I have been suffering from lonliness and I started to feel that my life is useless, I don't have any reason to live for. I don't know what should I do! and how to depend on myself again! I feel like I'm unloved and unappreciated. I feel that everybody hates me and I started to think about ending my life cause nobody cares about it. P. S. I go to a therapist and I'm taking anti-depressants and meds cause I'm suffering from a mental illness 'Paranoid Personality Disorder' PPD. I started to overcome that mental illness but I started to feel that I'm so lonely and sad, what should I do to fix that? Back then, I used to cope with lonliness and I used to prefer being alone but now I can't even bear that! I feel like I'm a burden and I can't be productive. I wanted to learn graphic design but because of that lonliness I can't find any reason to learn anything! I mean what would I learn that if I have no person to encourage me or even to improve myself for?
How to deal with loneliness and how to be productive?
We all have ups and downs. I personally love to be alone!! I don't believe you should take medication either but if you feel like it helps then that's up to you. I say try to be more positive, I know I've had moments of depression as well but it's life. Not even the happies person is always happy. We all just learn to toughen up. Start counting your blessings more too. Try to stop having negative thoughts and be nicer to yourself. Do things that make you happy. Like what helps me is painting my nails, doing a self care, taking care of my body. I know if I eat good my body and my health becomes better. Overall I feel better and positive. Sorround yourself with people who like you for you. Praying helps me a lot too and listening to worship music. Start out small, start out your morning with being thankful you get to wake up another day. If graphic design is somethign you want to pursue then do so :) don't let any negative thoughts get in your way. Having goals in life is always a good thing. I'm also here if you need someone to talk to. Life is beatiful and the storm doesn't last. You just have to shift your mindset
Omg you are sooooo young. I was lonely at 22 also! Now I am 31 and I am not lonely anymore! I made great friends and even when I don't have friends, I don't feel lonely because I love doing things in my life by myself! Why don't you find a goal; apply for a program in school; join an organization or club or honor society, take a. yoga or exercise class, do those meet ups like maybe a hiking meet up; adopt a pet, get a plant. With paranoid personality disorder; people tend to feel that people are out to get them or don't like them. That is a mental BIAS that exists within the disorder! So you need to challenge negative thoughts your mind tells you about yourself! Hang in there; you are so young things will get better!
Loneliness is all in the head, and your head is not right. Hence why you're feeling it as you are. Work with those psych and take your meds on time.
Productivity is a habit you develop over time. Obviously with your issues you've probably never been in the league to start, let alone develop.
Hence I would advise you to get into art or creative writing. Doesn't matter if you're good or not, the idea is to get you doing something you can see and quantify. This will fix some of your loneliness issues as you need to be alone to draw and write and well as help your productivity issues as you'll drive yourself to complete whatever takes your fancy.
I felt the same way six months ago. And *trigger warning* I almost ended my life back in October. The only thing I can say to you is that things do get better. I know that seems impossible and in your head you feel like no matter what happens you’ll never be happy again. But I would say just let things be and take things one day at a time. Don’t be too hard on yourself nothing is your fault. Things have to happen the way they’re supposed to happen. Follow your intuition and be open to new opportunities even if you have to force yourself. Eventually things get better. I promise you. Coming from someone who’s been through very very dark times.
I wish I had more loneliness time. I have to eat, I have to learn, I have to sleep and to work. I would be glad if the day was 50 hours long. P. S. I'm schizoid, I feel like a well fed wolf among horde of sheep. I'm not one of them, I'm don't need anything from them. Social contacts with others feels like interacting with children. Their emotional reactions are predicable and boring. Loneliness is the time I can be who I am. I don't need to pretend having emotions, interacting with others on equal level while they don't interest me. I wish I had really more time to do what I really want. I have zero desire to appease others with my presence, if I don't do that they start to turn against me. Loneliness isn't necessary bad.
My suggestion is to put yourself into work, or something creative. Don't give yourself time for idle thoughts to creep in. Try knitting. Women have been doing that for years for a reason, and it requires you to concentrate on that alone to do it right.
Here's the trick, don't submerge yourself so much that you miss the cute guy that has been trying to get your attention by flirting outrageously.
Loneliness sucks, that’s the truth. But, maybe think of why you’re lonely. For me, I realized I was longing community. I joined a gym, but still felt like I didn’t fully belong. I felt like others avoided me. So, that plan didn’t work. Instead, I signed up for an app that is intended to help you meet new friends in your area. Maybe check one out? It’s scary, but really nice to find likeminded people who are looking for friends as well. Don’t look to your current circle of people (or lack of, like me) for comfort, but expand your circle of companionship instead.
There was a night about 10 years ago when I felt like nobody really loved me or wanted me around, and I thought about blowing my brains out in the alley behind my house. I got into a big argument with my dad and brother and they were the only family I had left. I was sitting there thinking about it and then suddenly I thought "It's my life. Am I living for just them or am I living for myself, too?" Live for yourself.
First of all, talk to your therapist/psychiatrist. Maybe you need different meds. Depression and suicidal thoughts are horrible and crippling. I know it's hard, believe me I do. But try to reach out for help, other it's friends or family. Get outside everyday at least for a short period of time. Take it one day at a time and set small reasonable goals. Baby steps.
Go to a library to relax. You'll be around people but don't have to speak. Usually the staff is friendly and female. If that's comfortable for you. Libraries are usually safe places unless you're in a big city. It's a good place to get used to people.
“What could I learn that if I have no person to encourage me or even to improve myself for?”
Dude. Why the fuck do you need someone to encourage you? Or to improve yourself for? Why are you so intent on getting validation from others? Be yourself. Do what YOU want to do. Pursue YOUR interests. Do it for yourself and for your own personal development. Other people be damned.
@Lonewulf57 I don’t think it’s “tough love” to point out that the encouragement or external validation of others should play no role in the cultivation of intrinsic motivation.
I just saw an article about the navy seal who died… his fav book was mans search for meaning by victor frankl. Maybe helpful. Can start by practicing self love.
One thing no one's life is useless you might safe someone someday everyone on this planet has a purpose they to find a group to join with ppd or any group so your not lonely
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