A lot of men just don't have any respect for attention whores. Especially the ones who pretend to be loyal to their man. We have a lot more respect for street hookers because hookers aren't lying. I usually skip attention whoring posts on GAG but occasionally I say something like: focus on improving your character.
You have a point, though to the people who really are attention seeking they won't care if it's positive or negative attention, both of which are easy to get especially the later because everyone is a critic
It's not the enjoying part that is the problem it is the demanding and requiring part. Ie the narcissistic personality. So it's not a problem if you enjoy attention, but if you require his or others it's bad. You should manage just fine without getting it all the time.
Getting attention for being yourself and feeling good about that is one thing. Constantly seeking it out to ease some sort of void or pain is where one runs into trouble.
Well, it is being a bad wife and somewhat unfaithful to your husband to seek out the attention of other men who are going off on your looks and sexuality and sexiness and the amount of skin you are showing them and flirting and attention you give them.
Why be married if she is going to be one of these unfaithful people.
I didn’t realize existing was unfaithful. I do not demand attention, I’m not even asking for it. As a human being someone is going pay attention to you as some point. What matters is how you respond.
" I do not demand attention, I’m not even asking for it." - Yeah you were. It's clearly what you were doing. Don't sit there know and deny. The pic you posted didn't even showcase your height. It was clearly taken and rehearsed to show your face. Also YES, there is a pipeline with insecure women that leads from attention seeking to flat out cheating down the line.
@ronaldo75 Did you know that questions on GAG do better when there is a picture attached, like this one for example. Which thanks for the material and getting it on the front page. You have the right form your own opinions about who ever you want, but that doesn't make you right. Also if I remember correctly... you said " If you were some ugly whale fat ass slob I'd understand you looking for compliments from incels and losers on random website" but because you think that I am "pretty as FUCK" it's a problem? At the end of the day it sounds like you didn't like something that I posted, or the way I posted it, sounds more like a you problem.
Keep convincing yourself that I'm the problem. You contradict yourself brutally with this entire drama. You LITERALLY made a second post about ONE comment on another post from days ago lol.
1. "Firstly, why is it that some guys are so upset by the fact that some women like attention?" - You then deny you were looking for attention (which it's now brutally clear that you were)
2. "Which thanks for the material and getting it on the front page. " - You then celebrate that your post got to the front of the page (more sweet sweet attention).
So this is the woman your husband married. Some chick who the second she gets insecure (or likely bored, or you see a woman prettier than you at the local mall - you come running to the internet to get cheap easy attention from losers on the internet. NOT ONLY THAT. You then trigger and deny it when someone calls you out.
I'm not upset at all. I'm typing into a box and responding to a stranger. I'm not emotionally riled up or angry or anything. I'm willing to bet you're the one who's in your feelings right now. Get off the internet and go hug your husband. This whole thing is really lame.
@ronaldo75 lol Why Im having fun, and find this amusing. Why would I stop? You already think I am a shitty person, its not like anything I could say would change that opinion. Pus I like the banter
Funny I believe the whole “body positivity” movement was started by big girls who get little or no attention. Attention is literally a lifeline of sustenance for the vast majority women.
TBH men inwardly feel the same way. Actually the exact same way. But we don’t get the leeway to complain about it without looking pathetic.
It seems to me that most people are so self-absorbed and self-centered that they can't see beyond their own nose unless they want something from you. It also seems to me that most people just want to talk about themselves. They want attention on some level. It's rare to find someone who has authentic listening skills and the ability to focus on others.
I think enjoying attention and validation is the norm for both men and women. It's not a bad thing. It is what it is.
"Secondly, even if a person is attention seeking or looking for some sort of validation, why not just move along if it's not something you like? ( Seriously there is a whole category here for that specifically lol)"
Because it's the same few people posting the exact some question day after day after day, filling up the feed with spam questions (which is against the rules and is reportable) and after a while people get sick of seeing this behaviour going unpunished for literal years
Enjoying attention and validation is natural. My personal opinion is I think some men often feel threatened by women and will use any method to put them down. They surely want attention and validation too.
I think it's fine as long as you're not an attention hog. It's like one thing to step up on the metaphorical stage and enjoy the spotlight when it's your turn and another to rip the microphone away from someone else when it's theirs.
The type of woman I find obnoxious is like this, for example. I got this one acquaintance who hangs out in our social group and sometimes the conversation shifts to my wife. My friends might start complimenting her and become interested in what she does. Then this attention hog of a woman (who also tends to dress in a way that seems desperate for attention) always finds a way to interrupt the conversation and make it about her. That's going beyond seeking attention and validation to trying to deprive it from others.
