How can I feel less insecure about my height?

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MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I legit thought this was going to be a guy posting about his height being under six feet tall. I didn't think it'd be a tall female user.

You should feel blessed and honored to have such superior height. You're a goddess among mortals, basically. You know what I'd do to have such power and strength? I personally don't get why ANYONE would want to be lesser than they truly are. It's like a billionaire wishing they were poor or a woman with 9.5 out of 10 looks wishing she was a 4 out of 10.

I'm a short little f*cker of a male; just missed the mark by two inches/six centimeters too. And I hate my height infinitely more than you could ever dislike being the Statue of Liberty among the New York bums puking in the street. Of course, that's just my opinion as a male under six feet who gets judged as being incomplete/un-grown/inferior by most of society for being useless/inferior. But I legit don't get it. I'd literally kill to be tall (lots of people, in fact. Just give me a silencer for the pistol at least.) Anything to not feel inferior like a man who literally never finished puberty and got to grow up.

So while I can definitely relate to being insecure about height, I can't relate to insecure about being "too tall." Why would you ever want to be small and weak, anyway? Especially as a woman?

Anyway, I'd suggest asking other Amazons on here what they think about their vertical blessing, like @Ms_Facesitter, @musicbrain5, @JosyJosy, and @A_Bell. Comments say you're 6'0"/183 cm, which isn't even that bad on a woman. Two of these ladies are taller than you, and two are only shorter by an inch. I personally like tall women, but almost no women in general like short men (under six feet). Life is unfair, I know. But being tall is like winning the genetic lottery.

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

The truth is, most dudes don't care about height, they care about weight.

If you're not overweight, you have nothing to worry about. Guys are usually the ones that feel insecure about height because it's a requirement for women. At the end of the day, you get what you negotiate for, and it all depends on your priorities. Do you want a taller guy? You will probably limit your dating pool considering not only will he have to be tall, but also decent looking and not a shitty human being (those 3 traits decrease your options significantly). If you care more about principles, then height isn't really an issue, and you are more interested in who they are so it increases your options. Who knows? You may even connect with someone who is taller than you who fits those traits without having to specifically look for that one, but what it does do is take away the pressure and allows you to stop comparing your height to the dude's all the time.

And hey, if a guy has a problem with your height, then that's not going anywhere. You can't change your height either, so don't worry about things that you cannot change. It's all about perspective.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

I'm 6'1 and I like my height. I come from a 'tall' family. It couldn't be helped. Height is something we can't really change much other than heels. Speaking of. I wear heels, I don't care, I embraced my height and own it and you should too. It's a part of who you are, what makes you you. And there are many people, men and women alike who look up to you and are jealous of your height.

Remember that if a guy you're dating is uncomfortable with your height, it's not your fault. That's an issue that THEY have to work out.

Cheetah tagged me, calls us a goddess among mortals. You have the height, now allow yourself to let your confidence catch up too :)

curiousaboutthis · Accepted Answer

I'm pretty tall for my age but I kinda like it. To feel less insecure about height maybe you need a short guy friend who is jealous of your height, it makes you feel empowered, lol😅 I think people actually don't really care how tall you are, they might like you better instead because or your height. Just know that you were made in God's image and you are beautiful and whoever tells you otherwise may just be jealous or insecure about themselves! weird huh? There is actually a whole movie about this called "Tall Girl" on Netflix, I don't know if you have already seen it or not, lol, but it's really sweet.

ZackBan · Answer

You're this tall yet You're slim and curvy in all the right places. The only people who should feel insecure are the women who wanna be you and the men who wanna be with you.

I know for guys it's not the same but at 6'3 people used to bully a lot asking about the weather and if I can get reception all the way up there even picking fights to try and take down the big kid.

What I learned is that height is not something we can control and all we can do is own it or cry about it.
When you own it it becomes a true asset.

SnowedIn · Answer

You're height is awesome! And, you look great. As for the specifics about your question (which is a good one) to how do you feel less insecure? First, you can't change it. So embrace. Hold your shoulders high and rock the fact that you're tall. The people who don't like it or have an issue with it? Screw them. Another way to feel less insecure? Clothes are going to look great on you. Finally, every morning and evening, look into that mirror like you're doing in your picture and tell yourself that your height is awesome and an asset and you look fantastic. No, it's not easy to feel less insecure, but it's possible.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Height has many advantages, you don't have to ask for help to reach shelves at stores which I've seen many short women struggle with, let's not mention you have a better view of your surroundings and to someone like me that's huge, seeing a danger before it happens gives you an advantage to survival as the element of surprise is taken from them, I'm speaking of situations where danger happens when you are at the wrong place at the wrong time, just cause you don't see the benefits now doesn't mean you won't ever see them, at some point you'll need your height

socair · Answer

entirely your choice
whatever your figure there will always be some guys for which yours will be the ideal.

