Is it risky or even dangerous for the girl to be the one to initiate the conversation with a guy she doesn't know?

[laurieluvsit]

YES! Don't do it. He might take it that you are overly attracted to him and start stalking you

I would never do it in case he got the wrong impression

It is definitely up to the guy to initiate the conversation

It is OK for the girl to initiate the conversation with a strange guy, no harm

It depends on the situation, like if you are in a safe place and are not being too forward with him

OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the 'Female Initiated Conversation' Survey

[Benplus10]

Read the room first, right?
Trust your instincts. After all, a conversation is just talking. It’s not like you have to give any personal information. As you talk, see what develops, what’s your gut telling you?
Most guys are shy, insecure, or don’t have the confidence or skills to walk up and start a conversation with an attractive woman. Or if they do, it’s most likely a line to break the ice, and his evolutionary instinct to procreate.. have as many offspring as possible to ensure his genetics survive. Look at 95% of all animals. The biggest and strongest males will face off. The winner will spread his seed to many females who are in the herd. Loser, well they will go and practice their necessary skills so maybe next year after their rival is a little fatter, little slower, not as “hungry “, it will be their turn to father calves that have his genes.. it ensures only the fittest and healthiest can pass their dna on. It’s actually the meaning of life itself:to pass on your DNA,


Just be thankful you’re not a salmon. Spawn, then die

[Anonymous]

Of course it's risky for a girl to initiate the conversation with a guy she doesn't know! She might accidentally stumble upon some filthy, depraved monster like me, with a raging hard-on that could tear through concrete walls! But hey, isn't that half the fun? Me love it when a girl takes charge and shows off her wild, adventurous side, even if it means risking life and limb just to chat with me. Me mean, sure, me might say something creepy or weird or downright disgusting, but that's all part of the fun, right? So let's cut to the chase, baby girl. You wanna chat? Let's chat. Me promise me won't bite... unless you ask nicely.

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[VIVANT]

You’re not asking if it’s dangerous for a convo to be initiated right? You’re asking if it’s dangerous for HER to be “the one” as a poses to the guy?

I can’t see any reason why it’d be SAFER for the guy to initiate. I think it’s way better for women to be in control of interactions with stranger, for o think what should I he very obvious reasons. Basically all the stuff you put down is more risky if she is caught off guard, i e ‘the guy initiates.’

Now if you’re meaning to ask is it dangerous to talk to a stranger well totally spends of course.

Anyone arguing it’s safer for the women of the guy initials had nothing to do with safety and just someone holding onto antiquated idea did what is socially “acceptable” safety had zero to do with it.

in combat, is it safer to ‘be approached’ or ‘to approach’ 🤔

😂

[laurieluvsit]

Yes, just if it is ok and or safe for the girl to initiate the conversation.

Some aggressive guys seem to make more out of it than is meant is what I am saying

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on the environment. If it’s just you and a random guy alone in a private area, then yes it’s potentially dangerous and I wouldn’t do it. But if you’re in an environment packed with people, go for it! There’s always a risk that it could turn sour, unfortunately that’s just how it is, but if there’s people around - if he tries anything horrible, there’s witnesses and hopefully kind people who will intervene.

[laurieluvsit]

Gold Star opinion for sure Ms PDB :)

[Anonymous]

He will surely get wrong impression even if you're a very beautiful girl. Saying it from some girl's experience. Guys generally take girls for granted when girls make a first move no matter if it's even simply a hello

[Opinion Owner]

You can always trust the guys who initiates with you first but never the guys that you first initiate with. They will build up their male ego and play with the girl like a football by using her, abusing her, harassing her, making her life hell if she doesn't satisfy their desires. Even if she satisfies their desires they will most possibly use her till they get what they want and leave her. They treat her like an item or sex instrument and play with her and with her life

[laurieluvsit]

I understand you. There is more truth in what you are saying than most probably realize. Thank you.

[blueonblack22]

You should have the common sense to know if it’s a safe place or not to initiate the conversation. Would you talk to a stranger at 3AM next to a dark alley? Or what if it’s in a grocery store or a gym in the middle of the day? Also women usually have strong intuition to know the “vibe” of the environment and/or the guy.

In reality many women often fear looking “desperate” or some nonsense for just saying hello to a guy they like. They don’t want to out in the effort and risk of being rejected. Even in modern times most women are still like this.

It isn’t “desperate” just to smile and say hello to a man that you like. If he’s interested/available then 9 times out of 10 he will likely take the conversation from there (unless you caught him when he’s in a bad mood or something).

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Of course it's risky and dangerous.

You never know who's a rapist or serial killer out there.

If I have a question that I can answer by myself, I've avoided the risk of endangering myself to a probably-dangerous stranger.

I may be a confident woman but I'd have some good sense to avoid potentially harmful situations.

