Men, tell me something you wish women knew?

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TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

1. Trying to make us jealous by messing around with another guy makes us want you less, not more (or more accurately, it makes us leave).

2. Most of us aren't going to ask out someone we don't know anything about just because you are pretty, If you show interest in becoming actual friends with guys then you stand a much better chance at finding a good guy who likes you.

3. You can't use a baby as cement to keep a guy who doesn't like you, and trying to do so shrinks your dating pool for the next guy by 99%. regardless of how pretty you are.

4. 99.9% of men do not want to be a surrogate father or bank to their girlfriend/wife, we are looking for someone to be best friends with, not a daughter to bang, so gold digging and telling a guy to "step up" needs to stop.

5. Ignoring us will make us leave.

6. Drama is annoying, most men prefer logical women.

7. The female mentality refered to as a "tomboy" is way more attractive to a lot of men, but only if it doesn't result in making yourself look like a guy.

8. Most of the stuff women do to attract men do not work, most of the stuff women tend to complain about having to do are typically the better lures. (for example when women complain about being oggled, if you don't want us to look, don't show us, if you want our attention, let us look. sayings like "eyes up here" or calling us gross for checking you out physically, is a good way to stay single forever)

9. 99.99999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of men are not rapists, and the few that are don't do that in public, and are likely picky af, so stop being paranoid about every guy who walks past you on the street, it just makes you seem like a crazy person.

10. For any woman who spends an hour or more gussying themselves up in the bathroom to make themselves "look prettier", fyi makeup smells gross, and most men wouldn't be dating you if they hated how you looked without it, so go on the date or dating site with zero cover ups, false advertizing doesn't work long term.

11. We cannot read your mind, if something is bothering you, talk about it to us logically, in a non threatening way. Because if you bring it up by being dimeaning or bashing us, or tell your friends before telling us just so you can pointlessly complain about something you didn't even bother to point out to us, then congrats, you are now 90% less likely to resolve the problem, and 90% more likely to have us leave you. And yes, we really don't know most of the time why you are upset.

12. Most guys are not jerks, and the ones who are, to which you refer to as "alphas" or "bad boys" will leave you as single parents or beat you. They are not relationship material at all, and you need to get over this fantasy of "taming a wild man", we live in a technology driven society of ease, if it were possible to tame a given asshole, society has already done that for you by turning him into a nice guy.

13. If you want a nice guy you have to be a nice girl, too many women expect men to follow double standards, no self respecting man ever will.

14. If you see us not paying attention to you because we are playing video games, the correct responses are either:
A. "pick up the second controller and play with us."
or B. "find a guy who doesn't like gaming."

It is never C. "tell us to play less or not at all."

You cannot change a guy, and any attempt to do so will make us resent you. We are looking for a best friend, not a controlling mom.

15. Feeding a guy's ego doesn't turn him into an asshole, it exposes that he already was one, or alternatively, if he wasn't one, it just makes him happy you think so highly of him.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

The male sex drive is not an option. It's the testosterone - some 15-25 times as much as you have - it's the sex-drive hormone. If women could understand this it would be a game-changer.
Women connect emotionally.
Men connect physically.
This isn't to say men don't have any emotions, it's just a completely different dynamic.

Skankhunt · Answer

There are a lot of things women should know about men. I'm going to tell you what men want women to know, remeber, not all men thinks or feels like this.

What women should know about men:
1: We don't like drama queens
2: Dating is harder for men because we risk rejection more often than women
3: Men like and need their freedom, that's why we are not in a rush to get into a relationship and get married.
4: Men don't want to marry women because of the law, when it comes to divorces, women are better of than men, the law favors women
5: We don't like women who uses us for our money or status or geeting something else from us by manipulating us
6: We don't like toxic women
7: We don't like woke women are overreacting to thigns. It's fine if you are sensitive and you care about a certain topic, but if you act like the world is ending, that's too much.
8: We don't want to get married
9: Men going their own way (MGTOW)
10: We don't want to deal with women
11: Whate it if you are too clingy or obsessively jealous
12: We don't like it if you want to change us (forcing us to dress differently, other haircut etc)
13: We don't like it if you psuh us to take a certain job just because it pays more, even if we don't want the job, women push us to take it. ANd if we take the job, women complain that we aren't at home often. You can't have everything, make up you mind women.
14: We don't like it if you give us ultimatums
15: We are afraid of being accused of so mething, false rape accusation, false domestic violence accusation etc. Being charged for something we did not do.
16: Chivalry is dead, well it depends on the woman. Do you accept a man who is chivalrous, or will tell us that you are capable of opening the door. Feminism has killed chivalry, some men think that's the problem.
17: We don't liek to talk about our feelings, so don't force us to tell or do something we are not comfortable to do or tell.
18: Most marriages will end eventually, 50% of marriages will end, so why bother? Why investing our time in something that would probably not last?
19: If you do something for us, don't expect something in return. In real love, there is no quid pro quo (something for something).
20: Men are afraid to approach women.
21: We want women to approach us once in a while
22: We want you to be more clear if you like soemone, women don't always give signals of interst (eye contact, smiling, approaching us etc) We don't know if you like us, if men approach women, it's always a gamble for us, because we don't know if you like us.

