Does anyone think that Single moms are MOSTLY at fault for getting themselves in the position they are in?

[Anonymous]

Putting aside the woman who lose their husband tragically, most single moms end up that way due to selfish/poor decision making skills of the woman. Some women get knocked up by men because they want to fulfill their biological directive to pass on their genes without a care in the world of the impact their decision will have on their child. Other women just make very poor choices in men and carry the pregnancy to term.

All in all, the decision for the child coming into this world mostly falls in the decision making of the woman in question. Sure the man had his role in transfering his role into her but outside of rape a woman played the more active role in spreading her legs for said man and carrying his child to term.

So do you think that most single moms should be the ones to take most of the blame for the situation they are in and society should stop trying to pressure young men to be a big man and raise other men's offsprings?

Yes

No

[OlderAndWiser]

1. As for responsibility, the answer applies to more than just single mothers. Almost everyone is responsble for whatever position they are in, through their choices and inactions. Some people will argue that they are a victim because they aren't attractive or they don't have money, etc., but most people are between 3/10 and 7/10, not higher, and most people find a mate. Not everyone makes $100,000 per year but most people can find a way to support themselves and their family if they try.

So, I wouldn't JUST focus on single moms. ALL of us are responsible for the direction we take in life.

2. I would not say that women are more responsible than men for bhm being single moms. Of course you can say that women made poor choices, but for every poor choice a woman made, there was a guy who was deceptive or irresponsible. This attitude that it is primarily women's responsibility is one of the factors that encourages men to be irresponsible. Use condoms or get a vasectomy or be prepared for kids and responsibilities.

3. I have dated single moms, and I have married a single mom and helped raise her children. No one forced me to do it. And, of course, no one should be forced into being a parent. The motivation for becoming a step-parent should be love and devotion, not pressure and the need to appease someone else. No, I don't think men should be "pressured" to raise children father by others, but. . . where is this pressure to which you refer? I've never seen it!

[Vegasrunner]

Odd question you're making the assumption that all single moms are unsatisfied w/ their position. There's plenty of single moms happy raising their kids w/o a man around. A lot of these questions sound like they come from guys that have very little interaction w/ women.

[True_Sage]

Hahahaha. No.
And no good men want single moms

[Vegasrunner]

@True_Sage Then you probably haven't interacted w/ enough women. Also you need to start thinking more like a man vs a female. Just because a guy bangs a chick doesn't mean he wants a relationship. Also words like "good" are subject someone may think of you as not a good man simply because you dont like single moms so I would take that out of my vocabulary and start thinking more masculine.

[True_Sage]

I'm assuming we're talking relationships that are long term. Sure I'll have casual sex with single moms.

The women happy to raise kids without fathers are ignorant fools with no understanding of Psychology or child development. Idiots that think Gilmore girls is real life. I don't care if they think single momming is trendy and awesome. They're wrong and damaging children and society.

So there you go I added more to cover your highlighted assumption. If they're glad to do it, that doesn't matter.

Anyway I'm a psychologist and had about 40 women so your assumption is incorrect. Is my number probably too high? Yeah, probably. But it doesn't really matter in this rotten society of narcissists. I might as well enjoy myself while there are so few worthy women.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, single fathers are innocent. Fathers are innocent. Men are innocent. But if there is ‘’women’’ in the sentence. They are ‘’always’’ guilty. Come onnnn… who hurt you?

[Agape93]

Still going on about this? Sounds like someone is obsessed with single moms. Do they keep turning you down for dates or something?
@PrettyPriya

[Oigit]

Single women with children blame themselves enough. I'm not going to put anymore blame on them myself. I'm also not going to put any more fault on them as well. Instead of trying to get people to side with how you think, you should think about how the people you poke fingers at are thinking

[True_Sage]

Of course it's the single moms fault. They start 70% of divorces bc they think Mememe and rarely compromise or treat their men right.

single moms have the stink of unfaithful selfishness on them. It's all about their kid and chances are they don't want more. No good man wants a single mom. It's only a desperation move. We all know they're petty judgmental and can't compromise. Red flag.

The kids say you're not my dad, and the man gets to make no decisions as mom says "it's my kid". No one wants that. Hence no one wants single moms. You don't even get to feel like a father. Waste of time that just ends in another divorce no way.

[hsshannah96]

No. No they’re not
for instance I am going to be a single mom. I never found Mr Right, but I still want children. I don’t deserve to not have kids just because I have standards and respect for myself when it comes to guys I’m dating etc. I can do IUI or other modern technology to have kids instead

[True_Sage]

Just stop being so entitled and conceited and treat a man well and you'll get one. Give up on boohoo patriarchy bs

[hsshannah96]

@True_Sage I don’t need to have a man in my life
Thanks for your concern, but no thanks. where’s the conceited ness. Men treat me cruddy, so I don’t want one in my life. It’s THAT SIMPLE

[hsshannah96]

@True_Sage I have not ever had a reason to be kind to men. I start out treating them HOW THEY TREAT ME. None have earned my respect

[s10sleeper]

I wouldn’t say it’s all their fault. I dated a girl that married a narcissist and had 3 kids together. At the start she thought he was a great guy, it was as the years went by that he became abusive. So she had to be careful who she was going to date

[KatanaSlice]

There are a lot of factors that go into it. Besides while I agree there are some single moms who are bad the fathers in these cases can be bad too. I would honestly look at it as a cases by case basis rather than simply just blaming single mothers and calling them bad.

[KatanaSlice]

Sometimes both are at fault. Other times it's the mothers fault. Sometimes it's the fathers fault.
Usually it's neither person's fault though.

[MinxDoll]

Why should she take full blame on the father leaving the family and not in the kids lives... that sounds like his fault

[MinxDoll]

Why would she take blame on his actions, he’s a grown man and needs to take some accountability

[Anonymous]

Partially, usually the guy exhibits red flags early on but she's too infatuated. Then once the infatuation dies down all of a sudden he was too cunning or changed. Either way don't feel sympathy. They brought this upon themselves.

[realshiz]

at least she decided to stay unlike the father? how is this the woman's fault. she took the responsibility.

[bgreek]

I couldn't of sad it any better
And it's true, Facts are the Facts
In the end women will hate men for it
But ohh Well!!!

[jahaims]

Seems to be the case a lot of the time. As in they get pregnant while being irresponsible and by a irresponsible man

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. It isn't how life and circumstances work in reality.

[Slim57]

Of course they are, they're ultimately the ones in control of picking these fucking losers of men.

[MinxDoll]

Some men change after awhile in the relationship and never acted that way in the beginning, why is it fully the woman’s fault on how the father acts, those r his own actions he’s a full grown man and can take accountability

[Slim57]

It's not. and they don't change, you can spot the douchebag across the room from a mile away. Guys can anyway.

[MinxDoll]

Some do change, some r narcissistic and hide who they truly r the beginning

[Anonymous]

Yes, girls are narcissist they do terrible mistakes and still feel strong and independent woman.

[Anonymous]

No my mom was single cause my father died.

[jimmy2]

Not really it take 2 to get there