Girls, Why is she initiating conversation with me a lot she doesn't know me well?

[Anonymous]

She and I have gotten closer and more comfortable with each other. I do really like her too

[Anonymous]

This the girl at your job?

[Asker]

No this isn't

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok, this situation just sounded similar to one I talked with another dude about a few days ago. To answer your question though, it sounds like she’s just trying to make a friend. This isn’t me saying that she couldn’t like you back, it’s just this doesn’t seem like enough to tell if she’s mutually interested. I know personally I do the same thing, I just gravitate towards certain people, and when they’re easy to talk to I become fond of their company. But I don’t have romantic feelings behind it.

[Asker]

What about the fact that she works in a coffee shop and I'm a customer. She just started acting overly excited to see a guy she didn't know. Like it was definitely overly friendly as I know cause I work in customer service myself. Then she accepted my Facebook friend request. She is asking me all sorts of questions on a personal level like where i grew up, who I went hiking with, complimenting my haircut and saying it looks nice. I tried just stepping back and minding my own business, and she still started conversation with asking how my family lunch was

[Opinion Owner]

The first part of what you said, like her acting overly nice, doesn’t sound like a good indicator, and I don’t mean to keep putting myself into the situation but I think of my characteristics and they’re very similar, especially in customer service I’m super bubbly. I’ve also added a few customers on social media, so that one doesn’t seem like the best hint either. However, the carrying on back and forth asking all those questions could definitely be a good sign, because she could’ve simply added you then left it at that, but to be engaging like that could be a positive indicator! Although I must add that if you are interested, then maybe you should invite her out somewhere and see how she responds. We miss 100% of the chances we don’t take, and if you don’t make a move, someone else with the bravery to do so will, and steal your chance.

[Asker]

She even started doing heart reactions on a post I did. It was a photo of my family. She and I have been talking in person fr 30min whilst she is working. She was the one you started giving me the biggest smile and wave from the back kitchen when she didn't have to. When we first started talking it was strange, it was like we already knew each other

[Opinion Owner]

So if you feel like there’s chemistry, why don’t you make a move?

[Asker]

Do you think there is a chance that she likes me

[Opinion Owner]

I think the better question is if you’re willing to take the risk. For each thing I’ve said, you’ve come back with a list of things you feel show interest on her end. With that knowledge, it simply doesn’t matter what myself or anyone else thinks — if you think there’s a chance, then don’t let it pass you by. There are worse things than rejection, like missing your shot completely because another guy wasn’t so hesitant. Sure you could talk yourself out of asking herself out because you want a blatant green light, and I get that, it helps with confidence. But 9/10 a girl is going to be too shy to give you clear indications like that.

[Asker]

You have a point. At first my gut feeling is something is going on cause we've just clicked suddenly for no apparent reason it was all natural. I can feel we both enjoy each other's company

[Asker]

Even well I said " I'll let you get back to work I don't want to get you into trouble". She says " oh no it's fine I'm just cleaning"