Do you believe girls mature faster?

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I am not talking physically. We all know that in general girls develop physically earlier than guys do. I mean the mental matureness.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

Not really. Socially, yea girls are way smarter and more mature. I don't know about much else. I think so much less is expected from them that it makes them seem more mature. Both genders do stupid things for sure but at least the guys seem to at least understand when they're being reckless.

A good example which I think illustrates my point would be some of the car trouble kids I went to school with had.

There were dudes getting into trouble crashing their cars trying to drive too fast or show off. Which is fairly immature for sure. But what about all the ladies who got into car accidents which almost always involved another car, rarely included speeding or peer pressure or anything other than just not paying attention to the task at hand.

2 girls I went to school with flipped their jeeps over and knowing them, I have no doubt that one was on FaceTime and the other I know for a fact had been drinking that night, was listening to loud music and wasn't listening to her friends telling her to slow down when the tires started lifting off.

If you ask me, there's a big difference in terms of maturity between getting hurt from something stupid that you were peer pressured into or you felt like you had to, and getting hurt doing something stupid because you just weren't thinking about anything.

And the biggest difference to me is that the guys would at least be embarrassed after. They'd say it was their fault, they would talk to their friends about what they're going to do next time. " oh, I guess I can't go that fast" "he had a nicer car, I really shouldn't have gunned it through that bend" and they'll know deep down that they should probably just not put themselves in that situation or at least learn more about cars so the chances of that happening again are lower.

What did the girls do when something like that happened? They blamed it on anything they could. "well, the tires were bald and that's why it flipped over" "she was rushing me" "my boyfriend pissed me off" "I don't know cars like that"

I remember thinking to myself: so you can get my dick in your vagina in reverse cowgirl no problem, but you don't get the concept that when the car is leaning all the way over, maybe something is wrong?

And then they would get babied and you know what adults would do if you asked why we all went so easy on them? They'd shrug and smile as if to say "what do you expect" which I don't really disagree, but to sit there and say they're more mature because they know how to present themselves better at a young age is just silly to me.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

They used to - not so much anymore.

The main reason anyone matures is by accepting responsibility, and in the past, both boys and girls had more responsibilities at a much younger age than is typical today, but it could be argued that girls often had responsibilities at younger ages than boys.

Today, there is, on average, less expectation on most teens to grow up and take on full responsibility for themselves A lot of women and also plenty of men spend most of their 20s avoiding responsibilities, and that's retarding growth and delaying success in life significantly, as well as having a devastating effect on families (in many cases, there isn't one).

Fot women specifically, the Pill and other BC, welfare and Child Support have also vastly lowered the bar of responsibility with very negative results. Those come out of the 1960s, but didn't become widespread until the 70s, so my generation (GenX) is really the first to feel the full impact of it, and it hasn't been good.

Anyway, I think the statement was probably true for a long time, but I don't think it's true any longer, generally. You can always find individual exceptions, but I'm talking about the majority.

silyt_ghoest · Accepted Answer

I don’t think they do naturally. We cannot deny that we live, less so then in the past, but we live in a patriarchal society. And we still use what happened when it was much much worse for women as ideals now. not only that, but a lot of the time girls are sexualized from a young age and more is expected of them when it comes to more adult things. This isn’t really an everyone thing, there are lots of guys who were sexualized and expected to be mature too young and lots of girls who weren’t. I also think society just expects girls to be more mature, especially when you look at the way elementary school teachers act when a girl acts up vs a boy. I don’t know, I’ve never felt we naturally do, I’ve always felt it was due to the fact that for most of human history it’s been sort of forced upon us.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Girls don't mature faster, they are simply held accountable for their actions more than boys.

It's not like as soon as my period started I no longer had anymore childlike traits. I still wanted to play and get care and attention from my family and need everything that a child needs. Yet I was pretty much forced to stop playing with the children in my neighborhood. Meanwhile, here's a real conversation I had with my mother:

Mom: Ah leave, it, he (my brother) is just a kid.

Me: MOM HE'S 27 🤦‍♀️

coachTanthony · Answer

Yes because guys always have that child inside them wanting to play games

MrNameless · Answer

I do. But I think a really big factor is how the individual is raised, including the responsibilities they were given and who they hang out with (which goes hand in hand with nurture). Men and women are usually raised very differently.

Women are/were taught very early on as girls to be mindful, polite (on the outside), organized, help with the chores more, and overall be more cooperative. Guys as boys are generally given a lot more leeway when it comes to housework to the above stuff and have more freedom (this partially has to do with protecting girls). Guys have more freedom to do stupid shit as growing up, while parents are usually more protective of their daughters.