It's like it's a perfectly natural human desire as I see it to want some level of attention and approval from others. I'm guilty of it every time I dress sharp to go out. I do it because I want some attention. But there's a balancing act to be had with the virtue of sharing the attention with others, and not being so greedy that we hog it up all to ourselves.
There’s nothing wrong with receiving compliments and looking good. But when you obsessively look for compliments it becomes a problem. You may think this is only a girl problem but men have it too. I got a guy friend who boasts that he’s tall as an excuse for everything. It’s as if he want other people to revere him as a god 🤣. This is when it gets to a point of NPD. But this applies more to woman. She would be like…. my big boobs cause me to carry so much weight. Like we get it you have big boobs 🤦🏻💀🤣
I think you summed it up so nicely that why not just move past such posts if you dont like it... Unfortunately we as society just love criticising others one way or another... i mean if one is seeking attention or validation so what... its their business why not just leave them be I wish we could change that but hey u dont need to change your ways just coz some people object... One should live their life the way they feel happy about it
And guys/simps etc who keep validating and giving attention are the bigger problem.
Women also use validation to see if they could date up (monkeybranch). Also think it's okay to just waste guys time on dating apps, on dates, in person etc etc. Additionally makes them feel entitled.
Do what you like. While also most guys are free to find these types of women as shitty quality.
THANK YOU. This is clearly what she did but wants to play righteous as if she was just asking a simple question about her height. Whenever you see questions like "Do guys like tall/short girls?", "Do guy like black/white girls?" You know some rehearsed selfie is coming and a long line of simps dumb enough to validate with compliments and adoration.
No I enjoy it lol. I like it when guys compliment me and a lot of the time it’s mutually harmless! As long as you’re not leading anyone on, I don’t see the problem.
Anything more than required Is offcourse annoying attention seeking is still better than getting validation in my opinion actually.
When you are doing things for validation mostly peiple over do it and constantly and people who liked it intially appraciated you for that will now despise you and call you easy.
And people also get power to manipulate you
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If you want validation and people sense that from you some people will run in the opposite direction while other people will spot the void you are trying to fill and use it to manipulate you. So if you don't want to be played yes wanting validation outside world from the as opposed to getting it from within yourself is a bad thing. Everyone wants a little bight of it which you can get from those close to you that you love and trust occasionally, however seeking it from the masses means that there are psychological issues your not dealing with.
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I noticed many attention seekers when on gag for so many years. Then as time went on, I noticed many on other sites and was sick over it. It only gets worse. Good news though. I found out on here on a question I had seen, That OF site no longer welcomes hoes to be paid nor porn stuff. Good deal!!!
It depends on the context, sometimes it's just weird.
But I agree, I think this website is a good place for people to show off their looks, so I always try to respond with respect and honesty to the "Would you fuck me?" types of posts.
I don't think that most people who want to be validated are narcissistic. I would go as far to say the I think that most people want to validated in some way or another. I would imagine that needing to be validated by people speaks more to personal insecurity, or possibly past trauma.
Seeking attention and validation is classic narcissistic behavior. Literally all of them do it.. Maybe not all women who do it are narcissists, but it's still narcissistic behavior.
Im pretty sure that everyone does it. When you tell a joke, you want people to find it funny. When you accomplish something that you worked hard on, it feels great to have your peers acknowledge that. Narcissism is excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance
Those types of attention seeking behaviors are different. Because in those situations you are contributing something, working hard is valuable, telling a joke, especially at the right time is valuable.. But posting pics online for validation has no value beyond providing the rush of having men compliment you..
I'm not ever going to change my stance on this.. It's like those that take selfies constantly, it's been recognized as a narcissistic trait.. Same thing..
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A lot of men just don't have any respect for attention whores. Especially the ones who pretend to be loyal to their man. We have a lot more respect for street hookers because hookers aren't lying. I usually skip attention whoring posts on GAG but occasionally I say something like: focus on improving your character.
You have a point, though to the people who really are attention seeking they won't care if it's positive or negative attention, both of which are easy to get especially the later because everyone is a critic
It's not the enjoying part that is the problem it is the demanding and requiring part. Ie the narcissistic personality. So it's not a problem if you enjoy attention, but if you require his or others it's bad. You should manage just fine without getting it all the time.
Exactly that’s a great point!
