How can I feel less insecure about my height?

[Anonymous]

[Datboi65]

The truth is, most dudes don't care about height, they care about weight.

If you're not overweight, you have nothing to worry about. Guys are usually the ones that feel insecure about height because it's a requirement for women. At the end of the day, you get what you negotiate for, and it all depends on your priorities. Do you want a taller guy? You will probably limit your dating pool considering not only will he have to be tall, but also decent looking and not a shitty human being (those 3 traits decrease your options significantly). If you care more about principles, then height isn't really an issue, and you are more interested in who they are so it increases your options. Who knows? You may even connect with someone who is taller than you who fits those traits without having to specifically look for that one, but what it does do is take away the pressure and allows you to stop comparing your height to the dude's all the time.

And hey, if a guy has a problem with your height, then that's not going anywhere. You can't change your height either, so don't worry about things that you cannot change. It's all about perspective.

[MCheetah]

I legit thought this was going to be a guy posting about his height being under six feet tall. I didn't think it'd be a tall female user.

You should feel blessed and honored to have such superior height. You're a goddess among mortals, basically. You know what I'd do to have such power and strength? I personally don't get why ANYONE would want to be lesser than they truly are. It's like a billionaire wishing they were poor or a woman with 9.5 out of 10 looks wishing she was a 4 out of 10.

I'm a short little f*cker of a male; just missed the mark by two inches/six centimeters too. And I hate my height infinitely more than you could ever dislike being the Statue of Liberty among the New York bums puking in the street. Of course, that's just my opinion as a male under six feet who gets judged as being incomplete/un-grown/inferior by most of society for being useless/inferior. But I legit don't get it. I'd literally kill to be tall (lots of people, in fact. Just give me a silencer for the pistol at least.) Anything to not feel inferior like a man who literally never finished puberty and got to grow up.

So while I can definitely relate to being insecure about height, I can't relate to insecure about being "too tall." Why would you ever want to be small and weak, anyway? Especially as a woman?

Anyway, I'd suggest asking other Amazons on here what they think about their vertical blessing, like @Ms_Facesitter, @musicbrain5, @JosyJosy, and @A_Bell. Comments say you're 6'0"/183 cm, which isn't even that bad on a woman. Two of these ladies are taller than you, and two are only shorter by an inch. I personally like tall women, but almost no women in general like short men (under six feet). Life is unfair, I know. But being tall is like winning the genetic lottery.

[A_Bell]

I am 5'11" and I like being tall, but I also like getting attention at social situations. People always want to talk to the tall girl.

The key to being less insecure is to embrace it. Don't slouch and even wear heels. Hold yourself up confidentally and you attitude will follow your posture. If you have to, find tall friends to ease you into it.

Just remember that more girls are jealous of you than not, especially with your body.

[MCheetah]

@A_Bell
Thank you for helping her.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I think most girls have the mentality of feeling the embrace like a protection kind of feeling from partners. And although there are many above 6ft guys too. But they have a very large pool of women that would prefer them.
The competition is just crazy.
And it is not only that. Guys generally have a preference for a girl equal to or less than their height. Complicating the problem even more.

You both surely improved the mood here.😄👍💯

[A_Bell]

Yw MC Heetah.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'm 6'1 and I like my height. I come from a 'tall' family. It couldn't be helped. Height is something we can't really change much other than heels. Speaking of. I wear heels, I don't care, I embraced my height and own it and you should too. It's a part of who you are, what makes you you. And there are many people, men and women alike who look up to you and are jealous of your height.

Remember that if a guy you're dating is uncomfortable with your height, it's not your fault. That's an issue that THEY have to work out.

Cheetah tagged me, calls us a goddess among mortals. You have the height, now allow yourself to let your confidence catch up too :)

[curiousaboutthis]

I'm pretty tall for my age but I kinda like it. To feel less insecure about height maybe you need a short guy friend who is jealous of your height, it makes you feel empowered, lol😅 I think people actually don't really care how tall you are, they might like you better instead because or your height. Just know that you were made in God's image and you are beautiful and whoever tells you otherwise may just be jealous or insecure about themselves! weird huh? There is actually a whole movie about this called "Tall Girl" on Netflix, I don't know if you have already seen it or not, lol, but it's really sweet.

[ZackBan]

You're this tall yet You're slim and curvy in all the right places. The only people who should feel insecure are the women who wanna be you and the men who wanna be with you.

I know for guys it's not the same but at 6'3 people used to bully a lot asking about the weather and if I can get reception all the way up there even picking fights to try and take down the big kid.

What I learned is that height is not something we can control and all we can do is own it or cry about it.
When you own it it becomes a true asset.

