Girls, when a guy you have friend zoned tells you he essentially doesn't want to be friends anymore and stops all contact with you, do you care?

[Anonymous]

Women seem to like have a full-stocked "friend zone" bench, much like a pond stocked with trout. When a guy realizes he is just another "trout" on your bench and politely says he doesn't want to be in that position and separates all ties with you, do you care at all? Do you respect his decision, or is this guy just another easily replaced "trout" in your fully stocked pond?

[Anonymous]

Yes if she gets attached she might cry bc she was close to you. I remembered that happen in high school freshman year I didn’t know much about dating. A guy didn’t make his attention clear and like my art guy friend we were just friends I’m still cool with him to this day he is on Facebook with me. The other guy I saw him as a friend in my friend group he seemed very causal then one day ask me out and I was thrown off by that I remembered I didn’t know how to respond. He started to avoid me snd cut me off of everything than he just was mean to me through high school. His friends would do stuff to make me miserable for not dating him to the point I wanted to move schools then finally I called him out for it and embarrassed him once for all. The last year in high school I never saw him and we were good. I think he knew what he did was embarrassing and immature and people said he moved. I’m friends of his friends that are girls to this day we are roommates. I think if y’all form a bond that was special but they will get over it. It’s not like y’all had sex and you have a soul tide or y’all dated. It’s not that deep. Y’all are older and grown up I would think it would hurt but they will get over it like little uzi vert said.

[Asker]

This isn't exactly what I was asking.

[heatherlou]

If I don't want to be with you romantically but have offered you friendship, then the ball is in your court.

I have enough guy friends (who are not now, and have never been, interested in me romantically or sexually) that I can take or leave another.

If you want to be friends- cool.
If you don't - cool.

[havingfun101]

The betas a waking up girls.

[Asker]

A few are but there is an ocean of betas willing to be the "trout".

[havingfun101]

You did mention them. Bear market.

[Anonymous]

I mean yeah, that’s a little hurtful and rough because that really just showed you were really in it just to date her. But honestly after a while it doesn’t really matter because unless you meant the world to her, she’ll move on and won’t care.

[Asker]

Of course he wanted to date you, why does that come as such a surprise? Why is this hurtful? He wanted to be with you and when he realized he was just an afterthought he moved on.

[Bella9191]

He is a friend? So of course she cares. Would you care if someone suddenly stops speaking to you.
someone doesn’t have to accept being just a friend in first place. If someone pretends to be a friend to try and get laid and then suddenly doesn’t want to pretend anymore. Then yes someone has a right to be upset.

[Hanoi_Jane00]

I've never seen that happen ever!! If a guy "friendzones" you he's likely gay.

[Asker]

Huh? Did you read the question? This is about men realizing they have been friend-zoned by women and basically telling the woman they would rather not be "just a friend" and moving on.

[sheikalana]

Not at all.

[Asker]

This is what I figured. So this tells me man should ever tolerate being a trout in your pond.

[sheikalana]

First of all I'm not even interested in being friends with a guy I've friend zoned.

[Asker]

@sheikalana. Well, that's an interesting comment. I agree that men and women just being "friends" is problematic.

[sheikalana]

Is not problematic I have lots of male friends the only difference is that they never showed any interest in me which makes things much easier.

[Asker]

I guess this means they weren't really a "friend" which is probably a more appropriate line for you to draw than leading them along.

[sheikalana]

Exactly. If a guy just starts talking to me because he's interested and then I "friend zone" him, that's not a friend.

[Asker]

That's fair and not what I would consider being "friend zoned".

[sheikalana]

Yea friend zone is not the best way to describe this situation.

[Asker]

@sheikalana Your having "lots of male friends" who have never shown "romantic" (which is different than sexual) interest in you is suspect. These male friends are probably gay or just soy boys.

[sheikalana]

Some are gay some are straight I think I give off the type of energy that they have zero chances with me and they don't even try. I don't see none of that as suspicious.

[Asker]

OK, fair enough. Are you not into men?

[sheikalana]

Yes, I am.