My therapist keeps convincing me that I’m autistic / neurodivergent but I don’t think I am. She’s also very liberal. Should I get a new one?

[Anonymous]

By liberal I also want to imply that she has some radical views of men and stuff which in turn affects me because I’m wanting to attract a man who’s like masculine. She said I should make more friends with autistic people and date someone who is also neurodivergent. I don't know it makes me feel uncomfortable and now I overthink all my interactions with my friends.

[noemiii]

I’m autistic, and the spectrum of it runs so vast she might see specific autistic traits in you but that’s not always the best way to tell. I would get a new one and not mention your old one brought up that you might be autistic and see what they say. Like, don’t even bring it up at all. At the end of the day a therapist is supposed to make you feel comfortable and there are definitely bad therapists so if she makes you feel uncomfortable then yes, time for a new one.

[Chayce]

Where is your avi from? It’s dope

[Asker]

Yeah I just feel like it’s weird because she told me I should join a Facebook group or go on bumble to find neurodivergent friends. If anything I am just super deep and perceptive and a lot of people aren’t.

[noemiii]

Not really weird, like I said I’m autistic and I’m the same way, she may have misdiagnosed or maybe she is right. It’s always better to get a second opinion.

[noemiii]

@Chayce I forgot, sorry

[IslaTheWitch]

Ask your therapist to run tests on you; then, you both will carry some data in hand. There are various test suits for the autism spectrum, including Asperger's Syndrome.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s just expensive and time consuming.

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends on whether you want to know or you want someone to assume.

[AmeerX]

Autistic or not, lots of people say their children are autistic etc etc. look the cold truth is if you lead a normal life you don't need labels from some doctor especially if you are functioning properly

[Asker]

And I don’t think it’s worthwhile. I think if I’ve made it to my late 20s without tons of issues I think I can function just fine. My mom said she doesn’t think I’m autistic either.

[AmeerX]

I think your Mom is right.
Look, only need to worry about autism is when it interferes with your everyday life. You are normal otherwise.

My classmates used to act weird back in kindergarten but it didn't mean they were autistic. These doctors don't understand that especially children when they single them out and give them special treatment end up harming their development. Sadly, who's to say this to parents who will take "Professional help" over a man or woman who have been with children

[jahaims]

Get a 2nd opinion but don't completely disregard her opinion. Autism falls on a large spectrum. If you grew up masking I could see why you think you aren't neurodivergent.

[genericname85]

in all medical questions it can be a very good idea to get a second opinion. maybe evena third. specially before you take any serious medication.

[HelpfulWoman]

couldn't hurt to get a second opinion.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Just get checked out by someone else

[KrakenAttackin]

Have you done the testing?

[Asker]

Nope! And I don’t think it’s worthwhile. I think if I’ve made it to my late 20s without tons of issues I think I can function just fine. My mom said she doesn’t think I’m autistic either.

[KrakenAttackin]

Testing doesn't hurt. Simply going through a battery of tests can help validate/invalidate your specific challenges and gifts.

[Asker]

I just don’t think it’s hindering my success in anyway. If I felt it was affecting my functioning then maybe.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... Fair enough.