Why is my crush acting really rude and disrespectful to me?

[Anonymous]

There's a girl in my class that I like at the moment and she acts really strange. One moment she would ask me where I live or ask me questions but often she would be really rude. She seems to really like talking to other boys and never me. One day they were talking about a TV Show we both really liked but when I try to talk about it she would act really rude in front of me like she didn't want me around. She also gets really nervous or maybe scared when she's around me that she has to leave and walks away. She would be adjusting her clothes and hair. When she sees me she likes to talk to other boys in front of me and dismisses me. When I walk home with her and her friends she'd stand on the other side of her friends and become 'panicky'. She would also get up close to other boys when she sees me. I think it's really rude. What's going on.

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Her behaviour is so confusing. Sometimes she'd be around me like white on rice whilst I'll be avoiding her. I remember once when I was in class and she would sit literally opposite me, she could've sat on the other side of the room also she would stand directly near me and lean in close.

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After ignoring her and mirroring her actions. She sat near me in class (Why would you sit near to someone you find creepy) and then butts into a conversation with my friend as we were talking about a girl on my Instagram story I hung out with. Why would she act 'warmer' and act interested in my conversations and sit near me if she is 'creeped' out around me? Playing games?

[Yuushiro]

It's impossible to give a certain answer without knowing both of you personally, but here's a piece of advice that you should always remember:

"Everybody, especially women, act entirely different around other people."

What is likely happening is that she is becoming more socially conscious and for whatever reason doesn't what to be associated with you. It's also possible that she recognized that you like her and is trying to politely tell you that she's not interested.

If you want to know what's up, get her alone for 2 minutes and just be honest and ask her why she's acting like that toward you. Also DO NOT mention that you like her at this point. That would guarantee that she says no.

If you want her to like you, you need to gain her trust and respect first. When you pull her aside and talk talk her privately and don't do anything weird, it will show that you can trust her. By speaking calmly and maturely and confronting her in a respectful qnd confident manner, she will likely respect you more.

If you do this and it goes well, wait a few days, talk with her a couple times, and then ask her to work on a small project with you. It doesn't matter what as long as she says yes. Use this as an excuse to get her phone number.
Meet up to wworkon the project, do the project. Then ask her to go to startbucks with you (or something similar). Don't think of it as a date. Please. It's just getting a treat after finishing a big project. Talk with her while at Starbucks and just banter.

This is how you converse in case you blank in the moment.
You Ask a question
She responds to question.
You comment on her response
You ask a related question.
Etc.
If she just starts talking let her talk until she runs out of things to say and then comment on what she said and ask a question.

At this point she'll probably like you on some level.

Just realized I went way overboard in my response but I hope this helps. Feel free to ask if you need anything.

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[RangerBlue22]

Well you are dealing with a teenage girl and your a teenager yourself. Also it sounds like she is feeling a mix bag of excitement and nervousness that you have a crush on her.

Anyway you have to understand your mind is not thinking clearly when she is around. It’s releasing different chemicals because 1) you like her 2) you are worried about she feels about you. That’s natural but can be counter productive if you let it be.

She’s testing you and she doesn’t even release it. All women test men. If they really like you then 1) their tests will usually be easy to pass 2) they might exhibit behavior like your seeing above because they want to see how you handle it.

Anyway you need to treat her no differently then you would treat a bratty sister or another female your not interested. Think about it: if a different girl who you had no feelings for acted this way would you tolerate it or even care? You would probably just ignore them or have a quick comeback for their sass. You wouldn’t feel any jealousy if you saw them talking to other guys. That’s how you have to look at her.

Anyway you need to ignore her. I do realize that’s easier said then done. However I am about 90% sure that if you ignore her for a good 2 weeks she will likely later try to get your attention again (and be nicer about it).

When that happens just say “if you want to talk let’s exchange numbers”. by the way you don’t have her number you have nothing (social media connection don’t count). That’s the acid test. If she gives it to you then she’s interested. If she doesn’t she’s a selfish attention seeking little B and you need to ignore her at all costs.

I would recommend reading this book

[RangerBlue22]

I can’t post links yet. But anyway Google Corey Wayne’s “how to be a 3% man”.

[Asker]

I'm reading that book at the moment :) Remember 10-15 times. Way of the Superior man and The Manual: What Women want.

