Why is my wife's sister like this?

[Anonymous]

FIRST I wanna start off to say my wife is absolutely beautiful, yes she's overweight but I love big women. HER sister comes back and tries to change everything. My wife says she was jealous of her sister growing up and had to go to therapy cause my wife felt so shitty of herself. Because she modeled and stuff and the constant fat shaming my wife gets from her family is alarming. If my wife wants to lose weight I'll support her, but I think it's shitty for family to point that out. She walked in to get food and my wife's sister told me that I should be trying to get her to lose weight. My wife is 27 if she wants to lose weight that's her business. My wife's sister is always trying to boss her around. Whenever my wife talks she says "well don't say that". No wonder she stays quiet.
What do I do?

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It wasn't the fact she was concerned about her weight, it was the fact she told me and not her. My wife has never heard her say "you need to lose weight for your health" she told me to tell her. She never came to her and told her.

She does lots of nice things for us, but with a slap in return. My wife is beautiful and precious in my eyes.

[Anonymous]

Honestly my sister is like this and it almost made me cry reading this. My sister belittles me completely. She was in the Air Force and completely said nasty things about the way I looked down to everything that I eat. It took me a while to know she was abusing me and manipulating me. She would say things such as “you don’t need to eat a burger you need to lose weight”. She will treat me as her last option when nobody else is around to do anything for her. She would tell me that if I did a favor for her then she will get my hair done or etc. she actually called me stupid and dumb in front of her friends. I did everything for my sister without asking for a dime because I had nothing to offer. I couldn’t talk to her about anything in life without her saying something negative about me and yelling bad words at me. She called me weak minded and everything. I remember babysitting for her because she couldn’t find anyone else, according to her. When we got to the Air Force base I found out that she told a couple lies. First, she told me that her son father mom wouldn’t keep him but actually she just wanted me to keep him. She said that she would pay me to babysit my nephew for the week while she was in drill. Every time I ask her to take me somewhere to get something to eat, she instead told me to eat cereal that was in there and that I need to lose weight. We went to eat out only once since being there. On the way home from the Air Force base, I said I thought you were going to pay me. she responded “I did pay you, the food was your payment”. Her friends seen how horrible she treated me. I called my sis all the time and needed to ask for advice most time. I grew up in a very abusive household and was very sheltered and bullied most of my life. I was learning everything from her and most things in life I never knew but had to learn on my own. I never dwelled on my last but my sister completely hates me. I tell my sister I love her all the time and make her feel special all the time but it’s never enough. she calls me stupid, dumb and etc. Everything positive in my life she completely turns it upside down. I’m the scapegoat in the family and her treatment is no different than anyone else. My family treats me like crap

[mazharhussainkhan]

I'm a fat person and I can tell you one thing; fat-shaming never inspires someone to lose weight. But everyone thinks if they say it enough times the person would magically start losing weight.

Her sister must have seen their parents do the same or must have been encouraged by their parents when she did it. In my opinion, this is the reason she does it.

Generally, parents of the previous generation weren't that serious with raising children. They give some children power over others and those children start abusing their power. It's fun to them. They don't realize how much they hurt their other siblings. Maybe that's why she's doing it.
This has also happened to me personally.

[andreasderjuengere]

It's not wrong to point out well-intended health concerns.
Overweight is not only about looks, but also about the spine, joints, mobility, possibly diabetes, etc.
But in the end it's you and your wife to decide.
About bossing others around: we all can lock the home door, can't we.

[humanearth]

One of My wife brothers do that to my wife. I thrown his ass out my wife.

Family or not, you dont talk to my wife like that.

[Iron_Man]

It's really good to nip it in the bud for a reality wake-up call she can get diabetes and could actually die young from being overweight the number one thing is Health not fat sexy

[Asker]

That really wasn't the point of this post my man. My wife has been struggling for a long time with her weight.

[Iron_Man]

The thing is you act like you want to let her off the hook what happens 10 years from now when you don't say a word to her

[Iron_Man]

I've seen young fat woman in their Prime and when they've gotten older the one woman is in a wheelchair today
And can barely walk at the grocery store collecting disability

[KrakenAttackin]

This is just women, especially sisters. Don't sweat it man, and DO NOT stick your nose in this. Let the women figure their shit out.

[Anonymous]

She just has a bad personality