Is it out of the norm for women to eat by themselves at restaurants?

[Boomchakalaca]

I constantly see men by themselves order food or drinks, but when a lady sits by themselves it’s not as common. Also I tend to see more older people sitting a lone than young folks.

I ate at a restaurant cuz it’s my bucket-list to do things by myself like going to the movies, shopping, etc. my waiter was a dude who was asking questions about why i am alone and if I’m okay lol 💀 we had nice talks about where we were from and stuff so thats nice.

[WindAtMyBack]

I agree that it's far more common for men to eat alone than women.

I ate out a lot most of my life. Usually every day, and commonly twice a day. Most of the time I went alone. For me, going out to eat was "me time". It was time to just relax and read a book. I usually noticed if a woman was alone because it's not as common.

It was common for the server to pass me by when they were checking on other tables. I could see them slow and hesitate when they saw me reading a book. I think they didn't want to disturb me. Since I ate out so much, I knew a lot of the servers. They'd usually stop and chat. But the new ones tended to pass me by when I was reading.

[RavVid]

Women seem to be reluctant to eat by themselves or go to movies by themselves. It is not as if they can't, they just don't like to in general is my take.

I have been asked to sit with a woman while she ate so she wasn't on her own.

In contrast I like eating by myself and prefer to concentrate on the food without conversation distracting.

It is out of the norm for women to eat by themselves because they don't seem to like it. God knows what stops them. Maybe they think it will look like nobody likes them.

[DizzyDesii]

Likely not the norm. But the few times i choose to eat alone, I hate that they place me at a bar. I want a table. And if i get a table, then its always several waiters trying to tend to me back and forth because ALL of them are trying to get tipped, not just one. Thats pretty annoying too

[Boomchakalaca]

Booth >

[DizzyDesii]

I agree.

[RavVid]

I hate bar stools. I'd walk out if there were free tables and they wanted me to sit at the bar. Usually I just ignore any "Wait to be Seated" and plonk myself down where I like.

[DizzyDesii]

@RavVid lmao 😄

[Altheavas]

Danm, I’ll do anything alone, I feel independent, I feel empowered doing certain things alone.

[Likes2drive]

It’s not as common for women because they either have a boyfriend or friends to go out with. Not like men where most of us are single and have less friends when older, I’m tired of doing everything alone

[Boomchakalaca]

All true. So ig its weird for a young girl to eat alone bc the hostessss were looking at me oddly when i said 1 table. Then my male waiter was comforting me like a therapist 💀

[Likes2drive]

Yeah it was probably odd to them

[NamerOfStars]

Last I checked, even single women need to eat. But since women tend to have better-developed social networks and don't have the stigma of implied romantic/sexual interest if they're out with someone, they're probably less likely to be alone. And since they get significantly more empathy, people NOTICE if they are.

But wait- was it THIS SPECIFIC restaurant that was on your bucket list, or had you somehow made it to 21 having never eaten at a restaurant before?

[molonski2]

Strange Bucket list you have. I love going to the movies alone , reason being I love the movies , and I like to make spur of the moment decisions , some of these have been so good , another person , they talk me out of instinct , and I end up watching some thing I don't want , plus I despise popcorn , I don't want to see it or smell it , or feel it..

Women , on their own , you are correct of course this should be acceptable , out of the norm? Probably.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep now that I think of it, it is kinda weird to think of lol

[Boomchakalaca]

Lol like u seen older ladies by themselves but i ant never seen a young girl eating alone at a DINER

[ChicoFromThe305]

Most of the time even older women have some form of company, but for the most part yea, it's unusual ha

[LiamJHayden]

I will go out to eat alone frequently, but I rarely see a lady alone.

[Boomchakalaca]

Thats what im saying

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It might be. But as long as you're enjoying your time eating by yourself and the food is good, I see nothing wrong with it. For me I like eating dinner with other people. Helps me slow down and enjoy my meal a lot better.

[Apple1996]

Women dont eat out alone. We just take the food to go and eat like little depressed rats in our cars

[AmeerX]

😂😂

[Apple1996]

@AmeerX I do this way too often lol

[AmeerX]

But you are not supposed to be depressed 😂

[Apple1996]

@AmeerX ah I'm a mom so I'm very depressed lol

[IslaTheWitch]

I do it from time to time. But never noticed that it was seen as strange or out of the norm :)

[BoopBoopBeep]

I work in D. C. I see single women eating alone all the time. With less frequency married women, but they are doing it as well.

[Bricealan]

Don't even think about it... very normal... but some bozo will probably try to sit down with you !

[bededazzle]

yes, as it is for men too, but it's nice to go out by yourself sometimes. i usually do for my birthday lol

[Jazzy54]

Whether it is or not, I’ve done it plenty of times. 😌

[Bricealan]

@Jazzy54 Well shoot... Jazzy, I wish I had seen you, I would have TRIED to sit down and offer to buy you a drink?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t think most people eat out by themselves in restaurants unless they’re working and having a lunch break at a local fast food restaurant near by

[Andres77]

aren't you kinda young to have a bucket list?

[Boomchakalaca]

Aren’t you kinda old?

[Andres77]

Work with me, I’m not busting on you for being young. I’ve been around the world a few times. I’ve met presidents and ambassadors and generals and mayors. I’ve been an honored guest on a few other occasions. I’ve given speeches in a second language in front of dignitaries. I’ve coordinated in embassies around the world. I’ve taught doctrine, I’ve written doctrine, I’ve helped rewrite doctrine. I’ve had my students in the FBI, CIA, DOS, DIA, in the bowels of the Pentagon. I’ve earned a bucket list.
IMHO, you need to earn a bucket list.
You seem smart. I’m sure you’re on your way. At your age and with your brains, you might never need one. You might be able to achieve everything that you could hope for and not need a bucket list.
I’m not projecting anything negative to you. I’m not better than you. I’m just years ahead. By the time you get to my age you will probably have surpassed me in many areas.
It struck me as odd that one of your tender age would already have a bucket list.
That’s it.

[Boomchakalaca]

A bucket list is like things i wanna accomplish in my life, but this instance its like small unnecessary things. I took no offense to what u said i just like to initiate 🔥 and u sound so spicy 🥵 10/10

[Andres77]

Fair enough. I guess as old as I am I’m thinking about things I wanna do because I’m towards the end of my life and there are so many things ahead of you.
All the best.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

It's not expected that a pretty girl would be alone.

[Jennz6]

Women shouldn’t have to eat alone in a restaurant. They need a guy to pay for their meal.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't pay attention to stuff like that but last week I did notice a girl eating her food all alone in a restaurant while I waited for mines.

[HouseMoat]

Too many people put too much emphasis on the idea of eating alone. What's so wrong with that, male or female

[Staximus]

Yeah, he was probably just making sure some guy didn't stand you up on a date

[Staximus]

When I worked at a restaurant, the only women I saw eating alone were like businesswomen from out of town or on their lunch break

[ThrillSeeker01]

Sometimes people just need space. Or it's not by choice.