[RangerBlue22]

^** excellent. I am not going to promise you Corey is a God. However he will give you much better direction on all of this. The hard part is putting his principles in action but I can’t tell you what I would give to have his advice at your age (or even my early 20s).

Anyway how old are you? There are some grown ass adults who said some very rude and inappropriate things to you on this thread (I yelled at them for it).

Don’t listen to them and don’t let their comments get to you. Not all adults are smart. Some of them actually get dumber as they get older.

What you are feeling is very natural and normal. She’s feeling emotions (for better or worse) that are natural as well. If she was mature (and she’s not but she’s a kid) she would of kindly told you “thx but I am not interested” or if she does like you but her feminine shit testing instincts are on full throttle. It’s unfortunate natural for women to do that but men have to 1) recognize it 2) react appropriately. However like you she’s just a kid so I’m not surprised. Common for teen girls to do that.

Anyway she would of never asked you questions or talked to you at all if she never liked you. I can’t promise you that she still likes you. But the only way to find out is stop giving her any attention for a few weeks. How she reacts will give you your answer.

[Asker]

Thanks. I just turned 17 and she's 16. I just figured out recently that I should just do exactly what you told me. Her actions just really confuse me, still have a lot to learn. Is it common for some girls to act 'standoffish' or rude around guys they like sometimes? I think it was a couple months ago my friends caught her checking me out and then blushing, I thought it was my imagination but then my friend told me that, "Oh she looked you up and down!" and then she would act completely distant. Then again that's what she felt in that moment only.

[RangerBlue22]

Hmm. Well she’s quite immature. I don’t want to get your hopes up but it sounds like she has a massive crush but is playing hard to get.

Women often play hard to get because they themselves are turned on by challenge (hence why so many of them love assholes) and they think that’s what is going to turn guys on.

Anyway you do hold power and this how much attention you decide to give her or not. If you deprive her of that it will force her to change tactics and hopefully start talking to you and being nicer about it.

“It’s a scientific fact a woman is more attracted to a man whose feelings are unclear”.

- Corey Wayne

Anyway if she does come around and approach you that’s the time to make a move. You need to ask for her phone number and tell her you would like to get to know her better.

However if she refuses to give you her number then it’s time to cut her off and not look back.

“The strongest position at the negotiating table is to be able to walk away and mean it.” - Corey Wayne.

Also there is a possibility she had no interest in you at all anymore. I know that sucks and it’s heartbreaking. But have yourself mentally prepared for that possibility. If you ignore her for a few weeks and she doesn’t give you any attention (any positive or negative) than that could be the case. In that scenario just take it as a learning opportunity and congratulate yourself for leaving with your dignity/self confidence. That’s much better than having things come to a head and having her or her friends telling to get away from her (bad)

Anyway you only have one choice at this point to get your answer: ignore her. It’s easier said than done but I believe in you. She will show her true colors one way or another at some point.

[Asker]

I've been implementing it now and it's hard but definitely also freeing. Out of sight and out of mind. I've been noticing that she's been starring at me a lot more. When I'm out I go elsewhere and she just looks at me when I walk off.

[Asker]

I'm ignoring her and she's acting weird. We have a class together and I wasn't there during lunch so she didn't see me at all. Since I was there late she was looking around until she saw me arrive and walked in. I went in class and instead of sitting away from me she sits near me and beside a door. One of my friends then brought up a girl that was in my Instagram post and asking questions. I said I don't kiss and tell. Then the girl decides to butt in to our conversation and giggle. Now, if you found someone creepy why would you even sit near him and butt into the conversation. I also think I caught her starring using my peripheral. She also sat by the door and as I was about to leave she got up immediately and starred at me and my friend. I just walked out and didn't acknowledge her. Do you think she's playing games then?

[RangerBlue22]

I don’t see you following me yet.

Anyway it looks like what I predicted the entire time. She’s most likely has a huge crush and doesn’t know how to handle it. Women get so wound up in their little heads they end up self sabotaging themselves. They have feelings but are afraid of losing their power.

Anyway I would keep ignoring her BUT if you so happen to meet her alone it’s time to get direct. Just say “Hey I liked you and I wanted to get to know you better. So if your interested can I get your phone number? If your not than I will just let you be. No hard feelings”.

