Am I bisexual, or is it just puberty?

[stupidgirlllll123]

So, for years I was boycrazy, and still am. But when I was little, if I saw a pretty girl that was older than me at school, I'd hug her (I'd see them as an older sibling type of figure), if I saw a pretty girl at the store or mall (not random girls, like the cashier workers), I'd tell her she's pretty, if I wanted to become friends with a pretty girl, I'd say I wanted to be her friend because she was pretty. Lately I've been showing some feelings towards my friends who are girls, I've had various dreams about them where I'm in a relationship with them, even sex. I only have feelings for them when I'm around them, and when I am, I want to kiss them. I confessed to my friends to get it out (I only said "I think I like you" but not the dreams I had or the feeling of kissing them because I don't wanna freak them out), but I don't know if I just want to like girls and boys, or if I actually like girls and boys. I tried coming out to my mom before and I said "I think I like girls and boys" and she said it was just puberty, and another time I was showing her the song "Space Girl" by Frances Forever, and she asked me "Is this a lesbian song?" and I said "I think so" and then she asked me, "What are you?" (as in "what's your sexuality") I said, "I don't know" she told me I should know and people who are gay, lesbian, or bi, or trans, etc, know what they are since birth. But that's not true, it took my sister about 20 years to figure out she likes girls too. But anyways, does anyone feel this way about girls?

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[readyplayer001]

you sound bi curious, at 14 you have a good amount of time to figure yourself out. it is ok to be unsure don't feel pressured. i mean check out demi moores story was married a few times, with men always now very happy with a woman, i say good for her.

[rachel776]

you can experiment and decide whenever you want

[Lillie_xo]

what you are is 'Bi Curious', cool flag
you're not going though a phase, its not puberty, you just aren't sure and there's no real way to know if you are or not unless you're one of the lucky ones like me who's just always known (as in I've always known i solely like girls)
Id recommend educating yourself a bit on this stuff and definitely ignore the people that claim its not real, it is. and keep in mind its totally possible to like two genders but be leaning more towards another
so that was the result of me trying to help !
TLDR: you might be, you might not be but ignore everybody who tries to tell you what you are.
feel free to message me as well if you want a fucking tedtalk on bisexuality
i know my stuff
(i go to my school's "gay club")

[stupidgirlllll123]

thank you. that makes a lot more sense to me.

[Anonymous]

It definitely sounds like you are bisexual.
the only other explanation I can think of is if you aren’t very attractive and you are almost idiolising these girls. Like sort of wishing you were them. For example, I grew up in a very white town. With so many blonde tanned girls in my school. And there was me, pale as a ghost with brown here, I was actually pretty but I didn’t think so at the time because the whole blonde blue eyes look was what was considered hot. I often stared and obsessed over these girls. And only would be friends with blonde girls. Never a brunette girl. Even for most of my 20s. I was obsessed with them. Not because I was attracted to them but because I wanted to be blonde. Because growing up my pale skin and brown hair wasn’t good enough.
So it’s either a desire to be pretty that makes you fantasise about these girls or you definitely are bisexual.

[stupidgirlllll123]

I do want to be pretty, but I don't necessarily want to be them. Sorry if it doesn't make sense

[Opinion Owner]

Yea It makes sense.

[bamesjond0069]

You are definitely bisexual. That being said you're definitely more straight. Relationships with men only, makeout with girls at parties and stuff like that. You will be just fine. Reason i say this is basically every girl is bisexual in this way. Girl girl Relationships are highly dysfunctional id stay away from that at all costs especially butch girls stay away from that kind of girl as well. Good luck.

[stupidgirlllll123]

Yeah, I tend to like boys more.

[bamesjond0069]

Perfectly normal. Most people won't care as long as you dont become a weirdo about it.

[stupidgirlllll123]

Yeah I'll make sure that doesn't happen

[doopayo]

You’ll figure it out, it’s up to you. Don’t let anyone doubt your questioning either, I hope that helps

[stupidgirlllll123]

thank u<3

[doopayo]

Np :)

[Jake99999]

You are too young to worry about defining yourself in this way. It’s normal for kids to have questions. Don’t let what you see on the media, on Twitter, etc make you obsess over this stuff. It’s become very trendy to get all wrapped up in these questions. You are a kid and have many years to learn about who you are. Just enjoy being a kid and don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

[weysally]

we have all been through this one way or another, I was much the same at an early age, then it was what the boys could give me, then into threesomes and swapping, and then into women as well, I am not sure were I am

[crmoore]

You may be, you may not be. Experimentation is fairly normal. But I don't think any of us can truly answer this question for you. And you may not be able to answer it right now. But as you grow up, you will gradually come to know the answer. It's just something that takes time. So feel free to think about it if you want, but don't expend too much needy trying to figure it out. Just kind of go with the flow and you'll figure it out eventually.

[Caliguy88]

Could be either way. I’d say most of my straight female friends went through a girl phase. Totally normal. And in 10 years when people are more open you will find out a lot of girls did stuff they kept secret until their 20s or 30s.

[PrettyPriya]

@lillie_xo

perhaps a good one when you have time, dear.

