Everything was so nice with this 20 year-old girl (she is most likely not a woman yet). We texted each other regularly, we went out twice and everything was going very well, we got closer and I showed more and more signs of interest. For a few days after our second date she she showed more interest than before. Whenever we talked about our values and intentions, they were aligned. You could sense the romantic tension piling up. However, she went cold for a few weeks, she started ignoring my texts and calls on probably on purpose (I don't believe that she was that busy). When she came back, she showed much interest again, she told me that we have a great connection and she wants to know me more. I reciprocated the interest and that was when she left me on delivered for two weeks and a half. If she is interested, I don't know why she does this. I respected her really much and now I doubt her maturity and emotional stability. She could either show constant interest or cut this off completely. I still think about her a bit, but I don't chase, I don't double text and I am not willing to have a relationship with her anymore.
Gonna have to disagree with some of the comments here. Not all women are waiting to be swept off their feet and having tons of guys keeping their attention.
Her behaviors mirror one woman I dated. She was the only one who did this. And to put it simply, she had issues and was always single. She loved the attention but would shut off if guys got too close.
This is dismissive avoidant psychology which is rooted in unhealed trauma. In my case, she had severe childhood abuse and love attachment issues. I couldnt deal with it or solve it, because it was exhaustingme and i had to realize only she can do that healing.
Focus on other women, keep and open perspective. Be kind. Remember, its not all about you.
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If I were you, I's skip 99,99.. or all 100% of women in their 20s and instead adapt some skills, read, travel grow and learn.
Because the 20s are meant for personality-development and it has high up and downs like a rollercoaster.
All in short: start dating in your 30s and show what you are about to offer that you've learned in 20s.
Haha - the 'she is most likely not a woman yet' made me laugh.
It could be very well that there is somebody else in her life. Either she is seeing him and he keeps coming back when she ghosts you. OR he could no longer be in her life but he is on her mind and in her heart, so she can't make herself fully available to another man. We are quite emotional like that.
Yeah, sorry bud. It seems like she's not that interested in you. She might have liked the attention or the way you treated her but for whatever reason she couldn't see herself with you long term. So when she gets lonely or when the guy she's really interested in starts ignoring her, she comes back to you to fill that void. It's time to move on.
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Everything was not "so nice"
She showed more interest; what did you do?
She came back because she focused on someone else that didn't work out either.
She left you on read because she got another offer.
You don't chase... you don't double text... you are the problem.
She wanted to be chased and you fucked it upSane and rational? Yes. A sane and rational person can do what she did. Given your attitude and comments, I'm actually not surprised she did.
She might be doubtful and confused at the moment, or she is playing games. Talk to her, express what you feel, figure out if she is interested in you or not, so you can whether keep dating, or end it
You misjudged her and she lost or never had feelings for you. Time to move on
No, and it sounds like she is playing games.
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