So I work at a restaurant and I'm a bus boy, there's a girl at the host stand who I've had a serious crush on since about 2 months of working there. It's been a year now and I feel like my feelings have only grown. around July I started catching her staring at me, and then I kept on catching her many times. It got to the point where she would flinch her head elsewhere if she got caught, and I would do the same if she caught me. she also tends to only speak to me briefly if I interact and typically neither of us makes eye contact when we do. when I need to ask her something business related, she often around 7 times out of 10 will freeze, pretend to be doing something else or completely ignore me until pressed further. and usually her response is overly brief or rushed, or she will hastily ask me what I said again, that is if she responds. If I'm on a back-of-house shift or am just in the back for a long period of time, I notice her back there more than any other hostess. she goes back for seemingly no reason sometimes, like going back then leaving the way she came not even doing anything or talking to anyone or walking further back and not even grabbing plates, which is the only actual reason hostesses go back other than for side work. whenever I try to make small talk it's very brief, almost as if she was trying to get it to end quickly, afterward she always tends to start staring at me from the host stand for a while, pretending as if she wasn't as soon as she notices me staring. I really like this girl and I'm not sure what to do. I myself am a very timid and shy person and I can't think of many ways of breaking the ice with my social anxiety getting in the way. and despite being so socially anxious, I still manage to be one of the most liked employees, having been voted employee of the month 3 times out of the year I've worked here so it's not like I'm a weirdo that nobody likes; which honestly surprises me given how shy I can appear.
You are the only one that can help that situation.
In order to move on with this crush of yours, you must be pro-active and make the first step. She will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the potential relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.
But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.
You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.
But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.
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Sounds like a mutual crush…weekend is coming up…date⁉️
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Your gonna have to make a move on her to find out dude.
just ask her out for coffe
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