I am considered tall by some... and out of preference I am much more drawn to short women or at least much shorter than me.

But outward appearances are not worth a lot its the person that counts

you ought to be more self conscious about your lack of self esteem that you are your height, besides if you fall off those heels you are going to hurt yourself... for what?

by the way you do look great and would look better still in some much flatter shoes

Anonymous · Answer

Alter your unconscious belief system around height.
That's the only way to cure it.
But bandaids such as shoes and clothing can help.

I know it's your belief system because that is where insecurities come from and on top of that you look just fine and so it obviously is something irrational.
Try reading the book Psycho-cybernetics it will help you understand better.

Beliefs are changed through constant spaced repetition of opposing ideas.
That's the whole affirmation but affirmations only work if you add emotion.
You'll come to believe anything you kept in your mind over and over.

Anyway gl and just know your current beliefs about height are irrational. I have no doubt about that.

A_Bell · Answer

I am 5'11" and I like being tall, but I also like getting attention at social situations. People always want to talk to the tall girl.

The key to being less insecure is to embrace it. Don't slouch and even wear heels. Hold yourself up confidentally and you attitude will follow your posture. If you have to, find tall friends to ease you into it.

Just remember that more girls are jealous of you than not, especially with your body.

mario46 · Answer

You are pretty tall for a girl but as long as you are fit you don't have nothing to worry about. Thruth is, your choice of guys is a bit narrowed because some guys will feel insecure with a girlfriend who is taller than them, but because you're attractive many of guys of your height and shorter guys will be attracted to you. It's not the question here would they mind having a girlfriend taller than them, but would you mind having a boyfriend shorter than you. If you don't feel sexual attraction towards shorter guys, you should not hang out with them. Imagine this situation: You met the guy, the guy is shorter than you but you don't mind because you're in love with him now. One evening you go to a bar or to a night club with your boyfriend and there he is, standing there 6'5" tall, good-looking guy looking at you with his beautiful blue eyes. What are you going to do then?

Chill_Thoughts · Answer

You look great! Probably something that covers a bit of your legs like a longer t-shirt or hoodie may make you feel better. But you're beautiful, and maybe all you need is a taller guy in ur life. 6 foot isn't short but a lotttt of guys will still be taller than you and you don't need to worry about it

jennifer_bloom · Answer

A lot of guys love tall women, you just have to keep your body healthy and strong and when you’ve met enough single guys as acquaintances, a good looking and tall guy will come and be a good match, if you don’t match with a shorter guy that also likes tall women.

HighValue · Answer

Do you like guys to be taller, the same height, or shorter than you?

You could date short guys. The tall guys often prefer short girls so that means there are plenty of short guys available.

Or get involved in sports/fitness because then you will be more likely to come across guys that are even taller than you are since large guys tend to be into sports more often.

Anonymous · Answer

Damn you’re tall. You shouldn’t feel bad about your height at all you can’t control it and it’s how God made you. Your legs are so long.

I love tall women so. Plus you might grow some more. You never know.

I love your height. If that makes you feel better and many guys do too. I love short ones too. Because what matters most is what’s in your heart. Maybe wear some high heels more often too. Show you’re tall and not ashamed of it

Anonymous · Answer

Wow how tall are you? I don’t mean that in a bad way. I mean as you get older a lot of men are going to take an interest. Long legs!!! You’re not meant to be like everyone else, if we were all the same it would be a boring world. What makes you insecure about your height? That men won’t find you attractive or you’re taller than most women? Both?

RHK36 · Answer

Only insecure people will have issues with your height. Most guys don't have issues with a girl's height. It's near the bottom of the list of shit we think about in regards to women.

You're tall, but not overtly tall. You'll feel less insecure when you give less fucks about other people's negative opinions.

Learn to love yourself will be the best option in the long run.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

You just have to come to peace with it sooner or later... Your height is the only thing that can't be changed... And why not think of it as a win... I mean do you prefer to be too short or too tall? Right? Plus more and more guys are into tall girls nowadays and I'm sure there are enough tall guys out there to make you feel small enough...

DrBanana · Answer

A lot of already good responses here so I’ll try to add what I can.

I think maybe trying to change your mindset on how you view your height is a good thing and just feeling comfortable in your own skin.

Also said already but for guys height is not a major deal break to most of us.

Jay3344 · Answer

you probably feel insecure because of the attention. To be honest it’s not negative attention, you’re probably just not used to it all yet. Some people take a long time to be comfortable with themselves. Doesn’t matter though, height is usually equated with attractiveness so just enjoy it.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I always say if you want to look skinny hangout with fat people & if you want to look short hangout with tall people. As for you insecure you shouldn’t feel because you look fine & you should treasure the way you are.

