Why do girls lose interest if a guy shows a normal amount of male interest in sex?

[Intothevoid666]

Let me give an example. I met this girl at the club we hit it off really well. 2 hours later she says “can we like fuck?” I say “yes” in a pretty excited way. I guess I’m not supposed to be too excited cuz she then says “we’ll if we get there.” And this is the only time this sort of thing has happened. So I’m confused women why is guys showing what to men is a normal amount of interest in sex a turn off?

[TrueConfection]

If you started panting and drooling, she may have had a change of heart.

[Intothevoid666]

Ok but I didn’t. Every guy wants to fuck my reaction is how most guys would react.

[TrueConfection]

Ok, good. It would have been too soon for drooling.

[MrtoddsWildRide]

[Intothevoid666]

Then how can I date one?

[MrtoddsWildRide]

Just try to seem desperate. That is the least sexy thing on Earth to them. Confidence is the key here. When she ask you that don't say anything. Answer her with a long, lingering, passionate kiss.

[Intothevoid666]

But doesn’t every guy want to fuck? How is doing what every guy wants to do desperate? Even really hot guys would likely fuck women if given the chance so idgi?

[MrtoddsWildRide]

See my first point. Never try understanding them. That way leads to madness. Instead, just know that you can want sex, but the second you say it, they won't.

[Intothevoid666]

Just pretend like ur not very interested I guess

[NathanDavis]

how high and loud did your pitch actually went?

[Intothevoid666]

I don't know tbh

[NathanDavis]

did you make her glass shatter in pieces?

[TrueConfection]

That might have something to do with it.

[Intothevoid666]

Why does this happen every time and why have my other male friends said the same thing?

[NathanDavis]

do all of you are in the same chorus?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I have never heard that before.

[Intothevoid666]

This happens absolutely all the time to me. I swear once a lot of women know u would fuck them that’s all the validation they need and they’re bored.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, maybe you’re making it seem like you’re desperate? I’m not sure.

[Intothevoid666]

How do u not look desperate compared to most women’s almost total lack of interest?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, obtaining sex as a women is probably easier compared to men… We could take it or leave it, it wouldn’t make much of a difference if we didn’t get it, because we get offered it a lot - hence the lack of interest when initiating it.

Men are typically persistent and… more desperate if they aren’t offered or can’t get sex as often. If you talk about sex or act like you would kill just to have sex, it’s a total turn off. Desperation for sex is a mood killer for many people.
If you simply say “yeah” or “sure” with a smile and a calm voice, it doesn’t sound desperate. An enthusiastic “YES!!!“ makes it seem like you have been starved from a woman’s touch lol.

That’s the best way I can try to explain things.

[Intothevoid666]

That makes 0 sense to me tbh but I guess. I’ll go with it. Pretend I don’t like sex as a guy lol.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Lol just don’t be desperate. That’s probably where things go all wrong for ya.

[Intothevoid666]

Women’s idea of desperate is a guy with a normal male sex drive tho and shows it. So just hide my normal male sex drive is really what it is. Most guys do really wanna fuck most women I don't know how it’s desperate if it’s the normal male experience. Women r just hella judgmental

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No, there’s a difference between having a high sex drive and showing it vs having a high sex drive and self control and not showing it fully.
Women know men are horny and would always take up sex if offered. We aren’t judging, but if you have no self control and we’re basically begging like a dog with a bone, it’s a turn off because it is desperate.

Almost every guy wants sex, that’s
known. Just don’t be desperate. That doesn’t mean you can’t be excited, but don’t act desperate.

[Intothevoid666]

So pretend I don’t want sex exactly.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

You’re not getting it through your thick skull lol. I’d you have control over your emotions, you won’t come off as desperate lol

[Intothevoid666]

I know showing my normal male sex drive is desperate. I’m desperate unless I hide my normal sex drive. This normal experience most men have is seen as desperate unless they hide it. I’m pretty sure I’m understanding this perfectly.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Brick wall.

[Gwenhwyfar]

She wasn’t sure if she wanted to hook up or not