Women also have better role models than men growing up, but not having a father or father figure around will mess with girls too.

As a society, we need to raise women to be more independent ( a lot of them are now), and men to be more in tune with their emotions--as well as be more mindful and help out with house stuff.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They, kinda, have to. They have to deal with growing tits, having periods, taking better care of their bodies, worrying about getting pregnant. Boys of that same age group are still playing with toy trucks and cars, playing War, collecting baseball cards, having fun, etc..

Honest-Matt · Answer

People mature based on how they grow up. You can have someone who's 60 and never really took on hard challenges in their life that develop someone into an exemplary adult. The coin can be flipped the other way and people very early have to go through hardships and decisions that make them mature fast. It's not based on sex, it's based on life.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

@_maya_ - have you read some of the posts & responses to comments on this forum? There's a LOT of users who identify themselves as "men" in their 30s or 40s or older and yet they act worse than a toddler experiencing the terrible 2s. And they continue with such even if other users post websites / valid information refuting their claims.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I think my view may be a little controversial. I think girls start maturing a lot earlier and faster than boys. Usually around 12 or 13, but they hit a plateau around 16-18, where they stay until their late 20’s. Where they kind of go through another type of puberty. Whereas boys start maturing at 15-16, and continue at a slower pace until their 30’s. Obviously not everyone fits this mold, but so many girls I knew in school I met later on in my 20’s and seemingly hadn’t changed mentally or emotionally since high school with a lot of very naive perspectives on life.

Unit1 · Answer

No.

There are immature 60-something year olds still stuck on the whole "alpha male" bullshit.

And there are adult women putting high emphasis on social media. To the point they act like I do not exist if I do not have an instagram account.

And then there are 16 year olds, who speak as if they've lived through life before. Like they have wisdom from a previous life, which was not subscribing to the "alpha male" bullshit or social media's takeover over human lives.

Maturity is relative to each individual.

worldscolide · Answer

In my personal experience, maturity is subjective. Physically, yeah girls mature faster. From my personal experiences some women mature faster mentally, while others remain behaving as if they are still in high school at the age of 30, and barely understand the concept of taking care of one's self.

I was on my own at the age of 16. I had to grow up fast. Most women I knew when I was in my early 20's who were between the ages of 20 and 30 were still living with parents and would not have survived what I went through.. Hell now that I'm in my 40's the issue has gotten worse not better.. And I see a person's ability to survive on their own as a massive indicator of maturity.

Anonymous · Answer

in my experience i think girls are expected to deal with more from a younger age and there are more longstanding socialised expectations of girls having to be more mature compared to boys, from parents and schools it's like boys can be boys but girls are meant to be a certain way, then we grow up and there are even more expectations from family, work/school, media - obviously i think this is more determined by circumstances and environment, a rich girl from a happy home life probably won't mature as fast as a girl growing up in poverty looking after her family or any other circumstance etc

ShellyB · Answer

I think so, I could try to guess or explain why, but I would say a lot of the same things as other people. But as an example when I was 14, I was often taking care of small kids with no adults around, when. my brother was 14, he was playing Xbox and I would look out the back window when he was supposed to be mowing the yard and see him sword fighting with tree branches w people who were not there.

Lynx122 · Answer

It's not a question of believing it's proven. Girls are almost 2 years ahead of boys in high school with brain development. And that also affects maturity. It's funny cause girls caught up to boys in school in the 90s (in Europe and NA) and ever since then there's been an imbalance. But people don't seem to care about that. Of course there's also other factors that favor girls but developing faster is definitely a big edge.

Siri137 · Answer

Well, I'm over 30 now, and I still haven't matured, so... :D

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would say girls mature (mentally) in certain areas faster than guys but not all round. For example, girls mature faster with respect to relationships and finances because they put more time and effort into thinking about them early on. Whereas, guys mature more quickly when it comes to areas that require more confidence like being out on their own sooner than girls. They have no problem picking up and leaving for a job across the country, at an early age, etc.

McLlovin · Answer

What’s your definition of mature? For me mentally mature is being a responsible adult. Playing video games isn’t immature it’s a difference in interest. But society says, yes I know. I’m not a sheep. I think showing yourself nude on onlyfans is immature. Because your sacrificing your dignity for money which is just a digital version of a hooker.

being irresponsible in anyway is my only definition of being immature, because at that point what’s the difference between you and a child… age?

