I would say that if you are as you describe yourself then it is probably more about the vibe you give off. How open is your body language, do you give women eye contact, do you stand tall and confident, do you face an attractive woman when she speaks to you or do you talk side on? Are your arms by your side or across your chest? Do you smile at women as they approach or are you thinking "your not even going to look at me are you?" negative thoughts will leak out in your body movements, which subcontiously everyone picks up on.
Not judging- I myself had these difficulties and I would say I am fairly pretty, cute at least and my body is in pretty good shape I would say, size 4, anyway, I read a book on body language, it made me realize my body language was very closed off so both men and women wouldn't approach me out of friendship or romantic interest. Surprisingly over 90% of communication is done through unconscious body language that others subconsciously pick up on. Once I read the book and assessed my own body language and made a consious effort to change it, I very quickly began being noticed by both men and women.
Within a matter of two weeks of changing my body language I had 4 different guys approach me and ask me to go out on a date and the group of women that had ignored me for 3 years invited me out, we had a great time and they were all shocked at how much fun I was to be around, we've all gone out once a week since, it's been great.
So I guess what I've learnt is that it's not so much how "in shape" your body is or how handsome/pretty you are, it's what you do with your body that gives offf the signals as to whether your dateable.
Positve body language is key! But it took me 35 years to figure that one out! x
Initially I had to just fake feeling confident about myself to correspond with my body language, but after I started getting positive results I became naturally confident and then my body language naturally aliened with my mood.
I'm guessing because you don't make extra effort to stand out. You treat yourself as if you were invisible, and think of yourself in those terms.
Dress nicely and have good hygiene, it's mostly about personality and how smooth you are with talking to them
I have noticed the same thing.
To everybody who is saying that you need to pay attention to your appearance, how you look and act... please go back and read the question again. The issue isn't that women are noticing and then deciding that they are not interested for whatever reason. It is simply that they are totally, utterly oblivious to anything that is going on around them. They all too often are virtually unconscious.
Come on, ladies! We guys already have to do practically everything from making first contact to paying for everything all along the way. We do all the heavy lifting and take all the risks. Couldn't you at least make some kind of effort, such as turning and noticing? something, anything, don't just sit there looking at the wall like it holds the answer to the meaning of life!
you have to actually put effort into standing out every one is doing the same thing you are just sitting there watching the few people doign something. if you want attention at clubs easiest thing to do is dance and a lot of the time girls will ask you to dance or even sit at a table with some girls.
men will judge a women on her looks then personality later. while that is partially true for women the also look at the social value of a guy. a guy with lots of friends should have a good personality. you can also determine what kind of man he is from how he acts with his friends is he a sheep or the one leading every one.
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These women are lying to you. Women don’t acknowledge you because you’re not attractive nor confident enough for them to want to have casual sex with. Guys like us are just by birth to be ignored by most women, this means you’re average or below avg
Women don't like men. Haven't you figured this out by now? See those men with women? They are being used.
Why don't you try and wear some nicer clothes, fix your hair and act confident :) good luck
women mostly like men who are approachable, if not they like men who approach them, point blank.
are you acting like you are invisible? do you smile? make eye contact?
because you act invisible
Get some cash, they will notice you immediately.
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