It’s difficult but women expect you to be direct at the RIGHT time. But don’t go chasing her to say that. Only say it if she comes to you or you coincidentally find yourself one on one with her somewhere. But don’t chase her down to say that.

I know this game is bullshit and it sucks. Wish it was easier. But you are doing good. But remember if you don’t have her phone number than you have NOTHING. If she likes you she will give it to you. If she doesn’t she won’t. If she gives you any wishy washy bs excuse whatsoever after giving it to you then she’s not interested. For the first step in dating it all comes down to her giving you a way to personally contact her.

[Asker]

Following you now 'Guyao'

[Asker]

You have to go to settings and privacy then untick the ' Allow messages only from people I follow'.

[Smartgirl_hey]

@Asker On your recent update, I understand that you might felt bad for mentioning it as creepy. I didn't mention it in negative sense. But she might have felt it. But when you mirrored her behaviour, she started falling for you because now she's feeling that she started to lose you. Since you mentioned about another girl, she got jealous on her and now is trying to know what is happening between you and your new girl. She is missing your attention and she clearly doesn't want you to get interested in another girl. Her behaviour is confusing because she is confused about her feelings on you at starting but now realising your value, so trying to see if she have a chance with you again. But since you moved on already, you can kindly let her know that you are not interested as before but don't be so harsh on her as you might look like taking a revenge. Just be honest with your actions without being much aggressive. And simply ignore her and focus on your new girl. If you want to get back with this past girl only and if you still haven't moved on from her yet, you can try using the suggestions that I gave you earlier. Finally it's your choice to make a decision. Don't make a wrong decision. Take a right decision that you want to take. And understand that some people won't always be the same, even if they hate you before they can start loving you the next minute. Some people are confusing but slowly they will become sure of what they want. If you want to be with those kind of people, you need to tolerate some unpleasant things that you don't like, as her past behaviour. You need to give some time to her till she gets clarity. If you don't like staying with confusing people, you can simply stay away from them and pursue the right girl whom you think is right for you

[RangerBlue22]

@Smartgirl_hey hey smart girl why don’t we be smarter next time and think twice about using the word “creepy” before passing judgment on everything that is going on (especially when talking to a 17 year old).

The word creepy is ALWAYS negative when a woman says it about a man. Always. Only use it when you know beyond a reasonable doubt he truly did something wrong.

Anyway I know you owned up on misjudging that. But lots of other females (most them adults) assumed the worst about this kid as well. It they just assumed this other girl’s behavior was automatically justified and she was “the victim”. As you can see now there was more to the story.

Amazing how these young girls crave challenge. No way she would have sat next to him if he kept giving her attention.

Anyway she’s only 16 so I guess her weird behavior comes with the territory. At this point I think he’s better off moving on period regardless if she likes him or not. She’s too much trouble.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're acting creepy. Look at your own behaviour. Maybe your behaviour is making her scared off. Look at your behaviour if it's looking freaky and try to be normal before her and don't show too much interest on her at once and take things slow. Don't smile at her right when you see her. Look serious but not too serious. And you also talk with other girls in front of her and casually talk to her after you speak with other girls in front of her. This would make her feel comfortable. And also make her feel safe and don't be too pushy and don't touch her without her permission. And let her understand that she can trust you. And let her adjust herself to you. Then try being friends with her instead of directly showing romantic feelings on her. Being friends with her first will make her less frightened about you. Then she will start trusting you. But don't misbehave with her in any chance. Take things slow. Respect her feelings. Make her feel protected. She will then start trusting you. You can slowly ask what's her opinion about you. And take things forward if she's interested or else respect her decision and stay as friends with her by not being very pushy if she doesn't reciprocate your interest. If she's interested and if she reciprocates, then you're lucky. And never break her trust in her life and take care of her and make commitment with her throughout your life and have good intentions on her not to cheat on her or break her trust so that she might leave you and never trust you again

[RangerBlue22]

It’s possible she doesn’t like him. But from the looks of it she’s trying to play games to make him jealous.

Teenage girls are usually way ahead of teenage boys on “the game”. He’s not yet experienced enough to see what’s going on.

But she would of never been asking him questions like she was earlier if she seriously disliked him. She wouldn’t talk to him at all and completely ignore him the entire time. I say she’s testing him.

