She'd throw the friendship away just to keep stanning a rock band?

[ObscuredBeyond]

Her favorite band shared a quote: "The only thing real is now."

I wrote a philosophical treatise on that statement: "The problem with this claim, is that it ignores the natural progressions of time and causality themselves. Now is forever in the process of becoming then, which forms memories and biases. These become recursive of the now. So unless both are addressed fairly, they shape a bleaker tomorrow that will be equally real."

She threatened the entire friendship over me writing that treatise, because how dare I act like her favorite band is anything less than totally infallible! She's 40, but came at me with all the emotional maturity of a 12 year old.

I told her that her words wound me deeply, but that I'd go to pains to have her back if she lost everything. No rock band would ever do that for her. Plus, I have to be true to my convictions. To understand that. I won't even treat bands I like as above reproach, but will offer loving correction when they need it.

She replied: "Not when it comes to [my favorite band]!"

She then accused me of "violating" her "boundaries, " demanding I accept them. But won't respect mine.

What am I to make of this?

[LiamJHayden]

What you should make of it is that you can do far better than wasting time with someone so vapid.

[Guy13]

Why you even messing with such an immature mind.

[ObscuredBeyond]

She came to me first. I started getting my hopes up. She'd randomly pop in, say all the right things. Looking back, I realize it was all just virtue signalling.

[ChefPapiChulo]

That’s not what virtue signaling is lol.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@ChefPapiChulo : Giving very cliche and scripted responses when discussing my grandpa's funeral, but throwing it all in the trash because I questioned a quote? I'd say that's very much virtue signaling. Because she was fake AF in the end!

[ChefPapiChulo]

im very confused on what that even means. but i dont think you are using the term correctly tbh.

[Sevenpointfive]

backhand her the next time she goes against your wishes. she'll learn or get replaced

[ObscuredBeyond]

She also likes to go on about how "saved" she is, and how glad she is to no longer do drugs. And how she keeps up with all her old friends from rehab. But... she's a smoker. Whose habit has ruined one of her teeth.

[ObscuredBeyond]

But for such a wonderful "saved" girl, the minute I call out a band member she likes on preaching heresy, the knives come out against me! I told her I like certain bands too; but I won't defend heresy for their sake. No rock band is worth putting on that high a pedestal.

She then had the nerve to say that I "violate her boundaries" if I don't treat every word coming from her favorite musician as gospel truth. As if she ever respected any of my actual boundaries!

[Sevenpointfive]

might as well get her hooked on drugs again and prostitute her out for your benefit. that's all she's worth

[ChefPapiChulo]

That was painful to read. I hope this is a meme.

[Juxtapose]

Ditch her ASAP