Berethor · Answer

Look for a scandinavian guy. :)

Sanamina · Answer

Become a model. Your young and tall go girl get that bank! Most models are around 178cm or more  I think Karlie Kloss is like 6'2"

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Stop worrying what others think. You are what you are. Some girls are tall. Some girls are short. Some scrawny guys have 8 inch dicks. Some 275 pound muscle monster men have 4 inch dicks. Perfection doesn’t exist. Accept it and move on with life.

exitseven · Answer

I thought you were short. You should not be insecure about your height. My mother was 5'11", She was a Marine when she was younger and I have pix of her in uniform. She always stood up straight. She looked amazing. So do you.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I’d read “ the radical art of self love” by Taylor Renee

BlueScorpio · Answer

Gurl are you serious? You have model height! The industry kills to get women like you, own it and be proud.

kellytheman · Answer

Maybe wear a skirt. or a short dress and show off those long stems. Some guys love long legs even if they if the girl is taller than him. Taylor Swift had long legs and she is sexy as hell with her long beutiful legs. Just try to embrace it.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

You are freaking tall and are insecure? Can't relate

inhua · Answer

guys don't care about height the same way girls do.

jshm2 · Answer

By shouting the weather up there, to random passers by.  You will be less insecure. Though more crazy.

Sour-rose · Answer

That there are dudes who are as small as a child and there are women just as tall.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Just know dudes don't judge height the same way females do. You have all the options still.

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

First, it would be useful if you told us what worries you about your height?

abc3643 · Answer

You have NOTHING to worry about. NOTHING.

_Troian_ · Answer

Lol u are a female why would u feel insecure about ur height, this is the MOST silliest thing on earth for woman to feel desperate about their short height.

allthewronganswers · Answer

Focus on your talents and strengths. Do not be focusing on the idea that there is something wrong as there is absolutely nothing wrong with your height.

Miristheiss · Answer

The girl has a nice figure so her heigt is irrelevant.

Anonymous · Answer

Your shoes look like chunky heeled boots, if you're insecure about your height, you could wear other shoes

Anonymous · Answer

Stop worrying about what people think of you! In life, some people will like you and some won't. The ones that don't, are not meant to be in your world. Love yourself first and everything else will fall in line. Hope this helps!

nawtee_me · Answer

oh an optical illusion, you take the pic in the mirror where the top of the mirror is almost even with the top of your head and it makes you look really tall... nice trick...

XLBBC4White · Answer

Damn girl is that you in the pic? You have a rockin body and those legs and thigh gap are butter. Don't do anything but let me show you appreciation

Tijie2015 · Answer

Most guys really don't care about a lady's height, it's the figure that will attract them. And even then, there are some full figure ladies who have beautiful curves and proportionally pleasing to the eye.

bean2k21 · Answer

Wear black and dye your hair blue. Then people will just think you're a freak with blue hair.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Start dating taller guys, like me. I'm 6' 9".

Googlemyahoo · Answer

i don’t get it. Is this like fishing for compliments?

Mtbgirl · Answer

Build self confidence. Nothing wrong with being tall or short.

art84 · Answer

Find a guy taller than you if possible like 6'5.

es20490446e · Answer

By realizing nobody cares that much. People care about other things.

findacure4wokeness · Answer

Maybe your projecting. Men don't really care about a woman's height too much.

htmndg183 · Answer

Use it to your advantage. You can excel in sports. You can model. You'll stand out wherever you go so make sure you look good. Own it.

In_Trance · Answer

Stop comparing

harrison102 · Answer

Maybe wear shoes that are more flat? Don’t be insecure, I think you look lovely. You have to find yourself a tall man 😊

Samantha_17 · Answer

Wear heels. Combine them with black tights and skirts. You will look better.

Wise4myage · Answer

By learning to accept your body just as it is, and be proud of your body too.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

You are beautiful, don't worry what other people think. I have date girls taller then me.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

By sucking my dick. It will solve all your problems🤣

Dat-Alpha-Lion · Answer

Maybe dress a bit differently, like put on longer shirts. You insecure about other things a lot too?

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Your good shape nice long legs most guys will like that

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

deal wit it you got better qualities  even tho most dudes prefer short girls

Twalli · Answer

Most guys don't care too much about the girl's height.

Anonymous · Answer

Just remember most people would rather be 6' than 5'

Chthou95 · Answer

The fact that a girl is asking this question is comedy

Anonymous · Answer

Those pants look sewn on you. It take a day to get in them?

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