Girl "dumper" regrets? When and why?

[Anonymous]

Ladies, so you date a guy and he's amazing for you. He's attractive, he's a total gentlemen and opens doors, pays for stuff, covers all the "small stuff" bases. You dumped him because you are immature and can't see past petty fights about stuff. You have "moved on" and are seeing other people, but just a month ago you wanted to marry your ex and were discussing a life with him. These new "people" you're seeing are clearly rebounds. So I wonder, do you go crawling back to your ex when they don't work out? Or why else?

[rdr005]

How early did she say she wants to marry you and stuff? People do crazy things, and say crazy things when in the heat of the moment. At such a young age, many people have no idea what love is and don't really know what they're saying when they say they love you and want to marry you. Some people think its just supposed to be said. But if she moved on, then you should do the same. Don't bog yourself down with her. You really wanna be with someone that can't commit to you and look past the petty fights? Relationships are all about fights, so she's gonna need to mature if there's any hope for a successful relationship.

[thetheme]

Girls never regret leaving a guy that was good for her. It's a womans' nature to hurt a good guy. Girls don't go running back because they are always being chased by guys, and when they break up with a guy using excuses they already have someone else. Girls are always looking for someone better and always searching for something "wrong" with someone that's good to them. By the way. It's not about being a "gentleman", and girls are always scared of commitment. The main reason why a woman stays with a guy is because there is a equal trade of value somewhere, no more no less.

[Asker]

Never thought of it like that.

[thetheme]

Girls KNOW who the good men are, they reject them, ignore them, hurt them, leave them, dump them, and it's all for amusement. Then they have the nerve to talk bad about men when they are hurt or dumped and try to play victim. Guys aren't born jerks and bad boys, they turn into them. Why? Because of experiences like this, and by the way, it gets the girls. Plain and simple. Men that do all the good stuff is too easy and no challenge, girls love conflict and drama to keep things "interesting"...

[JanJan]

Wow, you've just got it all figured out, haven't you? I get the feeling that you don't like us very much, if this is what you believe. Well I hate to pull the curtain on reality, but people are people. Not all women are the same, and we certainly are NOT all like the person you described. Don't try and know exactly what a person's personality is when you really have no clue what it's like to be them. Men and women can be like this, or they can be opposite.

[JanJan]

So are you saying that men are always innocent and women are always the bad guy? Give me a break! The world isn't black and white, buddy. Men and women have the capacity to become good or bad people. Women can "turn into" jerks just like men can, but there are also many good women out there. Don't put down half of the entire world's population based on what you attempt to understand. I'm very sorry if you were hurt in the past, because that just sucks. But don't blame that on ALL women.

[thetheme]

There is a major difference. When a guy approaches a girl, he is instantly picked apart reguardless. When a guy ignores a good woman he gets put in the dog house. There are many women that say that many men are the same and that carry the past to their present, and that's OK. Also, it doesn't change the fact that women know where the good men are and who they are and make excuses not to be with them. No one said the word "all", but the vast majority are this way, and that's a fact.

[thetheme]

And by the way. Men are put down all the time and generalized by only looking for "one thing". Many women complain about the jerks after they get hurt by one, but guess what, they still ignore the guys that are great. Do guys do it too, yes they do, but that wasn't the subject. Guys don't get the sympathy that girls get. It starts with the girls. If "nice guys" were the ones chosen, more guys would be that way. Guys just have to go with what works, and that's all I was telling him to do.

[Annnnnna]

No, some girls actually don't like when the guy does everything for them. That may be why they broke up, in which case she'd rather be independent and won't ever go back.

[thetheme]

It's not about guys doing everything, it's about guys being left for someone else after he did all the "right" things then he is given excuses, and girls don't regret it. Guys do this too, but girls are given the free pass about it and guys are not.

[Anonymous]

They may not clearly be rebounds. My ex dumped me and a week later started dating some new girl that I thought was a rebound. It's been almost 2 years and they're still together =/

[DarknSuave]

Lol I find it hilarious that girls always complain about never being able to find a good guy, and when they finally get that opportunity of a life time they throw it away. The guy gets crushed and turns in to another one of those "Bad guys" they always seem to attract. You turn us into the a**holes we are today :) Don't play with fire, and expect to not get burnt.

Have fun ladies ~

[moloz]

Nah. If girls initiated the break-up, they've moved on before they actually broke it off.

[Asker]

Just doesn't make sense. I mean she legit told me she loved me and blah blah blah and wanted to marry me.. Just doesn't make sense.

[moloz]

I dunno, I just stated my own experiences.

[knowmeyourself]

Not true. She might had to leave like in my case. I loved him but I was mistreated so I had to leave.

[lecavlier]

I treated my ex girlfriend great but she left me because she lost interest. I don't know what to believe from girls anymore, next time, don't give in to a relationship too easy, I sure as hell wont.

[lecavlier]

sry I didn't really answer your question