Why does society shame mom bods but praise dad bods?

[Apple1996]

Mom bod

It doesn't make sense... The dads didn't even do any of the hard work growing the baby. I think it's time for mom bods to become a trend instead of the dad bods

Dad bod

[wolfcat87]

Both get shamed, and both get appreciated. It really just depends on the crowd. Mom bods are definitely another category where it's mostly incels and women fussing over them. No guy has ever looked at my body and even been able to tell I'm a mom, so... On a lot of women it's not even easily noticed unless we point it out.

Some women get some serious stretch marks though, and that might be what's actually off-putting for some. A man with a ton of belly stretch marks will likely get the same judgement as a woman with them. They can be very unsightly on men and women. I know I'd have the same reaction if either took off their shirt and had them.

Same for fat. Fat men and fat women both get judgement. Arguably, fat women have a much easier time getting laid. Same cna be said for women with stretch marks vs men with stretch marks.

My friend had 5 kids, and 2 were twins. She has ridiculous stretch marks from it. That being said, I still found her attractive after, and her husband certainly does. So, it's not really an issue to people who matter.

[menina]

Because women's bodies are always more judged than men's bodies. It doesn't matter if a woman gains or loses weight, her body will be always "ugly".

Besides people expect women to always look perfect. That's not realistic and it's also unfair.

I agree with you.

[menina]

Thank you for the MHO.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know but, I got to see mom's completely naked body shortly before she died a few years ago (I had to help the nurse change her clothes in bed one day) and, for as old as she was and for as bad as I'd always imagined her body to be (she was always wearing one-piece bathing suits when swimming, like she was ashamed of it), she had a pretty nice looking body at 81!! It actually looked better than any of the 3 girls I ever fucked!
I guess it's because society puts a LOT of stock into how a woman's body should look and, if it doesn't look that good, or as good as some teen girl would look, she gets shamed and embarrassed for it.

[Apple1996]

Oh no sorry to hear about your mom. At least she looked good at the end of her life

[FunkyMonkee]

Thanks.
Yeah, I guess she did.
And that was just about on my b-day! She died 6 days after my b-day. They only confined her to bed a few weeks before she died and she just withered away pretty fast after that. After a week or two of not being allowed to do anything, she couldn't even lift the t. v. remote. It was too heavy for her.

[TCredo]

Mom bod fan here :)

But to the question, I think it's a forever-old (and wrong) double-standard with overall female ideals even for non-Mom bods. Possibly becoming worse with the onslaught of social media - and the prevalence of photoshopping. Unfortunately this will likely get worse with the AI tidal wave.

[Apple1996]

Social media is making it wayy worse

[TCredo]

100% and the accelerator is the "influencer" BS - it's like the old-way of magazine or TV ad models (unrealistic) amplified - filling young folks social media feeds. It's pretty sad actually.

[Anonymous]

It's all part of the anti-natalist, and anti-white agenda. White/Western people in particular are encouraged not to have children.

What better way to scare women off than to convince them that they'll be completely unattractive if they do?

[Apple1996]

You are right. It's the childless movement scaring women

[supercutebutt]

LOL. "Anti-white agenda." Elon Musk, is this you?

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

In short, people are assholes. Perhaps, if we didn't watch so much media and idolize individuals, this would be less of a problem.
I'm not suggesting that people give up a healthy lifestyle and let themselves go.

I think we all need to quit portraying, or projecting an expectation of perfection or unreasonable beauty standards on each other.

[4ngelic]

i think its just that society judges you harder on your looks if your a girl than a guy. no one is saying dad bods are hot, guys just aren't judged as badly for being out of shape basically

[Apple1996]

True women are judged more than men in general

[DextroShade]

A woman's looks are her main commodity to the opposite sex. A man's main commodities are status and resources, which a fat man can still have.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Two thoughts come to mind:

1.) Are "dad bods" really praised in a serious way that often? From direct personal experience, I believe most of the time we're praised in more of a comical/sarcastic way, and not really in a serious way.