[Opinion Owner]

@RangerBlue22 According to his update : yes, she acts confusing. She might seek his attention but isn't willing to take things as fast as he wants to. He should take things slow. Normally girls do like this when guys acts too pushy. Taking things slow works

[RangerBlue22]

From what I’ve read he hasn’t even gotten her phone number yet. How much slower can he go?

I know your first impulse is to give the girl the benefit of the doubt over the guy. But honestly it’s one of three scenarios:

1) She likes him too but is way overdoing the “hard to get” crap. She expects him to know what’s going on but he doesn’t. Just because women like challenge and drama it doesn’t mean guys do. But she assumes that.

2). She doesn’t like him and is a pos bully. Young women are generally mentally ahead of boys in the dating and intuition interactions. Some of them abuse this because since they enjoy the power trip of tormenting a clueless boy’s mind.

This is NOT okay. But this is something boys are rarely taught to watch out for. You calling him “creepy” is just making excuses for her bs.

3). There is something he did/said to her that he’s not telling us about. This is not impossible but I am just going with what he told.

Again I told him his best bet is to ignore her. If she really likes him she will think twice about what’s she’s doing and change tactics (approach him). If she does I told him to ask for her number. If she likes him she will give it to him. If she doesn’t she won’t.

But if he ignores her and she doesn’t ever approach him or talk to him then she was just getting off on torturing him all along UNLESS there is something he is not telling us.

Anyway I don’t like how you strongly assumed he was the “creepy” one in all of this. Maybe he was but he seems like an honest kid and I didn’t see him admitting he did anything wrong. So what if she senses that he likes her and she doesn’t feel the same. That NOT f’ing being creepy. So don’t try to push sort of toxic guilt in the poor kids head. From what I’ve read he didn’t do anything wrong minus not being direct with her earlier. But their only teenagers for crying out loud.

[Asker]

@RangerBlue22 I never acted creepy always respectful. She's asked where I lived and also asked me whether she should 'kill a girl who stole her job vacancy.' She said this when she was nervous.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker From what you have mentioned, killing someone is never a right thing. If she thinks this way, she is never a right girl for you. What do you do if she kills you when you do something that angers her? Do you want it to be happened?

Stay away from her if she continues thinking this way. Give her a lecture on how wrong is it to kill someone even if they do good or bad. Killing is never a right way. If someone made her angry, she should forgive them and move on and should not seek revenge. She should have good intentions. Love with her is a secondary thing. First, make her learn values. She seems confusing anyways. Creepy doesn't always mean you are wrong. But when you show too much interest on her through your behaviour, she will feel it creepy and stay away from you. Take things slow in the sense, let her understand your affection on her slowly, instead of being very fast. Either you express your love on her through your actions or through words, take it slow. Show her slowly and truly. Then she will believe in your love. But never lose your self respect at any cost. And make her understand the value and respect of you and your love. All the best

[RangerBlue22]

@asker I believe you. It’s just miss anon’s comments were more based on some erroneous image she had of you vs her versus everything you stated about the situation. She just read “oh the poor girl is acting uncomfortable” and immediately assumed you were the bad/creepy guy in all this. However you have given us zero indication otherwise. So all her ranting was mostly based on sort of abstract “emotion” she had in her head about the ordeal vs reality (this is a bad habit women have but that’s another story).

Anyway the more details you bring up about your crush the more mentally unstable she seems. I’m guessing she’s really cute of course. But cute or not you do you really want to deal with all of that insanity even if she really likes you?

She sounds like the type that would invite you to bed then wake up the next day regretting her idea only to falsely accuse of something. Its twisted bullshit but you don’t get anywhere near that. She seems like the type who does more mental gymnastics than a Olympic gold medalist.

[Asker]

@RangerBlue22 Of course she's very cute but I'm really tired of her games and behaviour so I've got eyes on someone else who's a lot more receptive and kinder.

[RangerBlue22]

And miss anon. Why the hell do you keep assuming this guy “acted to fast”? Seriously? Where did he mention making a move at any point?

QUIT assuming about what happened in the scenario just because it reminds you of something you experienced in the past. Just quit it. It’s making all your feedback completely nonsense because little control over your emotions about a memory you had. It’s a different scenario, he’s a different guy and she’s a different girl. Just look at the facts he stats vs going off on some rant about “a feeling” you have. You are living up to a very negative stereotype right now.