[PrettyPriya]

Rag @SecretsofKB too on this.

[Iron_Man]

I’m not sure you could be just confused maybe you should talk to a Christian counselor sex therapist to work out these details and get it organized so you don’t have these problems anymore

[stupidgirlllll123]

I'm okay with having these feelings, I just want to know if they're real or not.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to the Christian sex therapist he’s a professional

[stupidgirlllll123]

But I'm not Christian.

[Iron_Man]

Then that’s a problem you’re not grounded in faith then you start having issues don’t watch any more porn or lesbian porn or sexy romantic movies

[stupidgirlllll123]

I do not watch porn.

[Iron_Man]

Well that’s good stay away from the romantic movies
Concentrate on school and sports and hobbies that you enjoy

[Iron_Man]

have good positive clean thoughts and maybe this will pass soon hopefully

[iBeowulf]

All women are bisexual or gay, unlike men. Look it up. You're nasty.

[stupidgirlllll123]

If you thought I was gross then why would you answer my question?

[stupidgirlllll123]

Also, that's not true. I know lots of grown women and friends of mine who are straight. Look it up. You're nasty.

[iBeowulf]

Studies: Women who say they are straight are in fact aroused by videos of both naked men and naked women, whereas lesbians are much more attracted to the female form.

[doopayo]

@stupidgirllll123 ignore this delusional freak of nature, this is an example of how not to turn out like when you grow up ✅

[iBeowulf]

Are you calling the relevant scientists liars?

[stupidgirlllll123]

Nope. We're just calling you a liar.

[iBeowulf]

Lying is for the weak. Dr Gerulf Rieger from the Department of Psychology at the University of Essex doesn't care about your denial and irrational feelings, girls.

[stupidgirlllll123]

I don't care about him either.

[iBeowulf]

That doesn't change the truth. Deny it all you want.

[doopayo]

You saw one study and call it truth without even looking into anything else, but ok

[stupidgirlllll123]

Yeah, I feel bad for you man.

[iBeowulf]

You didn't ask for additional citations and a casual glance shows girls en masse talking about bisexuality during puberty, but not boys... it's okay to be gay.

[doopayo]

No one said it wasn’t in the first place. We support you 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🌈🌈 we Stan you finally coming out of that closet

[iBeowulf]

Me: facts and figures
You: [calls me gay]

[doopayo]

I was literally validating your experience? You said it was okay to be gay and I agreed

[iBeowulf]

[Gets hard anyway] 🦒🍆🇺🇸🎲

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@iBeowulf that would be just like appealing to authority because you cannot even explain it yourself. You want to believe it's true just because someone said so but we all know in fact that you haven't met all woman in the world and not even Gwrulf Rieger himself. It's really easy to say "because science said so" just to validate your delusions. One can just also simply say not all women are bisexual or gay because science says so.

[Explorer91]

Wtf is wrong with you. This girl is 14 leave her the fuck alone. She’s just asking a question. YOu don’t bully people underage.

[stupidgirlllll123]

@Aiko_E_Lara thank you<3

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@stupidgirlllll123 NP sweety.

[iBeowulf]

@Aiko_E_Lara
You conveniently ignored my observation of girls, on this site and abroad, talking about bisexuality, while boys don't. You're mentally inferior.

[iBeowulf]

@Explorer91
Facts > feelings

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I don't care about your observation because we all know that's an anecdote and they don't provide real data. So even if you did meet all girls for you to observe like a creep, how come you're still a live? You had over 3 billion girls to observe. But if you're only talking about this site, how many are they? 9? 10? Lol ironically, you're saying "Lying is for the weak" not realizing how ironic it is.

[iBeowulf]

Me: real data
You: that's an apeal to authority
Me: widespread anecdote
You: that's not real data
Me: I win

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Ok if you wanna play that game, anyone can also easily do it your way. I can say

You: that's an apeal to authority
Me: pointing out your logical fallacy and flawed argument
You: It's real data because it is
Me: You're still not proving your claim so I win

You think it's that easy? you're not the only one who can do that

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I presume you to be untruthful unless you prove it.

[iBeowulf]

You're just now passive aggressively asking for that particular citation. You look like and write like a soyboy, so naturally; you rely on ingratiating yourself to the weaker, dumber sex, as a subconscious mating strategy.
www.mirror.co.uk/.../women-bisexual-gay-never-straight-6777599

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And if you look at over here, it says 88% of women are heterosexual. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heterosexuality And that topic focuses on heterosexuality as a whole not some anecdotes you like to present. And out of honesty, yes I did read that article of yours. It never provided how the researches was made other than what they "observed" which is an anecdotal claim. Yet there is no proof of their observation as well. The fact that there are also so many women married to men, they're going to be considered straight by default.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And I don't need to know the exact statistic to prove it when there are way way more women marrying and having sex with men than doing thesame to other women.

