Girls, Why would she pretend have loads of friends and more social?

[Anonymous]

So I been talking to a girl only , we quickly started flirting and I told her my attraction for her. So she now plans to study in my university this year. She said she want to pursue relationship with me. And we always putting 😘💕❤️😚 emojis to each other.

but I believe she is introverted and doesn’t have as many friends. Because she moved around a lot.

but on social media , I started posting about having drinks at bars , and meals at restaurants. And I sometime DJ at raves. I like her for her. Ever since she saw me post that she has changed.

she copy’s me and has began lying to me about little things. For example , I posted about some shoes she copied and posted herself wearing those shoes, I posted about going out with friend for drinks she lied and told me she was going out for drinks with her friends but she went with her mother. Then she pretend she has been busy with friends to make herself look more social.

then it was her birthday , I wished her happy birthday and she told me she would be having dinner with family and then a party the day after. And lied again, she did not have a party and did not plan on the party?
why did it bother her seeing me out with friends drinking on social media , and why she always lying making out she is living very social life when she is at home in her room?

[Marie_curie]

Be a little kind to her. She is insecure and trying hard to fit in with you. However this is unhealthy and I recommend you to talk to her. Tell her she is perfect the way she is bruh

[Asker]

You think so? Why is she doing that? And I feel like if I mention it she will become very embarrassed

[Marie_curie]

Why don’t you tell her indirectly? Like praise her saying she is perfect the way she is and such. This might require you to be a bit manipulative but this isn’t healthy for her you know to pretend so much.

[Asker]

Yeah , I originally posted a picture of a beer and a burger at a roof top beer garden (on my own) but it didn’t have anyone else in, just me. She saw it and I got nervous thinking she be upset by it and paranoid. I deleted it off my story.

Then she been acting odd since, she started deleting photos , watching my socials closely , trying to be cool etc. So I asked if she was ok. When ever she goes through not feeling well mentally. She cuts herself off and hides from people.

She said she was fine, so then I up loaded another posts thinking I was ok. It was of 4 cocktails. But I cropped my friends out. Then she started pretending she going out with friends drinking “cocktails” , but it was with her mum , then she started pretending she was out with friends all the time. Then I wished her happy birthday and asked if she be doing much she pretended she was going to have a party with friends , she event avoided looking at my posts or story to make it look like she was too busy partying.

Then also the morning after to make it look like she had a hang over. I don’t get why she feels the need to tell little lies.

I like her the way she is

[Marie_curie]

As I said before, it’s time for an intervention.
I suggest you stop posting pics and stories for a while or at least post only stories that she can’t imitate.
Talk to her
Be very discreet. I fear you are dealing with an immature person. She might not take it well.
I feel sad that she’s giving herself unnecessary stress.
Well good luck to you two

[Anonymous]

She's trying to make it seem like she has a lively social life just like you so that you won't find her weird or someone who is a social mess