Why does my friend make plans but never follow through? She said she’ll take me out for my birthday next week but never reached out (more below)?

[Anonymous]

She also invites me to some of her art events. I have gone and bought things from her before. Anyway she never really seems to do things for me like going out somewhere with me when she says she will. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Adjust your priorities and stop making her so much of one if it’s not reciprocated. You already know she’s flakey, so if I were you I’d either address the issue or I wouldn’t be making plans with her at all. At least if you have a conversation then it gives her the opportunity to do better, but if she doesn’t then I’d throw in the towel. Not saying you have to cut her off or something but definitely not set yourself up for disappointment anymore.

[Asker]

Last time we hung out she was really obnoxious and talked about this one guy the entire time. It was supposed to be my celebration dinner for when I won a lawsuit settlement. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

I recently ended a 10+ year friendship that was one-sided af so I get it. I’m sure she values you in her life to an extent, especially if she doesn’t have many other real friends. But she does take it for granted and isn’t mindful the way you are. Like I’m sure you’d go out of the way to celebrate her on her special days, listen to her, offer advice etc etc yet when you need the same it isn’t quite reciprocated, if at all. She won’t change, I had to learn the hard way.

[Anonymous]

She's flaky and not a true friend.