So backstory- she's 19 and I'm 21 and we're college roommates. Everything was cool for a while until she became super nitpicky over the smallest things. It first started when she "misplaced" her towel and she basically kept saying "well I left it right there" and variations of that, basically implying I stole it. Come to find out she only had one towel and the one she "lost" didn't exist. Now she is just super critical of small things like I left my laptop on the coffee table and she texted me saying she moved it in my room (for no reason, as if I ALSO DONT PAY TO LIVE HERE) or when she got mad when I was taking out the trash and left the bags on top of the washing machine (while I was taking the trash out she legit didn't even let me finish doing what I was doing so I could put them back). Then she gets mad at me for leaving a paper towel roll out when I was in a rush in the morning to go to class. She texts me about that. Like my BAD I MADE A MISTAKE while in a rush. Then she got mad at me for using one of her spoons to stir my coffee (after she said I could use them whenever).
To top it allllllll off, she legit leaves greasy pans out and dirty plates in the sink for days and I say NOTHING, yet god forbid I accidentally leave a paper towel tube on the counter while in a rush. I'm just over it and I'm not perfect but I have been very good and easy to get along with my roommate. Like she nitpicks so much that I feel like she's acting like I'm a guest in HER apartment and she's letting me stay here. I'm just over it and I don't know what to do.
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I would love to hear her side of this.
loll mind you when we moved in I let her use my bathroom for nearly an entire week while it was being fixed by the apartment. I'm over her
Quite a college education!
Either learn to communicate with her, and that will require work on both sides, or you need a different roomate. This is quite an education in people.
Question becomes why she became "nitpicky". Were her feelings hurt, does she feel insecure? Girls... some of them... are very emotional, unstable, require training... and that's not considering the varying hormones, which is another matter. If these issues are "certain times"... then you are dealing with pms of your roomate. Otherwise, it's her training and frustration, she's having a hard time communicating with you as well... some of her communications had good intention, but received poorly.
it's not a good time in life for all the added stress when you have so much with school and likely work, bills, etc.. Dear god, don't bring a child into this world right now... know what I mean? But it's reality that you have to work with some people, or get away from them. This may not be a great personality for you to handle right now. If you can work through it, put in the effort on both sides to get to the root issues, you'll get to a much better place that can help in future relationships to either avoid the problems, or work through them.
good luck!
Get a new roommate or leave.