Girls, is it any reasonable to keep a man around who you actually turned down?

[scooogy]

She actually told me one and a half years ago that there was another man and that I was just some random acquaintance to her. I started to avoid her for up to a year now, but regardless of whether she's still with that guy, he's living in my area and it seems like she moved here too but I hadn't seen her with that guy for about a year now.

Mind you, she told me she didn't wanna move in with him, reasoning that she would search for an apartment bigger than his, she wouldn't like his apartment's interior style and whilst both of them have a cat of their own, she wouldn't know if they would get along well with each other. Now I don't know whether she could move from an apartment with two rooms in another area in town into an apartment with three rooms two streets away from mine (I can actually see that house from my balcony).

The weird part now is that in my opinion if even her female bestie and co-worker told me to leave her alone if she wished so and that she would feel uncomfortable around me anyway (which had shown after she told me of a previous guy half a year before all this present case). Now while I've avoided the supermarket where she works at and bought my stuff elsewhere, since she seemingly moved into my area it happened at least once for now that she bought her stuff in that same supermarket, together with an apparent female friend of hers, not with said boyfriend. Mind you, beforehand she used to buy her stuff always right after work in the supermarket she works at and drove home to the other area in this town. With all this in mind, when she was said to be uncomfortable around me, then why would she recognize me being around the same supermarket as she was, maybe or maybe not getting that I was avoiding her and still ignore any chance given to just ignore me?

Is that any reasonable to you?

Updates

9 mo

I have to add here that back when there was apparently no other man, and I was still getting to know her and shy me had on the one hand bought his stuff at the supermarket where she works until now, but I've learned even beforehand to avoid people, be it because of shyness or other reasons. At some point it was her noticing me around there and purposefully approaching me, like getting me to stop avoiding her (we've talked beforehand but I was still quite shy).

Updates

9 mo

Things might change while honestly she would have had to wait for any chance of mine to ask her out on a date and be able to focus on an eventual relationship with her as soon as I'd have finished college back then. Meanwhile I became aware of the fact that she seemingly was single again as this oh so great boyfriend was a short-lived adventure of not even 6 weeks. Once again weeks before that she once more pro-actively told me there was another man. But things seemingly changed now.

[Anonymous]

I guess ﾠ

[Pοrnytail]

I would say it is perfectly normal to feel confused and uneasy when someone you have romantic interest in treats you differently after revealing your true feelings, considering how long ago she indicated to you that you were just an acquaintance, to suddenly re-engaging and showing unconfortability should be taken in an empathic manner, there 's possible scenarios beyond your understanding , maybe when your crush says, "she wishes things turned out exactly how we planned" and all kind of dreams of romantry comes crasing. Your confusion really justifies her previous words not to 'get too intimate when she later tells "She didn't wanna [live] with that previous romantic partner... so he became the 'new previous'! And how come he seems more approachable as an 'I remember when she preferred' guy' but feels unnerved as 'new close mate'? It seems it's all on instincts - her feelings changing around her circumstances. Like our choices are somehow influenced indirectly through circumstances eh?" I personally would say stay subtle about it and gradually avoiding each day until eventually overlaps do not result both seeing faces. When you make your interest known the 'conceptual reality' might alter between hope, confusion and sadness all in a rapid oscillation like waves gaily rocking on a still tranquil ocean."