Is this normal behavior?

[Anonymous]

This girl and I have known each other for little over a year. We both had a break up around the same time so we started hanging out. I was there being emotional support and try to give her a fun time to help her keep her mind off of life. Well recently he told me she is starting to have feelings for me because I showed I care for her (which I do). She knows I've had feelings for her for a awhile now. But since then she hasn't texted me as much. We once awhile have fun texting conversations. I asked her if she would like to continue going out and she said yes. We are about to go on our 6th date this Thursday. Is this normal behavior?

[Guy13]

Wow man, you have the perfect relationship. You started as friends rather than sleeping together etc. And, it evolved into something even more intimate like a boyfriend and girlfriend thing. It is not normal... it is extraordinary !!

You have something very unique and special. You really are a lucky guy. Treat her well.

[Asker]

I'm definitely treating her right. But she says she's not ready for a relationship yet. So I guess I'll keep talking her out I guess?

[Guy13]

She’s not feeling desired and lead yet. Vision laid out where you going to her. I think you are at the testing for steel backbone stage.

[Asker]

Today she had a bad day with her mom so I spontaneously took her out to eat and movies. This day wasn't planned at all. But I guess I'll keep pursuing and doing what I'm doing then?

[Guy13]

That was awesome. The ball is in her court now. No one is in the dark about your intentions. Good luck !!

[Asker]

Haha thanks man. I really hope everything works out! 😁

[Anonymous]

If some strangers told you it wasn’t normal then what? Would you cut her off or friendzone her because of this? Probably not. So it shouldn’t matter what we think about your situation. If there’s no issue about the pace or structure of your situation with her then do what works for you, not what works for us.

[Asker]

You are right, but what I'm asking is that the texting behavior. When you start to fall for someone is it normal for the texting to fall back a little bit? She does respond to me in a very timely manner and I don't want to ask her why she has fallen back on the texting.

[Opinion Owner]

Well this is just my personal preference, but I feel like unless you are in an LDR situation where texting and phone calls make up a lot of your ability to communicate, then texting should be minimal compared to in person. There’s a lot more value in building your relationship face to face, rather than gaining all your information about the person through text. Like with my fiancé, we only text to check in through the day while at work. Maybe 2 or 3 times if we don’t just call at lunch. Then I see him later and we’re of course together later. But I feel like that’s the goal, to be together more in person and minimal text. Sorry if this was lengthy, just wanted to be informative lol.

[Asker]

Don't be sorry lol. What you said was very informative. We basically only hangout on the weekends and this is the first time that we'll hangout on a weekday. I'd love to be with her more but I don't want to be clingy. We live 25 min away by the way.

[Wise4myage]

Seems fine to me.