[RangerBlue22]

Asker - good! She isn’t worth it. Just act like she doesn’t even exist. Don’t reward bad behavior.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker you did the right thing by choosing a more kinder girl, as she will not hurt you like this girl who hurts you

[Opinion Owner]

@rangerblue22 I am simply assuming situations so that I can give him right suggestions if he still wants to be with her. Assumptions may or may not be right. But if they are, it will help him to adjust his behaviour for first girl. I am not supporting her bad behaviour in may manner. But if he still likes her even through her bad behaviour, I gave some suggestions that might help him. But now there's no point in distracting him from the second girl that he started seeing. She seems the right girl for him and first girl doesn't need to be given any importance now

[RangerBlue22]

Alright I get you. I know we are only getting one side of the story here but from what I’ve seen he has done nothing wrong.

You know over the course of my life I’ve had several women who are attracted to me. A few very attractive (I got paranoid back then because i thought they were being facetious), some average looking and many unattractive ones.

Now as for the unattractive ones. Yeah they made me uncomfortable. Some were vocal about what was on their mind too. If the gender roles were reversed it would have “creepy” written all over it. But as for the ones that just had crushes I never would call them “creepy” despite me not feeling the same. Never talk negative about them among my friends to get the cheap thrill of feeling “above” someone.

Women really do abuse that phrase “creepy” too much. Sometimes it’s warranted if the guy explicitly did something wrong. But other times they just say it when a man who has done nothing wrong just makes them “uncomfortable” because he is guilty of the grave sin of having a crush on her.

That shit talk can hurt a young man’s self esteem more than you will ever realize. I know you didn’t call this kid a “creep” outright but your first post was highly critical of him being “potentially creepy”. Be careful how you word things. It’s not harmless to say things like that especially when you are criticizing much younger men.

Remember men are told to be “confident “ all
the time with women. Creep shaming men who did nothing wrong can damage that. Think carefully about what you are saying.

[Asker]

@RangerBlue22 Yep I'm really tired of her behaviour at this point but if you are unattracted to somebody. Why would you even ask them questions and be next to them. Her behaviour gets more confusing the deeper you go. But yep thanks for your advice.

[RangerBlue22]

Feel free to DM me.

[Asker]

@RangerBlue22 Sure, just followed you by the way you have to follow so I can DM

[BlueScorpio]

She either feels very uncomfortable around you and dislikes you greatly or she's being a jerk cause she does actually like you, playing harder for your attention. Um it's hard to say, if you want a real answer, I would just flat out ask her if she feels uncomfortable around you. You'll get your answer Depending on her response.

[JSmuve]

"She also gets really nervous or maybe scared when she's around me that she has to leave and walks away. She would be adjusting her clothes and hair."

This tells me that she likes you. Some girls, especially immature ones don't know how to show a guy they like him. Sometimes they'll act mean and rude because they don't want to appear obvious or they're uncomfortable with their feelings. Whenever she's being a brat, either call her out on it or lean into it and give her shit back. Tease her, don't make things easy on her, don't be too nice. Her attitude might change.

[Asker]

Not sure if was just my imagination but when I was walking home with her and a friend of hers she quickly moved to the opposite of her friend and her face was turning and she was spurting out the most random things. My gut feeling tells me it's either two things. She is really disinterested or she's quite emotionally immature and doesn't know how to contain herself.

[JSmuve]

I think it's the latter, but you could always ask her out and see how she responds.

[Lookingforthetruth]

You are delusional.

[Sandeeppingping]

I feel she senses that you like her and she doesn't like you back my guy, so she's avoiding you, she also possibly thinks you're creepy or unattractive depending on previous interactions but that's just a possibility, don't give her any attention talk to other girls as you get more attractive broza

[chocomilk99]

Absolutely i was going to say the same

[Lookingforthetruth]

Women will submit and act feminine to men who they see as actual men.

Women will act disrespectful and treat poorly guys they see as weak males.

If your crush is disrespecting you then she's either shit testing you to see how you would reaction (aka testing to see if your a beta) or she considers you trash already and doesn't want you around her.

Apha males

Simps (beta males)

pick your choice in life.

