Do you absolutely have to know why someone didn't pick up your call?

[Anonymous]

I have a female friend who likes to talk at 1 AM or call me randomly to talk about stuff. That's fine and all, but sometimes she hits me up during "me" time. I don't answer because I gotta take care of business first and that makes her curious as to why I didn't answer. I just tell her I was sleep or gaming, but lately she has been aggressively questioning me. She cross referenced my Steam account and discord activity to call me out about not being sleep or gaming. Like bruh why does she wanna know so bad? I'm gonna just tell her I'm trying to nut and be done with it because she's putting too much effort into this lmao.

[river23]

I'm not gonna lie, and this is just me it might not apply to other woman but when people ignore my call my antisocial side is a bit happy but a bit disappointed and then the just me side is a bit sad because I know people have lives so I try to call when I know or think their available and if they don't answer I believe they have a reason and yes I will probably ask why they didn't answer and if they didn't wanna tell me if accept that, but if their was ever a time I truly needed someone to talk to and I didn't have anyone else I could go to or didn't trust them I would be upset they didn't answer but again I'd just tell myself they have a reason it's probably a bad habit or trait I have but I really just need someone sometime and growing up and in school I'd never ask for help or bother anyone because the first few people I asked who I knew and was friends with never had time or just didn't care or wanna talk to me or hear my issues so I started keeping them to myself so I've been trying to be more open like my best friend suggests but I feel bad whenever I bother someone even if I truly need them at that moment because what if what they were doing was more important especially to them so I just leave it be and if I need someone now a days I come on here anonymously or I go else where because I hate the feeling of being a burden or problem or messing up someone's day so I leave it or I just talk with myself and figure it out or cry on my pillow I don't bother anyone anymore because I'm confused with them and my own feelings so I just leave it be at least until I can figure myself out.

Sorry I got to caught up in what I was saying if you guys don't like what I said I will remove it but for the time being I'll leave it because why not.

[Lillylux22]

Female friend, not girlfriend? No has absolutely no need to know what you’re doing and i would feel very put off if a friend stalked my online activity. Now if she was a girlfriend, basically same answer, except, i use past experience to judge when a good time to reach out is. Like i have something i could use his help with this morning, so i sent him a message for it. But i know his scheduling so if he doesn't show up within the first hour after waking up and responding, i already know whats up.

[MysticDevice]

Nope. If they don't answer I just figure they're busy and let it be. They'll call back if/when they can.

I do know someone that will and has lost their shit cause our other friend didn't answer the phone when he called her. I kid you not, he screamed at her in a parkingot over it.

I don't associate with him anymore

[Fireguy17]

No, I don't hear it very often, or it's on my dresser or in the truck or in my fire gear.

I've never lost a phone, it just isn't that big of a deal if I have on me or not.

It's just a phone.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Nah.

I sometimes miss calls and I don't expect people to put their lives on hold for me on a regular basis or just for a phone call.

Sometimes I don't feel like chatting, and that's my right.

You gotta draw boundaries and maybe block or control what this girl can see on Steam/Discord.

She might also be assuming you're sexually or romantically interested and so that's why she feels entitled to your time and status. Which, even if yes, yikes. Red flags on her everywhere.

[MoniqueTLC]

You don't need to explain yourself. She doesn't respect boundaries and that you do have your own life.

All she needs to know is that if you don't answer when she calls, you're clearly busy. She's probably insecure and might think you're ignoring her calls on purpose because you don't want to talk to her, which is why she's checking out if your excuse is 'valid.'

[GreatBigCircles]

Setting personal boundaries is important in any relationship. Don’t be smarmy, just tell her that she needs to respect your personal space and time. If she is concerned about something that’s so important she feels the need to interrogate you, she should be able to respect your time enough to explain what it is that’s concerning her.

[Ukrainianbuddafly]

I understand insecurity and trust issues if that is truly what's at play here. If she is your girlfriend (and not just a friend) I'd talk to her and explain so her mind doesn't wander. Assure her. If she is a friend I'd distance myself and not explain anything. Stalking regardless of who the person is to you is ridiculous and wrong. I know as women sometimes we may use that to check in to ease our mind (or solidify our assumption depending on intention).

[Anonymous]

Jesus christ. I dont even deal with that from a significant other. I'm definitely not putting up with it from a "friend". Such creepy snooping behavior from a friend is super weird. Who gives a shit what you were doing? It's your life. You don't owe her an explanation

[Anonymous]

You should speak up and say you don't appreciate her cross referencing your stream account or her questioning you. Make it known you aren't in a relationship with her and you aren't married and that sometimes you have to have some alone time. If she doesn't understand this might be best to dump her as a friend

[Distorted]

No! I've thought about why someone might dodge my call. I understand that everyone has their busy times. In fact, I reject or ignore calls all the time when I don't feel the importance. Sometimes, I don't even call back later

[CA4444]

She’s probably thinking you’re lying to her for some reason or another otherwise why would she be angry (tahts probably her fault by the way, neediness, jealousy or whatever)

[BlueScorpio]

Ugh maybe sometimes just out curiosity but not all the time. She may be doing that cause she feels like you might not want to talk to her or blowing her off.

[Light909090]

Just Tell her You we’re Jerking off when she does that. If I was experiencing that and Some girl always wanted to talk to me and then accused me and said those things I’d tell her I was jerking off

[Jamie05rhs]

She should have texted you first to see if you were available to talk. I don't tolerate people randomly calling me, either. I'm not the 24/7 concierge.

[PeteBy]

Been there. Woman who can't decide if she wants you but won't let another have you.

[QuietVerbena]

Just tell her the truth. Or tell her you’re reading.

[petitedollbabee]

Nah. I’d just assume that they’re busy and couldn’t pick up my call.

[WonderBell99]

Next time she does it, tell her you had to take an explosive shit

[Ehjoh1]

I think she's just much too insecure to accept you might be so busy instead of purposely avoiding her. Maybe talk to her about it in a calm matter and let her know you don't do this on purpose.

[FilmGuy93]

Nah... especially not if the call happens at an odd hour.

[sheikalana]

I don't really care as long as they call me back at a more convenient time.

[Lincoln33]

Yeah insome cases the person might be in trouble but in the other way, you shouldn't because it mint to his free time and you will have to respect that

[TacosRAwesome]

No. I'm not an idiot and know people have lives. Your friend sounds annoying tbh.