Tips on how to love yourself/be happier?

[crazycactus242]

Recently I’ve been extremely down. All of high school I’ve felt alone. I lost more and more friends each year and now that I graduate in a month, the reality is that I need to be there for myself. I want to be happier, but I pick myself a part in the mirror everyday. I have a cynical attitude towards everything and I’m burnt out. I want to go on a self love journey, I don’t want to feel bad about eating or constantly feel the need to say mean things to myself. I just don’t know where to start.

[aiioii]

I don’t know if that’s exactly what you asked for, but personally for me a thing that made me happier as a person in general was starting to appreciate the little things.
Taking a walk and noticing it’s a really nice day. Eating an apple and actually noticing it and how good it tastes. Smiling at a kid that looks at you in the street (and they smile back and say hi and it’s the nicest feeling in the world). Being nice to the elderly. All these little things. Basically romanticizing not just your life, but life in general.

[D4nielv]

Self-love starts with accepting who you are right now, even accepting the things you're struggling to accept and dislike about yourself. Once you can hold space for all the feelings and emotions that come up, even the ones you'd rather look away from, you're well on your way on this journey.

[crazycactus242]

Thankyou :)

[D4nielv]

If you're struggling with anything specific, feel free to message me. If I have time, I might sit down and talk with you about it.

[Anonymous]

Seems like you have a pretty good idea already, you just need to be aware of how you are viewing and speaking to yourself etc and adjust where necessary to be a positive, loving and supportive influence instead of bringing yourself down etc.

[Guy13]

Focus on helping other people like old people at nursing home and things will turnaround and you will be happier

[D4nielv]

This is like taking antidepressants. If you do this, you're externalising your source of fulfilment. If that's enough to get you going and work on yourself, there's great, and you can use it as a crutch. If not, you're only making things worse for yourself.

[Cubus]

Start thinking everything happens for a reason. You exist for a reason, all you do happens for a reason. Someone there have a plan for you.