Kayla45 · Answer

Biologically women have to, throughout early history women were absolutely essential to produce offspring. Not saying they're not nowadays but during the early early years of humanity it was essential that they had as many babies as she could handle.

This is likely one of the theoretical possibilities as to why women develop faster at a younger age then men. It's all a biological cycle, hard coded into our genetics. ❤️

Daviddd5412 · Answer

Hmm probably. I give music lessons to kids and I've noticed every single one of the boys have trouble concentrating and practicing on their own. On the other hand, every girl student I've had has been very attentive and they always seem like they care what I'm talking about. I think their social skills are more advanced than the boys too. The boys do have a lot of energy though, I just don't know how to get them to direct that energy towards practicing.

Losalt · Answer

Yes and no.
Girls reach the point where the hormones calm down a bit more earlier then we men do.
And maturity really takes a break during puberty.
But at the same time it takes experience to reach real maturity.
And while it varies how fast we gain those it tends to take time to accumulate much experience...

Flatmanlewis · Answer

The question seems kind of open ended but I’d say they may mature at a younger age than some males but that’s no measure of actual maturity. Seems to me there are plenty of immature young women and men out there.

Constatine · Answer

No... i know so..

Girls are why why more mature on say 16 then boys.. boys wanna play.. boys just wanna have fun ( oh crap does where the girls.. sorry ) . You can see it clearly when they ask presents for their birthday.

Boys often ask games and other playable ( 😱 ) things.

" most " girls are asking more mature things.. because they are already thinking of their future.

clovertheminotaur · Answer

I think it's a myth that comes with how the masses view women versus men. I know plenty of women around my age or a bit older that now indulge in plushies, games, and things that are considered childish!

A lot of girls are pushed to mature fast, but society has gotten a bit better about not pushing it so hard. At least with my generation, both genders seem to mature at the same rate and I think it's a good thing :)

Pacquet · Answer

I think this depends on the definition of maturity. In this context I’d maybe define maturity as exercising restraint of one’s strengths. I think it’s difficult to completely ignore bias even subconsciously so to say one gender matures faster seems preemptive. What area in particular are we measuring maturity?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes in general girls can be years ahead of guys in terms of maturity.
This is most likely due to women having to become mothers at ever earlier ages and the lower relative level developmental demands upon them to fulfill this role.

Men by contrast historically had more educational and learned skills and thus took more time to Finnish growing up and learning them.

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

You have to understand first that when a boy turns into a man he knows that will have to spend the rest of his life caring for an entire family and for a lot of us working a 9 to 5 for the rest of your life isn't as exciting as it is being a boy and we tend to try and mix in being a kid with being an adult so it's easier to cope with the stress and I believe most guys would agree

RingOfFire · Answer

Yeah, girls definitely mature faster. I think its because of their biological clock and their need to bear children before they lose the ability to at a much younger age than men. So they have to get serious at a younger age to make that happen. Men can keep fooling around because the only clock they have is the one that stops ticking when they die. So nature makes girls mature faster to keep the human race alive!

aquamarine321 · Answer

Girls have always matured faster than boys , you can physically see that with boys and girls at the same age until puberty everything changes boys evolve into stronger, faster etc, plus through the ages men don’t need maturity to survive, it’s all about speed strength etc , only women need maturity to take care of their youngs but in this 21s century a lot of women haven’t matured and a lot of men don’t have balls , strength etc to survive

Apple1996 · Answer

Not by nature. By society yes we are forced to mature faster. Given lots of standards at a very young age while boys are allowed to act immature even up into their 20s

Rei13 · Answer

Women are held more accountable for their actions at a young age and are expected to be more mature so that probably has something to do with it, but yes women typically mature faster than men do

ManOnFire · Answer

If girls matured faster than guys they wouldn't keep making bad dating and relationship mistakes, and then calling it "being in love." Guys have made bad dating and relationship decisions as well, but they more often learn from those experiences. Girls will repeat the same mistakes even into womanhood.

Nylife20j · Answer

My woman is 28 so there's certain things that I've noticed that she needs to work on like her behavior of fighting you know. But we do have communication. That way we can understand each other well. If there any issues or what her feelings are. As long maturity. Depends

OddBeMe · Answer

No, boys are more immature. Researchers find initially in preteen years because of male sexual hormones, girls are more mature. But it’s the opposite. Boys are less. So no.

That’d be like saying Babe Ruth is a fast runner when up against John Goodman.

