Signs she is fucking someone else:
-“he’s just a friend”
-“it’s not like that”
-“I don’t think of him that way”
-“he’s like a brother”
-“I’ve known him my whole life”
“Trust me, there is no one else”.
-If she leaves out a specific name every time she mentions a group of people, she is 1000% fucking or will be fucking that person.
-“you need to trust me”
She is trying to keep you from finding out shit and wants you to stop asking questions
If she mentions a weird truth that makes you feel she can be trusted, but makes her look vulnerable. Ex: “Some random dude asked for my number today.”
Actions that show cheating 1000000000%:
-changing passwords
-talks about someone more than normal
... then stops talking about them completely.
-hiding phone or being protective of it
-telling you something that makes them look like they’re trustworthy about another male.
(“Kevin asked if I wanted a coffee, ew he is gross.”...) she is deflecting from something else
-deleting text messages/emails or letters
-hanging out with people or doing something not ordinary more often.
-doing anything she has to hide.
-Gets angry when you ask basic questions (where were you)
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I can see your concern, if everyone canceled and I had a girl and it was just me and some other girl, I'd cancel too, I wouldn't care if the other person got ready, the study group was canceled, if most people cancel then that means the study group is canceled, it bothers my girl and that would be my number one concern, seems to me like she put his happiness over yours in this situation and I'm just a paranoid person in general but that shit would rub me off wrong in this position, it's not even about trust at this point anymore, because if this happened to her I'm sure even if she trusts you, she would be concerned, it's not about the trust for your partner but more on what the other person is going to try on my partner, I'd trust my partner, I wouldn't trust him, I have no reason to trust him, he isn't a friend, he isn't a brother, he is a stranger and you know damn well ima trip, girls say you should trust them when the distrust isn't even on them, it's about the other person, he can grab her and rape her if he was crazy enough and this is what women don't understand when their partner trips about situations.
As someone in the healthcare field and working on becoming a nurse, flirting is common. Literally all of the men at my job ask me out on a date. Even doctors. Healthcare is one of those fields where you’re around each other so much that flirting is inevitable. Shows like Greys Anatomy are legit when it comes to workplace flirting/everyone sleeping with each other. If you don’t trust your wife, mention to her what’s bothering you.
Though I always believed that if someone is accusing you of cheating, they’re the ones cheating so how she perceives you bringing it up to you could be extremely negative and create problems within the marriage.. esp if she’s not cheating.
Unless there are other, more concerning instances between them then based off what you’ve provided, I don’t see a problem. Cheating is a big accusation, and you want some solid evidence to back it up before even thinking to suggest something like that. Her and a classmate appearing to have some chemistry, coupled with them opting out of the study session or whatever just isn’t enough to create trust issues. You’ll quickly find your relationship in shambles because no one likes to be accused when they aren’t doing anything wrong. Wait to see if some solid proof pops up, but unless that happens then it’s better not to create an issue where there isn’t one.
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Going through her phone was over the top. It just sounds to me as though you are just paranoid. It is o. k to be concerned, but when it gets to the extent of invading privacy, something has got to give. You need to trust and have faith in her. If the two of you have a good solid loving marriage, there should be no reason for you to be concerned about her behavior. But also something else to consider. What was your past like? Did you have a string of relationships that didn't work because they cheated or just failed? Past occurrences can catch up with some people, and in the long run cause damage or interfere with their personal life.
Personally it sounds SuS & if your gut saw their interactions as off shit could be looking scary or it is scary. Both canceling and then deciding to go anyway to probably meet separately somewhere else. I'd check her for it.
Personally I would never date a nurse i worked in the hospital doing security for a long time & so many married nurses were caught in the parking lot with dr's other nurses or staff, even a few of my co-workers dipped into some married dr's and nurses. I have also done my fair share of sleeping with married woman in the past.I would give her an ultimatum. She would either need to put my mind at rest or we break up. If she wants to break up then I would know she's been cheating.
Before anyone says of that would backfire.. no I don't agree. If I'm being cheated on I would want to knowInvite the study group to your residence and cook and study…as a SURPRISE for your wife…like an apology. Extend hospitality.
-The NEXT time you are around them suggest that to individuals and get contact information.
-set-up as apology-surprise for Wifey. Birthday would be killer…free cake, ice cream…beer.Has she ever given you a reason to suspect she is not loyal? If not then you may be looking too deeply into this. What you should do is talk to her. Do not sound like you are accusing her of cheating. Phrase it so that you can express what about their interactions is making you feel uncomfortable and talk them feelings out. How she reacts to that should give you your answer and it is not a dishonest tactic.
I went to grad school after I was married and used to socialize with a few of the people in my classes. We did projects together and sometimes studied together. Occasionally we would go out for drinks. There were a couple of girls in the group. They were pretty nice looking too but nothing ever happened.
I think you both should sit down and have a heart to heart. You’ve brought somethings to her attention but really allow her to see how it’s bothering you. If it comes from a place of love, not possessiveness she should understand.
You can't stop a woman from cheating... you can't let her see that it bothers you, she'll lose whatever respect she has for you and she will see you as less of a man. Then she'll definitely cheat. Go out and make a female friend and throw it back at her
She met a man alone at a bar without telling you. That is 100% wrong and inappropriate and id demand she drop that class. She can pick it up next semester and if that messes up her plans then too bad so sad. Otherwise she can be a single mom.
I've seen less signs than this in a similar situation that ended badly... But then if you don't have proof it's hard since cheaters are meant to hide tracks and gain the trust of their supposed partner. Maybe offer your place to invite them over and if the guy refuses to be friends or acts awkward then you can be more alert. Let's hope she's being truthful
She was more concerned with him being let down than she was with what you would think if it got back to you. Can you imagine if the roles were reversed here?
Your job is to do the best you can to be what she needs.
It's not your job to stop her from cheating.
You can't do it.
If she is interested in someone else, your spying is
going to drive her to him.You have a legit concern, but from what it sounds like, you're not even telling her your concern and the reason why. Just go ahead and say it bro
"Didn't think it was a big deal" already makes me wonder what's up. Sounds like she doesn't really care about your worries and won't even try to reassure you. Sounds like a cheater.
Almost all women cheat, so yes, she is probably doing that. Either get used to it or divorce her because she will not stop.
go with her next time... you never get to see her, you hate being left at home, and Afterall, it's just "drinks"
Better you both discuss about this matter, and go to conclusions, as far cheating is concerned, anyone can cheat, not only nurses
Start writing this stuff down in case you need to see a lawyer and recording her suspicious behavior
This is retarded. If you don't trust each other, break up
Yes you should be cause she is your wife mother of your kid a side chick or a girlfriend
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