Is it normal for a girl to not address her mental health and to go from relationship to relationship?

[Anonymous]

Like each relationship has failed but instead of getting mental health treatment she blames the current guy for the issues and the cycle continues. Also when does it become more then about her when does it start becoming a conversation about her deciding to destroy an innocent guys mental health with her unaddressed issues

[Sofargone93]

It's not normal but there's a trend of certain groups of women calling all their ex's narcissistic or controlling. It's always somebody else's fault or there's an excuse for why they did what they did with zero accountability. Men will get with these women not Knowing who she really is. The crazy stuff starts to happen after you have sex.. then it all comes out because you owe her.. if you really want to save youself the trouble. Ask her ex and see if anything matches up. You'll find the truth in a lie.

[Asker]

Yeah man I invested my whole heart into this relationship and what I got in return was someone who was verbally and physically abusive. She would routinely call me a stupid motherfucker, called me a stupid bitch, smacked me in the back of my head. She constantly called me a nuisance we also had a dog that we got together she would call him a nuisance she would hit and kick him, she slammed him on his crate leaving a massive dent in the crate that I constantly look at and think about to this day. I guess I always believed if you were a good guy that things would work out prior to this I never had a relationship with me being autistic it wasn’t something I thought was gonna happen so when it did I was so excited thinking that it was a change of fortune. I fully invested my whole heart into the relationship anytime she needed me I was there by her side, I always bought her things randomly if I thought she might like it. I would spontaneously do dinner dates. I took her to a live performance of one of her favorite shows. Her sister fell on hard times and I let her stay in my old apartment so she wouldn’t be homeless until the lease expired which still had 4 months. Her mom constantly said I was her future son in law her whole family liked me until the end. When I would stand back up to the bullying that the girl was doing her family and friends started to shift more towards her side and completely ignore the fact that it went beyond just verbal abuse that this girl was physically hitting me and our dog.

[Sofargone93]

You did the right thing by leaving. If you would have done anything to her you would still be wrong. So damn if you do. Damn if you don't. Walk away before you give away your freedom for one woman. It will never be worth it. Being a good guy is the best thing to be but you and I both know good guys dont win with women who have an independent mindset.

[Anonymous]

it is normal but it shouldn’t be. i know a few girls like this and they are insufferable. it’s hard for a guy to not take personally but it genuinely almost always has nothing to do with the guy. it does go both ways. i was messed over by this guy cuz he unwell and it took me a really long time to get over even though i was mentally healthy before the situation. but girls who jump from relationship to relationship have a void in their soul, they won’t find the answer externally though