[Brokenheartedx]

Well to test a theory, talk to other girls in front of her and see how she reacts.. If she frowns, narrows her eyes or tries in anyway to get your attention while chatting to these other girls esp the pretty ones then she likes you, but by then u shouldn't care, because anyone who plays games with other people feelings like she has isn't worth your time
You know that song line that goes ' there may be trouble ahead' we'll trust me there will be

[Smartgirl_hey]

Yes, mirroring her behaviour might work but it is not suggested if he is looking out for a genuinely loving girl

[PeteBy]

Offering an alternative view. There was a girl at my school who was always a bitch. Saw her one day walking in town. Turned around to check out her ass, she spotted me.

Following lesson she sat next to me and was the total opposite. Sometimes they're nasty to draw attention (I know I don't get it) and another time a girl behind me told me I was a pervert and kept kicking the chair. Turns out in later years she had a massive crush on me.

[Rania05]

Okay, this was incomprehensible

[RangerBlue22]

@Rania05 no it wasn’t. It’s actually much more clear than the shitty “advice” you posted.

I will tell you what is comprehensible (and backward). You called teenage boy a “pervert” when he never admitted to doing anything beyond having a crush on a girl. Like it must be so horrible and creepy that a teen boy has a crush on a teen girl or something.

I can tell you right now if everything from this kids POV was the exact same EXCEPT the genders were reversed (teenage girl had a crush on a boy) would you have responded the same way? Doubt it.

Also if any adult man or woman called a teen girl a “creep” or “pervert” they would be (rightfully) torn into. I would of definitely called out any 30 year old man/woman who said that.

You might say “on it’s just the internet” but these kid’s egos are fragile. You should God damn know better than to talk to them that way.

[PeteBy]

@Rania05 You struggle to understand English? Or facts? Girls acting up at school pretending to hate boys but actually it's their way of telling the boy she likes him is apparently very common!

[Rania05]

Why are you two hanging up against? Your English is the one lacking.
@PeteBy , I don't know why you quickly assumed that I'm doubting your story but congratulations you two made me regret replying on the question.

Kids have ego indeed, and mine is intact and I'm just feeling annoyed right now.

P. S: I'm 17 in reality

[Rania05]

Plus I never posted advice, the poster asked for why the girl is how she's, so I gave him the answer from my point of view.
I had no idea girls also like to treat boys badly. I said the girl's behavior is incomprehensible, since why we would anyone call the boy they like a pervert?

[Rania05]

Yeah, this is definitely the behavior against a pervert. But unlike this girl I'm 5 meters away from the boys I dislike.

[Rania05]

She's definitely giving you warning signs to get away from her, that she isn't your league.
Talking to other boys in front of you was a subconscious reaction to avoid talking to you.
Harsh and vague at same time, she's definitely defensive against boys who likes her.

[RangerBlue22]

This kid is a minor and your calling him a pervert. From what I’ve read so far he hasn’t admitted anything to doing anything wrong.

But nice choice of words there. So mature for a grown ass 30 year old woman to call a teenage boy that. Seriously good work.

[Asker]

She would act hot and cold. 2 months ago we were in the same class and she would be standing close to me and sit on my table when she could've sat elsewhere. She would also be playing with her hair, clothes and literally leaning into me. It's really just confusing.

[RangerBlue22]

Don’t waste your time chatting with this woman QA. She’s a complete moron.

I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t thoroughly read your question. But unless she’s blind she should of saw (under 18) next to your screen name at the very top and thought twice about her backward choice of words. Something is deeply wrong with her.

[Rania05]

I didn't call him a pervert, but I said her behavior was definitely treating him like one.

[Rania05]

And for your information I'm actually 17 and the 37 is because of something else.

[Rania05]

You're the one that haven't read my answer properly.

[RangerBlue22]

Why the hell is your age set to 37? I don’t think an accident. Hopefully you aren’t trying to get around the age controls so you can chat with other adults about adult subjects (speaking of perversion).

Anyway if you are trying to act like a grown adult your are doing a very poor job of it. Even at 17 you should been able to read his comments carefully. Where at any point was he acting like a pervert beyond admitting he has a crush on her? Gather more information before you judge so fast.

[Rania05]

First, when I was registering in Facebook I was in elementary school I was tricked by my older sister to think only adults (25+ to me back then) in their emails can have it, she was about to make me 50 older and I stopped her and choose 20 years older. Personally, I was shocked when the site made my age in the profile 37 since when registering in any other site they set my actual age because they do ask.