Sparkie460 · Answer

For the most part I'd say yes. Probably a good portion of girls mature faster than guys. Just like guys, some girls never mature no matter how old they are

dolemite58 · Answer

In some ways i think girls develop faster because they’re given much more attention and social opportunities at a younger age than guys are but in a lot of ways It’s a double edged sword though because i think society coddles women from certain things men are just expected to do so girls can be very immature in a lot of other ways.

Noether · Answer

Girls develop faster, but as they reach adulthood, their development slows down sooner than men’s and the dynamic switches. From the age of ~20 men’s brains consistently appear to be around 3 years older than women. Women age slower, die a bit later, and men that develop dementia begin to develop symptoms a few years earlier than women on average largely because of this.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

T'was a latent choice, I suppose.  Maturity comes with responsibility which is, more often than not, usually evident among growing girls than boys.

HopelessLord · Answer

I think probably yes and I have a reason for that even it may not be accurate in any way.

Most married couples with the husband being a couple of years older than the wife tend to understand eachother better and get along better; While in (most) couples where the wife is older or the same age as the guy they often don't get along that well and you feel the wife is quite parenting her partner. (No misoginysm intended)

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, I do believe girl mature faster mentally than guys... In fact women help guys to grow up.. That's not to say it's a good or bad thing.. Just emphasizes how men and women develop differently..

Mansearching · Answer

All depends on how they are raised and what has happened in past and present. I matured faster because of family issues/ problems. Had to take over a lot of household chores and stuff that at my age (at the time) males didn't do.

ohsheeT · Answer

When I was 5 years old I realized girls were smarter more outgoing and we're going to take over the world one day LOL And all these years later I still think the same way lol

minaed · Answer

I belive girl mature based on her environemnt; for an example; when you are youngest, and your mother is tired, or need help, the girl although she is young, she helps her mom, and try to take her of her whole family; but when maybe she get married, she might get back and try to be a little baby; with her husband/wife.

so based on the given circumstance she might be either.

Zenpanda · Answer

I think it's very partial to what you see as mature. Neither is completely mature before at least the age of 25 depending on circumstances which would force them to mature early.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i think a lot of people misconstrued immaturity in actions/behavior as immaturity on the mind and wordt even beinh dumb. don't judge my face or behavior judge what i say

Smashingdoozy · Answer

No girls are just told off if they act a certain way and boys do not get told off because "boys will be boys".

4ngelic · Answer

i think girls are expected to be more mature than guys which can make some grow up faster. but still i think that most girls aren't really that much more mature than dudes

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I’m pretty sure, on average, men are about 3-4 years behind girls in terms of maturity development from a young age

Jersey2 · Answer

I said yes. But girls and boys are fundamentally different and thunk differently. Girls conform faster but boys take more risks and deviate. I think you have to measure their maturity within their gender.

bingbongbangbung · Answer

Yeah but the problem with early bloomers is that once they reach their potential, that's basically it; while later bloomers not only eventually catch up, but often times surpass their peers in current skill and overall potential.

jb2622 · Answer

In terms of what? Are we talking socially, intellectually, physically? What's the bench mark for fast who is ahead at 10 20 30 years talking rate of development? I would argue that like intelligence over all and over the years average it's about the same you just see a bigger range of success and failure in men.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„Hmong girls over here fit in better. The girls go to college and the boys go to jail.“  - Sue Lor, Gran Torino

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes I do, but certainly not every girl. And the same goes for guys.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I mean, to a certain extent. If by "maturing" you mean prioritizing things like a steady career, house and family, then I would say Yes.

Meropatrick · Answer

No. Not at all. I have seen old petty PETTYYYYY women. and so immature. It depends on the person when it comes to maturity and not their gender

Vegasrunner · Answer

I've always believed woman mature mentally faster than men but then have their mental abilities stunted. That's why a 20 yro and 40yro woman have the same mental temperament.

adam6402 · Answer

Definitely. Guys keep doing dumb shit for years after girls stop.

kylee2437 · Answer

Yes. I’m a triplet and me and my sister have 100% got it together faster than my brother did

strateguy632 · Answer

mental same as all humans. not earlier faster.

Tessafowler03 · Answer

Oh yes. Men are immature well into their 30s

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Yes! I believe so. Women/girls tend to optimize brain connections earlier than men/boys.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

With all other factors of comparison being equal, I think so.

HSalenko · Answer

Don't see how that's possible, children are an odd and complicated bunch.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Mature isn't the right word I would use to describe it, because different factors play apart, I've known some 16 years old act maturer then people my age

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