2.) There's a portion of the female population (albeit small) that are "chubby chasers".

[blueonblack22]

Spot on about #1. Virtually any fat dad bod guy I’ve known who was relatively successful with women always had a sense of humor about it. He’s never broke either. He’s always making at least above average income.

At best women like “dad bods” out of insecurity reasons. They think these guys are less likely to cheat given they aren’t exactly eye candy. But it’s usually because these guys know how to turn negative attention into positive attention. Many male comedians are overweight.

I have to give credit where credit is due on that one.

[wolfcat87]

@blueonblack22 Not really, muscles are interesting when we are ovulating, but dad bods are much comfier for cuddling when we are not. Like squishy teddy bears. Habve you ever tried to plop your face onto a six pack? It hurts!

[NYCQuestions1976]

@wolfcat87 Facts. I've never had any women hurt their faces on my body. 😂

[blueonblack22]

@wolfcat87 @NYCQuestions1976 damn you both are making me feel guilty lol.

I’m a very athletic guy. I had a washboard stomach most of my life. I’m getting older now so it isn’t exactly like it was at 24 for my abs are still visible. But still maybe I should of exchanged one 6 pack drink for another lol.

I have to say though I have had a few flings with much younger women in the last 5 years. While I am not babyfaced anymore I did absolutely love the pleasantly surprised look on their faces when they got my shirt off in bed.

But still I wonder about what you are saying about them not having a soft pillow to lay their head on. 🤣🤣🤣

[Screenwriter]

I never thought dad bods were ever "praised." They were just accepted. I don't know why that actor was ever porky like that, but he's slimmed down and buffed up for the Guardians of the Galaxy film series. It's never been an attractive look.

And it is true, some women's skin never recovers despite weight loss after childbirths, especially multiple ones.

All either sex can do is be as fit and eat as well as possible to look as good as possible.

[Mansearching]

My girlfriend has a mom bod. I love it. I've got ultimate dad bod. She loves it. Woman in pic is just fine nothing wrong with it.

But if I was with her and she decided that she wanted a mommy lift, I'd support her. If she did nothing, I'd support her. In other words I'd love her and be there for her no matter what.

[EmyyWolf]

Because it’s a man’s world, and that’s entitled men are.

[EmyyWolf]

THATS HOW ENTITLED MEN ARE”

[Apple1996]

For real they are entitled about everything

[EmyyWolf]

And when they mean Dad Bods. They don’t actually mean the dude you posted. They mean someone with good muscle genes.
Like this dude

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That’s a minority of men. And only SOME look good with a Dad-Bod.

[Anonymous]

I think everyone should like what they're attracted to and not what others say is "trendy" to be attracted to. I was NEVER into what people call "dad bods" which really is just FAT out of shape men bodies, chris Pratt was not even a dad there and he now AS A DAD has a way better body, so the term is ridiculous.

if I'm ever into a fat man is because I fell in love with him and when you love someone you tend to love all about them even their weird imperfections. but being out of shape in general is unattractive to most in general by nature.

[blueonblack22]

Right now modern feminists are try to relentlessly shame and blame men for not being attracted to overweight women. There is a huge concerted movement behind it with “fat acceptance” and forcing companies like Victoria’s Secret to feature “plus size” models.

Anyway the vast majority of guys I know are NOT attracted to that body shape. There are a small minority of “chubby chasers” but those are rare.

But attraction is NOT a choice. A man can’t willfully change his preferences on what he finds attractive vs what he doesn’t. That doesn’t mean he can be unrealistic i. e. a morbidly obese man can’t expect a fitness model to fall in love with him at first sight.

But still blaming fit/athletic guys for not noticing big girls is absolutely ridiculous.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't think that is true or milfs wouldn't be a thing

[Apple1996]

Very true

[Kingofkings1992]

There will always be some men who believe that women are not allowed to have any flab on their body. These type of men view women as children who exist for our pleasure. Do not pay these men any mind.

[Apple1996]

For real some men think all women should be stick thin. It's weird like everyone's body is different

[ZackBan]

Only women shame other women.

