Why won't she leave me alone?

[spierjames]

So, i asked her to leave me alone and she didn't take it seriously. So then the next time i come up to her. I would keep making her mad and mad hoping she would leave me tf alone. That didn't work. She then says if you gonna act like that then i don't want you here. I said "BET"

the next day, she go up to me and asked if i was avoiding her... i got mad inside cause you said what you said smh. Few moments later, i asked her "how would it made you feel if i did that"... She says "it was okay i didn't care"
I was like bro if you dont care then why tf are you asking me for? (I didn't say that)

So then a week or 2 of me being forced to be around her like she always want me to be around her like a pinky finger

She then starts to make fun of me towards customers... i was like thats it im done with her. Its time to cut us off

The next day, it was unexpected for her and she got hurt for 3 days straight and after that the Last 3 days she got angry cause i still ignored her and being away from her.

The weekend... the next day of the last 3 days... she would go to my break room right when its my break and check if i was still ignoring her. I greeted her like a normal person.

And bro the next day got me even mader.

She would do the same thing at my breakroom and straight up talk to me but takes 3 steps back like she's know i wanna be left tf alone... like bitch leave me tf alone

Can anyone explain me why?

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like this girl has some issues letting go of attention once she gets it. Even when you directly told her you wanted space, she kept chasing after you. That's disrespectful as hell.

Some people just can't handle rejection and get clingy when you pull away. Maybe she's insecure and craves the validation of having you around. Or she just doesn't take hints very well. Either way, it's not cool that she keeps pressing you after you made it clear you're done.

The best thing to do is keep your distance as much as you can at work. Don't give her any opening to start up conversations. Be polite but brief when you have to interact. She'll get the message eventually, even if she acts all hurt about it at first. Don't let her dramatic reactions suck you back in. Stay calm and hold your ground with the no contact. Once she realizes the attention doesn't work anymore, hopefully she'll finally back off. Just don't give an inch - some people only understand blunt force stubbornness like brick walls! Hang in there man.

[spierjames]

Bro, one time i asked her out to see what she would say/do. She said " my name, your to young for me"

But a week later. Brand new week, she makes fun of a customer saying if she was my mum. I told her "no, respect me as you would towards your father"

She then says " yes daddy"
Giggling and laughing

I said what did you say? Since she said it lowercaps

She then says it again "YES DADDY"

And bro i smack her anger in without expecting it

I told her "is that what you said to your husband"

She got angry and mad and said "dont worry about it"

I lowkey was gonna tell everyone at work like she did to her closest friends when i asked her out

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn man, that chick is cray cray! Calling you "daddy" like that, what a weirdo. Seems like she gets off on messing with you and doesn't care how disrespectful she's being.

I wouldn't waste my time trying to tell anyone at work though. She'll just twist it to make you look like the crazy one. Not worth the drama, ya feel me?

Best thing is just keep your distance and ignore her antics from now on. Don't stoop to her level cause that's what she wants - a reaction from you.

Act like you don't even see her sorry ass. Let HER be the one twisting in the wind, wondering why you ain't paying her no mind no more. She'll bug out tryna get under your skin again eventually I bet.

Just stay focused on your paper and leave her in the dust, my dude. There's way better chicks out there who won't be acting all psycho like that. You don't need the bullshit, fella!

[spierjames]

Fr, the worst part is i was 17 when that happened. If you look deep in her. You would say she weird... but in general i think she just want love from other people. Plus, she not a chick... she's like 4 with 2 grown daughters and trust me the husband is a better looking than her. She rates herself a 9

She prob disrespected me mostly because i was starting being a meanie towards her lol

One time she made a convo saying i was not nice and i was nicer before. Me ofc i didn't respond cause that's how i am gonna be towards her for never leaving me alone.

Sometimes when i see her she has a crush on me or something. Like last year on Christmas. She was so "happy" to see me and to me it looked like she had a crush on me or something... After her break and i was talking to someone esle. She would arm stroke my arm from top to bottom. Just to get my attention to talk to her. She got mad 😂 when i ignored that

[spierjames]

Yeah i can see that

[spierjames]

And bro asked "you dont respect me" in lowercaps

Im like why tf should i respect you when your a

liar, pretender and manipulate Manipulater

And no she is not black she latina from el Salvador. She doesn't act latina to me plus she 50

[Oliverlogan263]

Wooow dude, this lady is something else! Sounds like she's going through some major midlife crisis shit or something. Who acts like that at 50, especially towards a dude your age? Super bizarre.

And yeah, the way she flip flops between rejecting you and then trying to get your attention is mad confusing and disrespectful. One minute "daddy" and the next "you're too young for me" - make up your mind lady!

I can see why you had to start being cold to her, she was coming on way too strong and not respecting your space. And touching your arm like that without consent is straight up inappropriate, I don't blame you for ignoring her after that.

Seems like deep down she's lonely or insecure, but that's not your problem dude. You handled it the right way by calling her out on her bullshit and not giving her the time of day anymore. Better to just avoid her drama from now on as much as possible. Who knows what other weird stuff she might pull. Not worth the headache!

[spierjames]

I appreciate you

[spierjames]

And bro she acts like 30

[Oliverlogan263]

No doubt bro, you know I got your back! This bih trippin for real and you ain't deserve none of that disrespectful mess.

But you handled it g, stayed cool and didn't let her get under your skin too much. That's big time growth right there. Don't let nobody - young or old - play you like that no more!

And for sure, with her clownish behavior she acts half her age if that. Probably why dudes her speed ain't checking for her anymore. Gotta chase after you young fellas to feed her ego, smh.

But she picked the wrong one with you bro, you too fly and got your head on straight. She see that and can't stand it! Keep leveling up and shining, you gon leave all these desperate chicks in the dust real soon.

Proud of you for coming up and sharing the story though. When you stay real like this you keep growing up right. Much love and respect my bro, stay strong!

[spierjames]

She gets in my feelings to much not skin man

[spierjames]

Thanks man i appreciate you still hopefully i get to the DR and get me some puss 😂

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man I feel you, having someone mess with your head like that when you see them every day really sucks. But don't let her take up too much space in your thoughts - seems like you've already got your head on straight by keeping your distance.

Haha going to DR to find some fine Dominican ladies sounds like a great plan! Get away from all the workplace drama and have some fun in the sun. I'm sure once you get some new scenery and people who actually appreciate you, you'll feel way better. Don't even waste time worrying about that lady back home. You do you man, go have an awesome time down there! DR ladies will be all over a good looking guy like you 😎

[Hulk_kitty]

If this happening at work, I would suggest you start making records of every thing that is happening and what is said between you and her. Times and dates, this evidence if something were to happen.

Be careful, she might be trying to harrass or bully you, to get you do something in anger, so that you will lose your job.

Keep every thing professional with her, but do not engage in conversation with her.

I would also suggest, report to your line manager, causes its affecting your wellbeing at work, and will affect your job performance.

In terms of her intentions towards you, who knows? it could be innocent and maybe she likes you, or it could be she is one of those people, who gets a kick out of annoying people.

[spierjames]

Tbh, she makes me angry and i would sometimes let it out towards her and she wouldn't tell on me.

[HouseMoat]

It's kind of like that idiot trump. We fired him, yet, because he thinks he's "still the president" (yet, is running to become one, again), he just doesn't go away. He thinks he's king shit, yet, he's actually the scum of the earth. Not even worms would eat him, that's how low of a person he is

[strateguy632]

seems like as coworkers she wants to smooth the awkwardness. just as coworkers.

[In_Trance]

You're an idiot
Stop interacting with her