[laurieluvsit]

Yet another Gold Star reply :)

[Anonymous]

Initiating a conversation with someone you don't know can be perfectly safe and is not inherently dangerous. However, it's important to use common sense and be aware of your surroundings. In many social situations, it's completely normal for anyone, regardless of gender, to start a conversation. Trust your instincts, meet in public places, and be cautious about sharing personal information until you get to know the person better. Communication and boundaries are key to ensuring a safe interaction.

[kaylaS91]

Risky? Sure. Just ask risky as a guy taking the initiative to approach a woman... rejection is always a possible result but you won't know unless you try.

Dangerous? Uhh.. maybe? Though tbf, if it's a danger for women to practice autonomy, you're probably somewhere where being a woman is dangerous in general.

[johnnydeeeep]

Very good points made and you articulated both similarly well.

[provokeesmokee]

I mean, it depends on the situation, but generally it would be safe to start talking to a guy.

Just not if he's blatantly creepy, predatory, or gross. Or gives you bad vibes.

And always smart, no matter the gender of the person you're speaking to, to have an exit plan and route if you aren't sure if you'll be safe.

[mstbooblover]

To be honest I'd love a girl to initiate a conversation with me, and in general I guess the girl uses her instinct when it comes to being safe or not. Sometimes we must just dare and take at least a calculated risk, I mean as well on behalf of the girl as the guy. Must still be taken into account the circumstances.

[nonyabeez-wax]

As long as you don't start off with blairing red flags, or going straight to "date me" - it shouldn't be a problem.

Just as men shouldn't go up to women and say stuff like "hey, wanna fuck?"

Women shouldn't also, not do that. Its gross, and a redflag.

If you are genuinely interested in a guy, it should be okay to walk up to him and ask about his hobbies or something you might be into.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think it puts a girl in any less of a situation than if the guy approaches and asks for her number. It may be better for her to approach and ask for his number so he has no way of contacting her. She can decide after speaking with them if she wants to connect later on.

Alternatively, if she shares her number and he turns out to be a nutcase she's put herself in a bit of a predicament as he now has her number.

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends on the culture you are raised in. In some, initiating conversations with unknown guy is considered a crime.

But in general, women are weaker in physical aspects so, I wouldn't start any conversation in the dark alley.

[Avcfhcic]

At the rate society is going, no one will approach anyone as they fear the risk of being viewed as offensive.
People should not be put off talking to the other gender, it's needed to survive.

[jamesgoldman]

Societally designed to reduce to population much easier the eugenics or outright genocide

[82lynx]

I’ve been burned one too many times already, so if a girl were to show interest in me I would have to evaluate the possibility that I’m being put on. Besides, I have no interest in casual dating. Whatever her intentions were, my protection mode would kick in and she would likely be underwhelmed by my response.

[Danny_dan92]

There is a risk to doing everything in life. Just because human’s live in cities and not in the jungle/caves like we used too long ago. Our barbaric tendencies are still within us.






Just some people have no control of it while others are more civilized

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah it's fine.. Most men would never physically hurt a woman unless it's the most extreme of circumstances.. Yeah, some guys may go too far and cross boundaries but a lot of men today seem to be more afraid of women than women are afraid of men unfortunately.. Truth is a lot of us are pretty pleasantly surprised when a woman takes initiative to talk..

[JHAYES317]

In most cases, I’d say that’s totally fine. As long as she is in a public place with plenty of lighting around, she should be good. In fact, I’d encourage it. However, I wouldn’t recommend she walk into a secluded part of town at midnight pretty woman style and just ask a random guy out.

[Anonymous]

Why so many guys her commenting whetever a girl should approach a stranger or not like thats up to them?

We men sometimes forgett that women life in a world were their typical favoured sexual partner usually at least twice as strong/taller and furthermore statistically more prone to violence than herself.

For a guy that would be the equalivent of having to date a strong man with known cases of roid rage.

[strateguy632]

because we WANT them to approach me/us if they are attracted or even just curious

[DB1973]

Would not mind, as long as it was sincere and she felt safe and knew my own motivations.
We would need to be on the same wave length.
Main thing is make sure it’s a safe environment/place/situation. Dont do it to some random cab driver who talks fast and smells of salami. 🤷‍♂️.
Use your gut instinct! Most women like yourself have one, or you would not be asking.

[Mark987]

If she has an attraction to him it doesn't matter. The older I get though.. you want me to make sure the other person can hold a conversation with you if there is an attraction. I have been fortunate enough that any women I have been with the conversation was always flowing. There was never a moment of silence, maybe for the first time you both have a conversation.

[Bethany22]

I don't have enough testosterone in me to initiate a conversation with a stranger. Maybe I'd flirt with him by smiling, but then I'd still worry if maybe he's taken, and I'd be breaking sisterhood trust.

[SunnyRS]

Being too forward is not the issue here, in the option I chose but a safe place should be a priority when initiating a chat with a stranger, as you don't know how they will react.
If you like them and talking to them is easy you can be forward to them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've had 7 women ask me out in the past two months and somehow the world didn't go spinning off axis into the sun, ending life as we know it. Guess it's okay then.