Men would find a missing arm sexy if the rest was a friendly woman.

And dad bods are not praised they are fetishized there is a difference.
No one is encouraged to get a dad bod going but some girls will claim they like a dad bod on a man

[RedInnocent68]

Part of it, unfortunately, is biology. Moms are spent/already used up, and lose the ability to bear young as they get get older. They have an important social role, but are less desirable to men as breeding stock. Dads on the other hand bring some modicum of maturity, stability, and proven success that makes them attractive to both older and younger females.

[Apple1996]

Women that have already had kids are more fertile than the women that haven't had kids yet so what you are saying doesn't make sense. Moms aren't used up

[RedInnocent68]

I don’t disagree, to a point. After 40 it becomes more challenging. But a 50 year old guy can still knock up a 20 year old, if she lets him. Biologically, if you’re spreading your seed, you’re going to prefer the pretty young things when you can get them. That’s not meant to discredit any of the fine MILFs 😉

[Apple1996]

A 50 year old dad is not good quality man to mate with because of the risks to mom and baby. Dad's sperm forms the placenta so it determines how the baby grows and all that. I personally wouldn't have a baby with a man past 30

[RedInnocent68]

Again, I don’t disagree. I know Victoria’s Secret, he’s an old man who lives in Ohio…

[wolfcat87]

Half of men aren't even having kids anymore, so they really don't care if a woman can have kids. Out of the men who have had kids, many have had vasectomies, so it's a moot point again. And, male fertility drops by 25% a year after the age of 40. Old men aren't that fertile either. I've known lots of guys in their 20's and 30's who had sex with women who'd gone through menopause. they thought it was great, because it meant no condom, no birth control, and no worrying about pregnancy. That being said, there are tons of unexpected pregnancies in women after 40, because they've been told it can't happen and it does. Even with menopausal women, complete loss of fertility can take a decade after menopause starts.

[patrick994]

In my opinion, it is because today's society tends to be more unfairly rigid towards women, but again, I have never heard dads' bodies praised.

[Likes2drive]

I never get praise when I did have a dad bod sometimes so I don’t know why they say that

[Apple1996]

I don't think the praise or shame is directly specifically on people. It's more in general

[Likes2drive]

Yeah it’s more like something you hear but never notice

[dolemite58]

dad bod’s aren’t praised at all 😂 I thought they were just tolerated because men are expected to provide money no matter what while women can choose to stay home and have kids. I know pregnancy is hard on women but i wouldn’t consider it “hard work”. you make it sound like difficult physical labor is involved like being a construction worker 🤣

[Apple1996]

It is extremely hard work to create a whole human. It's the equivalent of running a marathon everyday and never getting a break for 9 months

[dolemite58]

running a marathon everyday? gtfo here 🤣 ur always patting urself on the back about how difficult uve made ur own life

[Apple1996]

There have been studies proving this

[Apple1996]

www.scarymommy.com/pregnancy-marathon-endurance-athlete

[DextroShade]

That source is trash.

[Christoff92]

Because they use women who are fit and Sculpted for sex just to enhance many multi million dollar fashion and cosmetic industries. Especially Pornography and social networking like Onlyfans, Tinder, OkCupid, etc.

[Joshydavid25]

Tell that to the moms on Reddit getting all types of attention.. Especially a woman that looks like that.. "Mom bods" are pretty damn sexy in my eyes.. A lot of women say they want "dad bods" but what they really want is a muscular guy with a slight belly..

[Date_a_Snob]

Men and women are held to different standards

It's the same reason people compliment a man when they see him looking after/spending time with kids

[krin_m]

in my opinion Mom bods are perfectly fine, dad bods are ugly :-)

[Apple1996]

I agree

[Itsa85mf]

I agree as well

[blueonblack22]

You’re kidding right? You don’t see dad bods on the cover of Men’s Health but there were plenty of “plus size”models on the cover of Victoria’s Secret.

Fat guys have more self deprecating humor though.