We flirt a lot and she sends me selfies and videos throughout the day, but she’s not ready for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I met her through a dating app and we’ve been talking everyday throughout the whole day. We flirt, send spicy texts and pictures sometimes, she sends me selfies (to which I heart and compliment her), and among other behaviors that make me think she’s interested. We plan on seeing each other in person and she said that she’ll be really shy and awkward. She also told me that she isn’t looking for a relationship, but if something doesn’t happen between us she’d still like to stay friends. So now I’m confused. I told her that I feel like she’s giving me mixed signals and she said she doesn’t know what she wants. I asked her if there was anything that’ll help with that and she just said time. So how can I know if she’s interested in me or not?

[VictorMachiavelli]

It could just be the shyness that's putting her off meeting you. If so afraid that she might not know how to talk to you in person and that things might get awkward.

If a girl is shy, she needs a man who'll be able to lead the conversation and the date overall. She doesn't want the pressure of having to make any decisions. That means that you have to be more assertive and lead more, while reassuring her that you like her despite her shyness - even that you find it cute.

If it's shyness, then the stuff about not being ready for a relationship and not knowing what she wants will all stem from that. Her not making it a date makes it also feel less pressured for her.

It's either that, or she's just enjoying the attention.

Personally, I'd assume it's the shyness, try to reassure her, take the lead and insist on meeting up. If not, move on because it's a waste of time no matter the cause.

[CuriousMindset]

She told you she isn’t ready for a relationship and does not know what she wants. In my opinion we as females can send pictures and videos to any male and we know that we will get a response. Why some females do that and do not care if because they are looking for the attention. In this case, you are giving her attention and there are probably others giving her the same attention that you do. If you are still wanting to meet up with her knowing what you know, then be prepared for a friendship or possibly a friends with benefits deal but nothing more.

[Asker]

She said she doesn’t tease any of her friends sexually and I don’t know if I should believe that or not?

[CuriousMindset]

More than likely not with her friends because they know her and might judge her.

[Asker]

Well I guess that’s a good sign. We keep teasing each other sexually and we’re gonna meet in person tomorrow over lunch (she said friend date). I know it’s only our first time seeing each other, but I can feel myself starting to obsess over her

[Anonymous]

Relax and don't be impatient.