[iBeowulf]

The study found that, unlike with men, women who say they're straight are in fact aroused by pictures of naked men and women. You'd know that if you read the study instead of your feelings. You're a chick with a diq at this point. Report me.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then i can also say studies found that not all women don't get aroused by other women. As it is said that 88% of them are heterosexual. That's also something you failed to read. Trying to be a hypocrite?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You're just trying to say facts don't care about feelings unless it's your feelings

[iBeowulf]

You glossed over the findings and the methodology of the study at hand, just to bring up something you drummed up out of nowhere, as an excuse for being irrational... it's not my fault you can't get laid.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then you also glossed over an anecdote when realistically, no one in the world would actually go around billions of random women just to ask them that question. And was I even blaming you if I can't get laid? As if I'm an irresponsible douche like you who can't even get one and blame anyone for their mistakes.

[iBeowulf]

Random air particles are unpredictable, but in large enough numbers they're so predictable that we stake our lives on aerodynamics.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then how is that even relevant? Is that an attempt for you to dodge the main topic? Or do you wanna prove how irresponsible you are in this argument?

[iBeowulf]

It means that although individual women are different, as you implied with your "ask everyone" though experiment; groups of women are easily predicted based on group behaviors. Building you a brain from scratch is a waste of my time, goblin.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That would also mean individual groups of women are different. The easiest thing to do is just to jump to conclusions and make hasty generalization which is also a logical fallacy by the way. And if you're so smart, you should know that. Or you're just so lazy to think that's why.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

owl.excelsior.edu/.../

[iBeowulf]

Circle back to the "large enough groups" part of my original analogy.
[Gets hopped up on red bull and plays video games on account of today being rest day]

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And which is also why I said individual groups are not the same. And that includes large groups. And not all women even want to be in groups. So I still call it a hasty conclusion and generalization

[iBeowulf]

I'm looking at all women on earth, as a whole. Brain with me.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You're already flawed because you're proving to me once again that you're doing a hasty generalization which is a logical fallacy. If it's so easy for you to say it, I can also just say not all women on earth are like that

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Other than the statistics itself, here's an article not buying anything you said. www.thecut.com/.../...re-a-little-gay-lesbian.html

[iBeowulf]

Tell it to straight women's arousal patterns, simp. You can deny it all you like, reality is fixed... get mad, fat boy.

[stupidgirlllll123]

That's it, you've been reported. If you didn't like my question, you shouldn't have answered in the first place. I don't care what you're going to say anymore, and I don't care if you don't agree with me. I asked this question for help and advice, if you don't like that, you can leave because my MHO is 24% more than yours, and you're a 34 year old man and I'm not even an adult yet. Have a nice life.

[iBeowulf]

It's okay to be gay

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@ibeowulf Then ok. I did tell that to straight women and I say all of them said they're only aroused by men. If you don't want logic anymore then I'll just argue at your level by giving lame anecdotes without any proof.

[stupidgirlllll123]

Then why did you say I was nasty then?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@ibeowulfBe Lol you keep repeating that when no one here is saying it's not ok to be gay. That's not even the main topic here.

[stupidgirlllll123]

@Aiko_E_Lara yes, thank you.

[iBeowulf]

She's gay and you're ugly. The science is clear on both.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And you're a moron according to experts at science.

[iBeowulf]

I have a high IQ and everyone knows I'm right, goblin.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And according to science, everyone knows you're a moron with low IQ

[iBeowulf]

You're just mad because you know I'm right and no matter how man hoes you rescue, none will touch your tiny peepee.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then you're just mad because of all the researches I gave. You're also just mad because of how much your own logic backfired your. That's why you keep making assumptions

[stupidgirlllll123]

Just stop. Please stop. You say that it's okay to be gay, but clearly you don't think so. Insult me all you want, but you can't insult any of my friends. So what if women get aroused by other naked women? Does it really matter? Just back off. Another person's gender, sexuality, and identity is none of your business. People are their own people with their own thoughts and feelings and their all different, and that's okay, but what you are doing is projecting that it's not okay. I'm sick and tired of people treating the queer like it's puberty and people saying that if your a girl and you kiss another girl you're going to hell. Believe what you want. I'm not going to argue with you anymore. And for all the other people with the same rude attitude and mindset, I'm going to hell because I kissed a girl in Kindergarten and I have no regrets. I'm gay and I'm proud. Deal with it.

[iBeowulf]

You incels are fighting tooth and nail to defend your stupidity and degeneracy. 🦒🍆🇺🇸🎲

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And you're just fighting out of desperation because apparently you feel so insecure being roasted by "incels"

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also insecure because of someone who's "ugly" and a 14 year old is way smarter than you.

[stupidgirlllll123]

@ibeowulfif you think you're so smart, leave.

[FoghornLeghorn99]

You're probably Bi curious.

[stupidgirlllll123]

Seems like it

[FoghornLeghorn99]

Can you follow me?

[stupidgirlllll123]

Okay

[Sabretooth]

possible.

[Sabretooth]

iBeowulf is an idiot. ignore him. Did Ashli Babbitt"s life matter? Don't unarmed, white, female protester lives matter if killed by a black Capitol Hill cop? ↗

[stupidgirlllll123]

Will do. I reported him.

[Sabretooth]

and i meant that it's possible that it's just puberty.

[stupidgirlllll123]

oh. yeah I guess that makes sense

[Sabretooth]

been known to happen.

[Yourfriend2021]

You're bi-curious.