[SnowedIn]

You're height is awesome! And, you look great. As for the specifics about your question (which is a good one) to how do you feel less insecure? First, you can't change it. So embrace. Hold your shoulders high and rock the fact that you're tall. The people who don't like it or have an issue with it? Screw them. Another way to feel less insecure? Clothes are going to look great on you. Finally, every morning and evening, look into that mirror like you're doing in your picture and tell yourself that your height is awesome and an asset and you look fantastic. No, it's not easy to feel less insecure, but it's possible.

[MementoMori777]

Height has many advantages, you don't have to ask for help to reach shelves at stores which I've seen many short women struggle with, let's not mention you have a better view of your surroundings and to someone like me that's huge, seeing a danger before it happens gives you an advantage to survival as the element of surprise is taken from them, I'm speaking of situations where danger happens when you are at the wrong place at the wrong time, just cause you don't see the benefits now doesn't mean you won't ever see them, at some point you'll need your height

[socair]

entirely your choice
whatever your figure there will always be some guys for which yours will be the ideal.

I am considered tall by some... and out of preference I am much more drawn to short women or at least much shorter than me.

But outward appearances are not worth a lot its the person that counts

you ought to be more self conscious about your lack of self esteem that you are your height, besides if you fall off those heels you are going to hurt yourself... for what?

by the way you do look great and would look better still in some much flatter shoes

[Anonymous]

Alter your unconscious belief system around height.
That's the only way to cure it.
But bandaids such as shoes and clothing can help.

I know it's your belief system because that is where insecurities come from and on top of that you look just fine and so it obviously is something irrational.
Try reading the book Psycho-cybernetics it will help you understand better.

Beliefs are changed through constant spaced repetition of opposing ideas.
That's the whole affirmation but affirmations only work if you add emotion.
You'll come to believe anything you kept in your mind over and over.

Anyway gl and just know your current beliefs about height are irrational. I have no doubt about that.

[A_Bell]

I am 5'11" and I like being tall, but I also like getting attention at social situations. People always want to talk to the tall girl.

The key to being less insecure is to embrace it. Don't slouch and even wear heels. Hold yourself up confidentally and you attitude will follow your posture. If you have to, find tall friends to ease you into it.

Just remember that more girls are jealous of you than not, especially with your body.

[mario46]

You are pretty tall for a girl but as long as you are fit you don't have nothing to worry about. Thruth is, your choice of guys is a bit narrowed because some guys will feel insecure with a girlfriend who is taller than them, but because you're attractive many of guys of your height and shorter guys will be attracted to you. It's not the question here would they mind having a girlfriend taller than them, but would you mind having a boyfriend shorter than you. If you don't feel sexual attraction towards shorter guys, you should not hang out with them. Imagine this situation: You met the guy, the guy is shorter than you but you don't mind because you're in love with him now. One evening you go to a bar or to a night club with your boyfriend and there he is, standing there 6'5" tall, good-looking guy looking at you with his beautiful blue eyes. What are you going to do then?

[Asker]

Probably cheat

[Chill_Thoughts]

You look great! Probably something that covers a bit of your legs like a longer t-shirt or hoodie may make you feel better. But you're beautiful, and maybe all you need is a taller guy in ur life. 6 foot isn't short but a lotttt of guys will still be taller than you and you don't need to worry about it

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly! I know many guys who are taller than 6 foot

[Chill_Thoughts]

I'm guessing that because she's underage she hasn't met many yet, especially among her peers. Guys tend to keep growing till much later, so it's important she reminds herself of this. Cause ur teenage years are the ones where it's easier to feel insecure, even if you don't need to

[CoolCatMar1]

I am also a teen but i am not really insecure of my appearance lol. Never wanted to look like Adriana Lima to be considered beautiful anyway

[Twalli]

My sister was the tallest in her class in 6th grade and graduated as one of the shortest.
Then there's me I was shortest in 7th, 11th, and 12th, and second shortest 8th-10th. I never hit my growth spurt

[CoolCatMar1]

@Twalli is your sister also skinny? I am tall and skinny myself hhah Tbh i like it!!! It's very nice to be tall

[Twalli]

@CoolCatMar1 I don't know about natrually. She and I both sometimes don't eat. Unlike most people our freshman 10 was negative. To be fair we were both hospitalized as freshmen, but not because of weight. She had gallstones and I had swine flu.

[CoolCatMar1]

@Twalli oh this sounds awful!!!

[Twalli]

@CoolCatMar1 we survived, although I am not sure how we lived long enough to. She had over 30, which is not good and I had empyema which reduced the left lower quadrant of my lung to the size of 4 grapes. I was literally 6 hours from death when they operated on me. The surgeon on call wouldn't have saved me. My doctor called in a different one to operate on me earlier than the on call surgeon could see me.
My sister just need the gallbladder removed, which wasn't as time-sensitive as mine was.