Too much attention seeking and validation is a sign of low confidence and low self esteem, none of which is an attractive quality to have.
Sensible people can very well spot this type of behavior and find it unattractive.
Agreed
Getting attention for being yourself and feeling good about that is one thing. Constantly seeking it out to ease some sort of void or pain is where one runs into trouble.
Well, it is being a bad wife and somewhat unfaithful to your husband to seek out the attention of other men who are going off on your looks and sexuality and sexiness and the amount of skin you are showing them and flirting and attention you give them.
Why be married if she is going to be one of these unfaithful people.
I didn’t realize existing was unfaithful. I do not demand attention, I’m not even asking for it. As a human being someone is going pay attention to you as some point. What matters is how you respond.
" I do not demand attention, I’m not even asking for it." - Yeah you were. It's clearly what you were doing. Don't sit there know and deny. The pic you posted didn't even showcase your height. It was clearly taken and rehearsed to show your face. Also YES, there is a pipeline with insecure women that leads from attention seeking to flat out cheating down the line.
@ronaldo75 Did you know that questions on GAG do better when there is a picture attached, like this one for example. Which thanks for the material and getting it on the front page. You have the right form your own opinions about who ever you want, but that doesn't make you right. Also if I remember correctly... you said " If you were some ugly whale fat ass slob I'd understand you looking for compliments from incels and losers on random website" but because you think that I am "pretty as FUCK" it's a problem? At the end of the day it sounds like you didn't like something that I posted, or the way I posted it, sounds more like a you problem.
Keep convincing yourself that I'm the problem. You contradict yourself brutally with this entire drama. You LITERALLY made a second post about ONE comment on another post from days ago lol.
1. "Firstly, why is it that some guys are so upset by the fact that some women like attention?" - You then deny you were looking for attention (which it's now brutally clear that you were)
2. "Which thanks for the material and getting it on the front page. " - You then celebrate that your post got to the front of the page (more sweet sweet attention).
So this is the woman your husband married. Some chick who the second she gets insecure (or likely bored, or you see a woman prettier than you at the local mall - you come running to the internet to get cheap easy attention from losers on the internet. NOT ONLY THAT. You then trigger and deny it when someone calls you out.
@ronaldo75 lol I just think its really funny that you are so upset by this.
I'm not upset at all. I'm typing into a box and responding to a stranger. I'm not emotionally riled up or angry or anything. I'm willing to bet you're the one who's in your feelings right now. Get off the internet and go hug your husband. This whole thing is really lame.
@ronaldo75 lol Why Im having fun, and find this amusing. Why would I stop? You already think I am a shitty person, its not like anything I could say would change that opinion. Pus I like the banter
"Pus I like the banter" - See? You need attention. Whether its some loner calling you beautiful or a hater calling out your bullshit, you want it all.
Funny I believe the whole “body positivity” movement was started by big girls who get little or no attention. Attention is literally a lifeline of sustenance for the vast majority women.
TBH men inwardly feel the same way. Actually the exact same way. But we don’t get the leeway to complain about it without looking pathetic.
It seems to me that most people are so self-absorbed and self-centered that they can't see beyond their own nose unless they want something from you. It also seems to me that most people just want to talk about themselves. They want attention on some level. It's rare to find someone who has authentic listening skills and the ability to focus on others.
I think enjoying attention and validation is the norm for both men and women. It's not a bad thing. It is what it is.
"Secondly, even if a person is attention seeking or looking for some sort of validation, why not just move along if it's not something you like? ( Seriously there is a whole category here for that specifically lol)"
Because it's the same few people posting the exact some question day after day after day, filling up the feed with spam questions (which is against the rules and is reportable) and after a while people get sick of seeing this behaviour going unpunished for literal years
Enjoying attention and validation is natural. My personal opinion is I think some men often feel threatened by women and will use any method to put them down. They surely want attention and validation too.
Shut up dumb women
Hit a nerve by any chance? And I think you mean shut up dumb 'woman' if your response is directed at me.
I think it's fine as long as you're not an attention hog. It's like one thing to step up on the metaphorical stage and enjoy the spotlight when it's your turn and another to rip the microphone away from someone else when it's theirs.
The type of woman I find obnoxious is like this, for example. I got this one acquaintance who hangs out in our social group and sometimes the conversation shifts to my wife. My friends might start complimenting her and become interested in what she does. Then this attention hog of a woman (who also tends to dress in a way that seems desperate for attention) always finds a way to interrupt the conversation and make it about her. That's going beyond seeking attention and validation to trying to deprive it from others.