Second, I'm Muslim, I tell every person I can on this site about my age and told them frankly in one or two of my questions.

Third, I'm going to remind you for the last time, I didn't say he was pervert, he was asking about the girl's problematic attitude, I said she's treating him as one. Telling he's being treated like a pervert, and calling him one, are two completely different things.

[RangerBlue22]

Alright you could of worded that better in the beginning. But I get it now.

There were a couple other (grown adults) who said some dumb crap to him earlier.

Anyway I don’t know him well but he seems like a thoughtful young man. If he was punk he would of cared less and not even taken the time to write this question.

Anyway girls your age are way usually way ahead of boys on the dating innuendoes including the negatives (like how she’s behaving). If she flat out told him (kindly hopefully) that she wasn’t interested yet he kept pursuing her then her defensive behavior would be justified.

But there is 99% chance she already knows he likes her. Women pick up on this easily. Seems like she’s at war with herself on how to handle it. Either that she really likes him but wants all the drama of making him jealous.

But his best bet is to just ignore at this point. Once she notices that he isn’t looking at her anymore nor caring if she talks to other guys it will force her to change tactics. Best case scenario she will approach him and finally show interest directly. But I don’t think it’s a good idea at all at this point for him to directly approach her considering how she’s acting.

[Rania05]

Yeah, she definitely knows. I hesitated whether to spoil it to him but now I don't care anymore.

It's kinda creepy if she's really doing this for attention, but I don't want to malicious to someone I didn't met. So, I would rather she has some trauma or she's having some misunderstand against the poor boy.

Mental bullying isn't going to lead anyone for a healthy relationship.

Being treated like crap by one's crush sure feels horrible, I wonder how he's handling it.

One reason that increased my annoyance against you before is that there's indeed some women going really overboard in their opinions but not a word was spoken to them, whilst I was pointed on for a mere misunderstand.

[RangerBlue22]

Yeah it was a misunderstanding.

Sadly some women really do get off at torturing guys like that. It’s the power trip they get from it. I’m just hoping she likes him and is handling it really poorly vs. mental bullying as you said. She thinks its entertaining but as you can see its absolutely no joke. I had a few girls in HS do that crap to me back in HS and it was horrible.

Again girls your age are way ahead on “the game”. This doesn’t truly equal out until men and women are in their mid 20s. The gap lessons in college but it’s still there. Male brains don’t fully develop until 25.

Anyway he needs to dig deep and ignore her. But when you have a crush on someone (especially if your a guy) testosterone and ego push you to do the opposite. Hopefully he can discipline himself to see what’s going on and respect himself. No one teaches young boys about what some girls are capable of about this when they grow up.

[RangerBlue22]

*gap lessens

[Guy13]

I think she is making clear Friend only. If I’m understanding that correctly then accept that or move on…

[Msputiton]

She sounds like she doesn't like you, and tbh maybe she feels nervous because you make her uncomfortable

[Dargil]

Don't try to understand or rationalize him. Show him the door. Today.

[FilmGuy93]

Because she's rude and disrespectful person. She's showing you who she is as a person right now. Please believe her.

[Light909090]

What’d you do Rape her
She shouldn’t be acting like that unless you did something to her

[RangerBlue22]

A minor asked this question you moron. Nice job saying that above. Seriously.

[Joker_]

do you think maybe she actually just hates you, and her feelings are independent from yours

[johnboymuscles]

She either likes you or doesn't like you. It's one of those

[Twalli]

I think she knows you like her and she wants to make it clear she doesn't feel the same way.

[SonnyMyers]

She maybe testing the waters, and not really sure herself. Don't be pushy, but try to talk to her.

[RangerBlue22]

Nah he should ignore her outright and deny her the attention. Bet you a hundred bucks that within a couple of weeks she will approach and be nicer to him if she likes him. If she doesn’t like him she won’t say anything to him at all but at least he knows where he stands.

From what I’ve read so far this kid isn’t old enough to drive (he mentioned walking home).

Yet a grown ass 30 year old woman called him a “pervert” and another 21 year old man said he “should rape her”. We got a bunch of Benjamin button f’ing morons on this website. It’s embarrassing.

Young boys/girls have very fragile egos. Grown ass should know better than to act that stupid.

[TacticalLizard]

It’s called Free Will

[booi392]

How deep in her do you want to be?