[CoolCatMar1]

@Twalli What you have undergone is awful. I am glad you survived with your sister! It was a miracle really!!

[Twalli]

@CoolCatMar1 It happened a long time ago. We were 18, I'm 31 and my sister will be 30 tomorrow. I will be 31.5 the day after that. We have scars from that but we've moved on mentally

[CoolCatMar1]

@Twalli i understand that it was long time ago... it's still awful though!!! I am glad you are better now mentally

[nawtee_me]

@CoolCatMar1 I like your confidence. That goes a long ways in how others see you. They don't see your height or your weight or anything else. They see your confidence and nothing else matters...

[jennifer_bloom]

A lot of guys love tall women, you just have to keep your body healthy and strong and when you’ve met enough single guys as acquaintances, a good looking and tall guy will come and be a good match, if you don’t match with a shorter guy that also likes tall women.

[HighValue]

Do you like guys to be taller, the same height, or shorter than you?

You could date short guys. The tall guys often prefer short girls so that means there are plenty of short guys available.

Or get involved in sports/fitness because then you will be more likely to come across guys that are even taller than you are since large guys tend to be into sports more often.

[Anonymous]

Damn you’re tall. You shouldn’t feel bad about your height at all you can’t control it and it’s how God made you. Your legs are so long.

I love tall women so. Plus you might grow some more. You never know.

I love your height. If that makes you feel better and many guys do too. I love short ones too. Because what matters most is what’s in your heart. Maybe wear some high heels more often too. Show you’re tall and not ashamed of it

[Opinion Owner]

Damn I’m actually impressed. Like that’s impressive.

[Asker]

Thank you 🥺

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome. Embrace it. Love it. If someone judges you for it. They’re not worth your time anyways.

Honestly. Someone will judge you no matter what you don’t some judge short people too and some judge tall.

Most people are good folks thought. Yeah it’s impressive

[Anonymous]

Wow how tall are you? I don’t mean that in a bad way. I mean as you get older a lot of men are going to take an interest. Long legs!!! You’re not meant to be like everyone else, if we were all the same it would be a boring world. What makes you insecure about your height? That men won’t find you attractive or you’re taller than most women? Both?

[Asker]

Both, I always thought men prefer shorter girls, and I'm taller than a lot of my guy friends

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of men don’t care about height. Some do yes just the same as women who prefer taller men. But trust me if men didn’t like women who are tall eventually I believe all the women of tall stature would have died out as no ma would have bred w them. If that makes sense. But having long legs like that, many men love that as you’ll come to find out. How tall are you?

[Asker]

I'm 6'0

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok. You’re fine. That’s a good height, maybe an inch taller than me. I think you’ll be fine. You need to find reasons as to why ring that talk is good. Look at the positive aspects of it rather than being negative. It’s beyond your control to change that so you need to find a way to love it, to live yourself

[RHK36]

Only insecure people will have issues with your height. Most guys don't have issues with a girl's height. It's near the bottom of the list of shit we think about in regards to women.

You're tall, but not overtly tall. You'll feel less insecure when you give less fucks about other people's negative opinions.

Learn to love yourself will be the best option in the long run.

[Rockstarrrrr]

You just have to come to peace with it sooner or later... Your height is the only thing that can't be changed... And why not think of it as a win... I mean do you prefer to be too short or too tall? Right? Plus more and more guys are into tall girls nowadays and I'm sure there are enough tall guys out there to make you feel small enough...

[DrBanana]

A lot of already good responses here so I’ll try to add what I can.


I think maybe trying to change your mindset on how you view your height is a good thing and just feeling comfortable in your own skin.


Also said already but for guys height is not a major deal break to most of us.

[Jay3344]

you probably feel insecure because of the attention. To be honest it’s not negative attention, you’re probably just not used to it all yet. Some people take a long time to be comfortable with themselves. Doesn’t matter though, height is usually equated with attractiveness so just enjoy it.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I always say if you want to look skinny hangout with fat people & if you want to look short hangout with tall people. As for you insecure you shouldn’t feel because you look fine & you should treasure the way you are.

[Berethor]

Look for a scandinavian guy. :)

https://www.worlddata.info/average-bodyheight.php

[Sanamina]

Become a model. Your young and tall go girl get that bank!

Most models are around 178cm or more

I think Karlie Kloss is like 6'2"

[Sanamina]

*you're

[Kingofkings1992]

Stop worrying what others think. You are what you are. Some girls are tall. Some girls are short. Some scrawny guys have 8 inch dicks. Some 275 pound muscle monster men have 4 inch dicks. Perfection doesn’t exist. Accept it and move on with life.