It's like it's a perfectly natural human desire as I see it to want some level of attention and approval from others. I'm guilty of it every time I dress sharp to go out. I do it because I want some attention. But there's a balancing act to be had with the virtue of sharing the attention with others, and not being so greedy that we hog it up all to ourselves.
There’s nothing wrong with receiving compliments and looking good. But when you obsessively look for compliments it becomes a problem. You may think this is only a girl problem but men have it too. I got a guy friend who boasts that he’s tall as an excuse for everything. It’s as if he want other people to revere him as a god 🤣. This is when it gets to a point of NPD. But this applies more to woman. She would be like…. my big boobs cause me to carry so much weight. Like we get it you have big boobs 🤦🏻💀🤣
I think you summed it up so nicely that why not just move past such posts if you dont like it...
Unfortunately we as society just love criticising others one way or another... i mean if one is seeking attention or validation so what... its their business why not just leave them be
I wish we could change that but hey u dont need to change your ways just coz some people object...
One should live their life the way they feel happy about it
It's a narcissistic behaviour.
And guys/simps etc who keep validating and giving attention are the bigger problem.
Women also use validation to see if they could date up (monkeybranch). Also think it's okay to just waste guys time on dating apps, on dates, in person etc etc. Additionally makes them feel entitled.
Do what you like.
While also most guys are free to find these types of women as shitty quality.
THANK YOU. This is clearly what she did but wants to play righteous as if she was just asking a simple question about her height. Whenever you see questions like "Do guys like tall/short girls?", "Do guy like black/white girls?" You know some rehearsed selfie is coming and a long line of simps dumb enough to validate with compliments and adoration.
Everyone needs validation at some level.
Some of it is healthy, some of it is desperate and an indicator of deep pain and/or low self-esteem.
No I enjoy it lol. I like it when guys compliment me and a lot of the time it’s mutually harmless! As long as you’re not leading anyone on, I don’t see the problem.
Anything more than required Is offcourse annoying attention seeking is still better than getting validation in my opinion actually.
When you are doing things for validation mostly peiple over do it and constantly and people who liked it intially appraciated you for that will now despise you and call you easy.
And people also get power to manipulate you
If you want validation and people sense that from you some people will run in the opposite direction while other people will spot the void you are trying to fill and use it to manipulate you. So if you don't want to be played yes wanting validation outside world from the as opposed to getting it from within yourself is a bad thing. Everyone wants a little bight of it which you can get from those close to you that you love and trust occasionally, however seeking it from the masses means that there are psychological issues your not dealing with.
I noticed many attention seekers when on gag for so many years. Then as time went on, I noticed many on other sites and was sick over it. It only gets worse. Good news though. I found out on here on a question I had seen, That OF site no longer welcomes hoes to be paid nor porn stuff. Good deal!!!
It depends on the context, sometimes it's just weird.
But I agree, I think this website is a good place for people to show off their looks, so I always try to respond with respect and honesty to the "Would you fuck me?" types of posts.
I can see why they get upset, attention seeking leads to cheating in most cases.
I have no issues with it as long as you admit to your self that the validation you seek is narcissistic and shallow at best.
I don't think that most people who want to be validated are narcissistic. I would go as far to say the I think that most people want to validated in some way or another. I would imagine that needing to be validated by people speaks more to personal insecurity, or possibly past trauma.
Seeking attention and validation is classic narcissistic behavior. Literally all of them do it.. Maybe not all women who do it are narcissists, but it's still narcissistic behavior.
Im pretty sure that everyone does it. When you tell a joke, you want people to find it funny. When you accomplish something that you worked hard on, it feels great to have your peers acknowledge that. Narcissism is excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance
Those types of attention seeking behaviors are different. Because in those situations you are contributing something, working hard is valuable, telling a joke, especially at the right time is valuable.. But posting pics online for validation has no value beyond providing the rush of having men compliment you..
I'm not ever going to change my stance on this.. It's like those that take selfies constantly, it's been recognized as a narcissistic trait.. Same thing..
Well that I can agree, with, however I don't think that occasionally posting a selfie in a relevant context automatically makes a person a narcist.
Oh no I'm talking obsessive. I've known girls that took them constantly, like they averaged 30 or 40 a day.. And felt like they were influencers.
The attention seeking stuff becomes narcissistic and wrong when you value random guys online attention and validation over your boyfriend or husband..
Oh that I can agree with 100%