She kept on telling me to go find some else when I did she got mad?

[Ricky900k]

I have been seeing this girl for a while, I know her for a long time, but recently things started to get a little serious... the issue was I was kind of a pusher, wanted to get things to next level when I pushed she kind of pulled, then I pull she pushes.. however recreantly she started stating that I have to find someone else yadda yadda yadda, in a week or so I did and she cough me with the new girl walking on the street. and she text me after 5 minutes , that she will never ever speak with me ever again... I mean what is this thing? you keep pushing me away... and away... and away... when I finally do it you get angry? any idea what is wrong here? for the record the girl I was with is her best friend, yeah I know kind of awkward and I did it intentionally, but why is she angry then? if she was pushing me away and away.

[mlvrjohnconnor]

Imagine two cars tired up on the rear end and trying to move to opposite directions, one car is called “reasons I wanna be with him” and another one is called “reasons he is of low value and I should leave him”. This car wrestling is in the mind of every girl who is seeing guys romantically. When you are pushy for securing a relationship with her, you send her the subconscious signal that her value is higher than yours and you are desperate, thus the second car in her mind ramped up the engine and her behavior starts acting towards the “I should leave him” direction. Once you find someone new, there is no reason for her to believe you are of low value, so the first car went full speed ahead dragging both cars towards “I want you” direction, then hit the wall called “he’s not available anymore”, which is why she is so upset, as she is in auto rejection. Her anger is not that you find someone new, it is that you send her the low value signal through one method, the solved it by shutting the door for her to reach back to you. She was hoping your actions can convince her you have high value, and still leave her the chance to come back to you after that.

However, I don’t think what you did was wrong. Some women are more reasonable and less affected by this car wrestling emotions. She is not right for you and things will only get worse even if you guys move up to an exclusive relationship. She needs someone who speak her relationship language and you need someone who speak your language.

[Guy13]

That’s how women roll. She was testing you. She did not think you would do it. This was clearly a woman test…. You failed but it is her fault for playing games.

[Ricky900k]

ok, let us say it was a test... do you know how many times she said this to me? to me if this was a test I would tolerate 5 times, but I have been hearing this on a daily basis for the last month every time I saw her so what is the right amount of testing in your view?

[Ricky900k]

she over tested me man... to the point where I cannot tolerate more of this crap was too much at that point and if I kept on coming she will make a stooge out of me... !

[Guy13]

I didn’t know this detail but ultimately she did it to herself. After a month they’ve drained any love that was there anyway. I would have done the same thing cause I don’t play games. “Say what you mean and mean what you say.”

[Ricky900k]

exactly, was really unpleasant to keep hearing it.. plus I started like hating her for it she actually made it easier for me to move on...

[Guy13]

I have been there but it is good to investigate the woman's mind. Fight for me princess thing... No means Yes... feminist are like that too... genetic !!

[Darkstellae]

She is just upset like there honestly isn’t anything you can do about it but like if she gets upset just ignore her it’s your choice on how you live your life

[D_Bone_Steak]

Welcome to the world of ___. I don't want to say it because then they'll come at me bro. But you know what I'm talking about. They know too. They always say what they want but then what they really want isn't the same thing.

[Avicenna]

She didn’t really mean that, and definitely not literally

[Ricky900k]

when someone tells you something 200 times they really mean it...

[Iron_Man]

Sounds like a bipolar wishy-washy woman

[Anonymous]

She needs to make her mind up.

[Ricky900k]

cannot wait 10 years.