Not all women are like that, but men are more cautious with whom we are dealing with and with whom we want a relationship with.

Unit1 · Answer

Not all of us...

Like it when you ignore us or make us jealous
Want you to use us for our money (in order to feel wanted/needed)
Subscribe to this silly (and sexist) idea, that we chase and you sit and wait for us
Want to revoke women's rights regarding education, employment, driving, voting and more
Want you chained to the kitchen and us being the sole provider
Want to be seen as an ATM on legs
Go after gold diggers or like gold diggers
Think that you all are gold diggers
Are cheaters, heartless, abusers, rapists
Hate women
Love women
Are controlled by our smaller 2. nd brain below the stomach (but our blood will flow down from the upper brain to the smaller brain)
Have no self respect, so that we keep coming bad to the terrible females, that treat us like dirt
Want nothing more than sex

I personally really love women and want them to know it. Women make my life happier and better.

Zealashton · Answer

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how fucking evil cathlics and jewish and muslims really are,
sure their are some that side with me and want to ban MGM,.
but relgardless, if those selct few do, majority of them are pure evil

i have been raped, the scare on my dick is evidice enugh, i could have had amazing sex, plasure, and everything, knowing what i lost, pisses me off, i want to wipe them all out, the rabi the jewish parnts i had, i want them died, i want my grand ma dead, i want them to burn in hell,
if karma is real i hope china dose take over the world, their laws aginst mgm iare strict, they have nukes, no one will want to fuck with them,

one time i spent 4 days stright crying and depressed and angery. and destructive,
doctors dont fucking care, why i live in a fucking reliugs shit hole,
every time i see religus icons, i get my ptsd hits me hard, , i just want to die, no fucking cares, what i want, , im just a china doll, empty used and abused, raped, and nuglected.

my mental break downs are so bad i tend to throw up at times, even jerking off can trigger an episoded, i been like this for 14 years, after i found out what i lost,
i just want it all to end.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Speaking in generality, not all.

1. Men prefer solutions over talking about feelings.

2. Men tend to give solutions/lectures as how we empathize.

3. If men are in a bad mood, we just need time to cool off. It's a solution.

4. It's not easy being a man.

5. Men have feelings too.

6. Men don't always want sex in return if we did good deeds for women.

7. Men just want to be helpful and appreciated.

8. Men don't want to be a burden.

9. Men are the generic sex.

10. Men don't waste time on women playing hard to get.

11. Men just means what they say most of the time. AKA being straight forward.

12. If men are not being push overs, that doesn't always mean they're assholes.

13. Some men prefer to be viewed as assholes for not helping a lost little girl out than to be viewed as a predator.

14. Even men can not feel safe being alone.

13. Most men understand women. Vice versa too.

I think there's more.

NamerOfStars · Answer

We're not women. Psychologically, I mean. It's far from universal, but a lot of women I've dealt with don't seem to understand that men are different in many ways from them, and so get frustrated (which is perfectly understandable) and eventually hateful (which is not). We have different perceptions, priorities, and processing patterns (and even some things that DON'T start with P). But apparently girls are growing up never being made aware of this, and so far too many think of us as a bunch of inherently defective women.

One common example: men are problem-solvers; it's how we're wired. If you come to us with a problem, we'll expect that you're looking for a solution. If you don't want that, and are just looking for commiseration, that's fine, but it's not what you're likely to get if you don't let us know. "Sweetie, I need to vent. I'm going to tell you my problems, but I'm not looking for answers; I just want you to hear me out." That'll get the point across.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I guess that if I had to distill it all down to 2 things, here's what I would say to most women:

1. Ladies... I understand that there are plenty of times when it is good, healthy and important for you to put your foot down; and I fully support you doing so during those times. But you can express your reservations without all the attitude at least 95% of the time. Stop walking around with such a chip on your shoulder, and more importantly; stop taking it out on me.

2. Ladies... I love you so much... but we have to talk about your friends. Your friends suck, and you're better off without them. Not all of them. You MIGHT have one good girlfriend, but all the rest are flakey, gossipy, back-stabby people who invariably make you insecure and cause you to doubt every little decision you make. Your friends probably contribute to that chip on your shoulder.

Novacane · Answer

I feel like a lot of women get their info of men from other women. How would a woman know how a man thinks. If I wanted to know about women I wouldn't go to another man, I would ask another woman, therefore I wish wouldn't take advice from other women and just simply ask men for what they want with the right question you will get your answers.

MCheetah · Answer

Being a man anywhere is a million times harder than being any woman living in the First World, and having to "do everything in society" while also not getting a thank you for it, or being allowed to complain about it, isn't "oppressing women" or "patriarchy." Honestly, many of you should honestly just say Thank You to your fathers and brothers and stop acting like such spoiled ungrateful cunts. (The liberal women, that is.)

AmandaYVR · Answer

If I'm answering on behalf of the guys, I'd say the most common single answer I hear is "Don't expect us to read your minds. Tell us. We do not know what we did wrong."

If you're interested, here's some more answers on the same q I asked a while back:
Men, what would you like girls/women to know?

