hand when she sees me.

So I end up asking her out and she agrees but doesn’t follow through. I will be moving on I’m just left confused. It’s like this girl wants me to be her best friend and I don’t even know her like that. She is still really attached to an ex boyfriend so that could be it. She has to be attracted to me at least tho right? Is it my vibe? Because I am very relaxed and a good listener. Thank you

Answer 1

Hangry22

Guru

I am guessing she's a hyperactive person and sees you just as a friend

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Asker

1 y
She is outgoing but also very awkward. She only acts this way towards me and she is only affectionate to people she really cares about
Hangry22

1 y
it seems like both. Mixed signals. Try to find out by talking about another girl romantically
Asker

1 y
I agree mixed signals. Other coworkers also think she has a crush. She started giving me these high fives where she would grab my hand instead and squueze it feels kinda intimate
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Asker

1 y
How should I mention another girl? My sister came into my job before and I seen her looking a lot
Hangry22

1 y
high fives are friendly. Maybe try to flirt with another co worker and see if she gets mad
Asker

1 y
Right I could try that. You think the high five thing is friendly tho? She’s basically just holding my hand and again she doesn’t do this to anyone else
Hangry22

1 y
you can even ask to her if another coworker is single or not. Or when you walk together outside, try to compliment another girl
Asker

1 y
I should be watching if she gets visibly jealous?
Hangry22

1 y
usually high fives are friendly unless she has a different meaning
Hangry22

1 y
ya more like see if she shuts down or try to act distant towards you
Asker

1 y
Ok thank you thank you. She has also said to me “she feels really comfortable with me” whatever that means

Answer 2

Asker

She is outgoing but also very awkward. She only acts this way towards me and she is only affectionate to people she really cares about

Answer 3

Hangry22

it seems like both. Mixed signals. Try to find out by talking about another girl romantically

Answer 4

Asker

I agree mixed signals. Other coworkers also think she has a crush. She started giving me these high fives where she would grab my hand instead and squueze it feels kinda intimate

Answer 5

Asker

How should I mention another girl? My sister came into my job before and I seen her looking a lot

Answer 6

Hangry22

high fives are friendly. Maybe try to flirt with another co worker and see if she gets mad

Answer 7

Asker

Right I could try that. You think the high five thing is friendly tho? She’s basically just holding my hand and again she doesn’t do this to anyone else