We went on a date 3 months ago. I just got back into town and she says she wants to meet again. Then when I invite her to dinner leaves me on unread?

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Hi, question about girls and leaving guys on unread. I had to leave the city in Europe where I am living a few months back due to visa reasons. About two weeks before I left I went on a bumble date with a girl that went really well. We wanted to meet for a second date but I simply ran out of time before leaving. We both mentioned we'd like to have a second date when I get back. So I recently got back and let her know. She seemed excited and said we should meet up again. This was on Friday about 2 pm. I message her back around 4pm and ask if she wants to get dinner tonight and am left on unread.

This unread thing happened with a second girl this weekend as well. When that girl ignored my Friday date plans I messaged another girl I had hungout with one time before leaving. I've only lived in this city a few months so don't know many people. This second girl had a boyfriend 3 months earlier when we had hungout but I was just looking to go out clubbing. She seemed very happy to get my message and wanted to meet up at a club and came with some of her male friends. I didn't know if she was single now but she was kind of behaving like it, left her purse with me multiple times when she went to the restroom. It ended up getting to like 5am and she had been gone on a smoke break for like 30-40 min. Some of her friends were still there but I messaged her that I was going to probably head out soon after I couldn't find her. Then the next day message her in the afternoon just saying it was cool to meet her friends and that we should definitely do it again sometime. She also left these messages on unread and both these girls have seemingly been inactive on Instagram ever since.

Why are two girls who seemingly like me leaving me on unread? Now, it's not like they left me on "seen" or anything and they haven't been posting stories on Instagram while ignoring me but Saturday night rolls around and neither of them had responded back. Nor today, what's up?

VictorMachiavelli · Answer

For whatever reason they're not interested. If they leave you on "unread" rather than "read" they saw that you messaged them, and they chose not to open it.

It seems to me that what happened in both cases is that there were too many complications and too much time in between dates.

Women, especially if they're single and attractive, have a lot of options. They're constantly being hit on and asked out. If they're not completely focused on you because they haven't seen you recently, they're going to have their head turned by someone else. At which point, if there's still some level of attraction, you get demoted to "plan B".

In today's world both speed and momentum matter. If you meet her and the first date goes well, you have to make the second date within a week at most, otherwise you either lose momentum, or another guy beats you to it.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Bro leave her

We went on a date 3 months ago. I just got back into town and she says she wants to meet again. Then when I invite her to dinner leaves me on unread?

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