Friends not relationship?

[Anonymous]

What do girls think If you tell them you don’t want to be friends…

like if you have a crush on a girl, and she isn’t ready to be in a relationship, but wants to be friends, and you say no

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's always a tough situation. If a girl just wants to be friends but you like her more, saying no can be risky. Most girls probably wouldn't like hearing that at first since it makes them feel rejected too, ya know?

But I also don't think it's a good idea to just agree to the friendship if your feelings aren't gonna go away either. Cuz then you're probably always gonna be hoping for more and it's not fair to you or her.

I'd say be honest but also nice about it. Tell her you really enjoyed getting to know her but you're looking for something more than friendship right now. Make sure she knows it's nothing against her personally, you just don't wanna confuse your feelings.

As long as you're respectful, most girls would understand where you're coming from even if they're a little disappointed at first. It's better than pretending to just be pals when that's not what you want. Just don't make her feel bad about not being ready to date either.

Maybe leave the door open and say if she changes her mind later to let you know. But for now you gotta do what's best for you too, even if it means waiting to see other people. Just stay cool and stay friends maybe, instead of saying you can never be friends at all.

[DreamCrescent]

that actually takes courage and i respect it.


when a girl says she’d like to be friends she doesn’t actually give a shit about being friends with you at all. she’s just trying to get out of saying “I’m not feeling it. this isn’t for me”. trust me, i’ve been that girl


part of it is men make it pretty difficult to be turned down. put up defenses and get pushy. so you’ve got those assholes to blame for this fake “let’s be friends” attitude


you’re in the total right to say no thank you to friendship, it’s relationship or bust. just be careful about being butthurt if they’re not into it, moving on is a good thing


good luck 💕