But what's even more interesting is the fact that the pinks didn't answer, and apparently don't want the guys to know anything?
Ladies, what would you like guys to know?

TheBootyChest · Answer

That I want to talk to her, get to know her, hear about her interests and have many conversations with her.  AND THAT I AM NOT TRYING TO GET IN HER PANTS!!!

stardust2021 · Answer

Lol my boyfriend would say “you have to verbalize what you want, you can’t expect me to know or read your mind” 😂

SirJohn42 · Answer

Guys dont like mind games period.
We dont like to try and figure out how your feeling. We want an honest answer.

Asking how you look all the time is very Annoying.
If you dont want your guy to look at other women stop asking him how she looks? Or trying to compare yourself with other women. Most likely a trap.

Dont try and make me jealous or angry with other guys. Quick way to be ignored or talk to again.

KibblesBits · Answer

That playing hard to get is trolling and a bad sign that you'll be abusive and selfish in a long term relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Not every guy wants to hurt you! There are still "good" guys out there. Also I hope one day the finally realize that their behavior needs to change. Stop leading guys on and stop misusing them for your fun. We don't want to be used as your toys. We are human too.

Dontaaa · Answer

That every guy you comes into contact with doesn't have a crush on you.

t-8900 · Answer

that some of those guys being nice to you are being genuine and will probably make a better boyfriend than anyone you're meeting on the girl's night out.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Men are significantly more visual than women when it comes to physical attraction.

Yes women are a somewhat visual when it comes to physical attraction but that pales in comparison to just how visual men are.

admles · Answer

When we tell you we don't know what we did wrong, WE MEAN IT! Stop saying "you really don't know?" and "if you don't know I'm not going to tell you". Save us both some time and just say it.

Citizenkirk · Answer

High 👠's are not sexy, and men feel sorry for woman who insist on destroying their ankles, spine, and lower back to wear them.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

That men cannot read women's minds! If a woman is interested in a guy she must let him know clearly that she is interested, so that he may approach her without being objectionable.

ChocoBrowny · Answer

If a woman compares a new guy to a previous one (that she broke up with) and tells him things to make him look inferior, he's going to remember this and dump her for a better woman in the future.

Noodle_fan · Answer

DO NOT overfeed his ego or he will turn into asshole

Anonymous · Answer

I think they all want us to tell them what's on our mind, because they can't read what we're thinking.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men hate hos. Whether they say it or not, girls who sleep around have locked themselves into a certain way of being treated by men of which they can't really escape unfortunately.

Shihab91 · Answer

I wish women tell us what we should know more about them ( and I mean the truth not something you want for their advantage) I know most women tell things like: " hey we like this... " but in reality, they want it now but not always.

Slim57 · Answer

Stop choosing bad men and grouping them with good ones and refusing to date good men while complaining about it

Leavesbound · Answer

I don't expect you to be my maid. I just don't honestly care that there is a mess or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish they knew how difficult it is for men to approach them

Tunasub · Answer

We don't think with our dick 24/7 more like 12/3.5

Pete671 · Answer

When you get us hard, we need to ejaculate, and it's fine to just leave us alone to "sort ourselves out", you don't have to give us even a hand job if you not in the mood,,,

JamieLoves · Answer

We know that all of you think that guys are your own financial plan... We know that if we get married , that you’ll get complacent and become fat ugly slobs.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

We don't give a shit about 99% of what you say, and only pretend to pay attention because we want some pussy later.

hello_kitty_man · Answer

The quickest way to my heart is through my stomach.

sixtyeightplusone · Answer

men like sex, good cooking and for you not to gain weight. we can live with the rest of your BS if you can get these 3 things right..

jasco · Answer

That I will not always be willing to talk to you, sometimes I just don't wanna be bothered

Tel86 · Answer

If ur happy in a relationship or marriage then show it. Don't think us men have 2 always show our affection

InferiorElegy · Answer

There really isn't anything to tell not for me anyways.

Djaay · Answer

About the up coming battle of Armagedon and the end of witchcraft.

OddBeMe · Answer

chivalry is just politeness. You can ask guys out too.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish they knew how they are unaware of their behaviour and It's consequences. Greetings from a man🤝

Anonymous · Answer

That Shyer Guys are way better Boyfriends than Confident Guys

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Sometimes it's ok to just be quiet.

Cam45795 · Answer

We don't think women are funny... at all

pokerbot · Answer

I'm not going to rape you.

Neal_Anblome · Answer

Epstein didn't kill himself

In_Trance · Answer

That makeup is never required

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Not all straight men fit into the male stereotype.

GAGSucksBalls1 · Answer

not all men are the same

Z1pTD · Answer

Men like girls that take the top in the bed

MrTaboo · Answer

Unless told otherwise, gentle with the goods.

EmotionOfFear · Answer

Most men naturally suppress their insecurities.

Seppel · Answer

A Character is interesting

Anonymous · Answer

You can’t change a man

Anonymous · Answer

I wish they knew that we don't care.

Anonymous · Answer

FMF 3somes are great.

Anonymous · Answer

That we are very hairy on the body unlike you.

Anonymous · Answer

common sense

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