Ladies, if a guy tells you that you need to go to the gym more would you be put off?

[Anonymous]

He's says you look great but you need to go to the gym more

[ManOnFire]

As a man I can't stand it when other men do that kind of thing. You just don't say that even if it's true, and it's really not his place to anyway. But I think guys do that in the hopes that they'll get inside your head and make you do what they want, or even pursue them because of it.

[Asker]

Thanks for the tip

[ManOnFire]

Men will try to target a woman's body weight if he purposelly wants to offend her or make her feel bad about herself. Or they will freely talk about loving some girl "with a perfect body" who is skinny and boobless with a thigh gap in the hopes that it will bother you and make you try to be like her. It's disgusting.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Heck. There were some who actually told me with the exact details you mentioned. :(

[ManOnFire]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa Yeah. But then if they really do start dating skinny, boobless girls, they'll just go and cheat on her with a thicker woman anyway.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

You can't be more right. Most are married to a skinny woman, then told be that they preferred curvier ones. Retards. Why can't they choose what they like at the beginning?

[ManOnFire]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa A lot of men want a trophy wife. Someone who is beautiful and carries a good image because of that. And guys want other guys to be jealous. I think a lot of men want that more than actually being sexually attracted to her. But then when they start craving gritty sex, they don't want it with their beautiful girl. They want it with a thick average body.

Me personally? I know what I like and want, and I want them in the same woman. I don't hunger for 'gorgeous' women but still want my dick sucked by the chubby girl at Home Depot. I would be after the chubby Depot girl from the start.

[Anonymous]

I initially just came here for the comment 😂 now I'm prompted to share some insights.

The question should have been phrased differently. Asking if "A GUY" tell you... automatically triggers women to be defensive and have the wrong attitude. Considering that women are compulsive thinkers. And the first reaction is always emotional rather than rational.

But according to the answers most women applied it to a S. O. on this basis, a life partner has every right to tell his s. o what they notices and keep them in check and vice versa. Telling a girlfriend or wife you've gained weight is being supportive, whilst cheating on a girlfriend or wife because of gaining weight isn't supportive. Because guess your appearance matter in keeping your partner attracted.

Scientifically speaking unlike men's body, the woman's body have more estrogen than testosterone. The result of this is rapid weight gain as well as other side effects. Lack of activity and bad diet will cause lot of women to gain fat.

Bottom line is if you get fat, I'll tell you, if you smell, ill tell you, if you look beautiful, I'll tell you. The only thing I'll make sure of is I convy the message as myself not how you want me to tell you. And it works both way. That's how you care about a life partner.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

So... I think I shouldn't marry any personal trainers since they will never see me "perfect" as I am, and pressure me constantly that I'm not good enough.

Overall I agree with you.

[Opinion Owner]

Noone is perfect. It's okay if you're comfortable in your skin and you like certain calibre of men, but the whole idea of keeping someone interested and attracted to you is to take on their feedback constructively being the person who share life with you.

[At3mis24]

I don't like this men's mentality, that's why I will never go on a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

We all have stuff we don't like.. and we just get on with life. But that doesn't mean we gonna go against our nature and abstain from living just because we can't have our way.

[At3mis24]

I block mean people like you, bye!

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂😂😂

[IslaTheWitch]

I would. I prefer it if he says what he sees rather than giving me advice that I didn't ask for.

so, if he says - you gained some weight lately, is something a problem? I can discuss it with him. We can think about health issues, visit a specialist, and after eliminating health concerns, simply lose weight.
If he says you need to go to the gym more we will probably have a serious disagreement. He is not my parent or guardian. So I won't accept this kind of behavior toward me.

Also, the first approach shows he wants to help and he is concerned; the second is quite demanding.

[naartjie]

I think if it was your husband, he should say something. The way he brings it up or talks about it is so important too. I don’t think anyone would want to be with someone who is leaning on overweight/ obesity, even if they loved you. You’re not only damaging yourself but people around you too, kids, partner. It should be a kind conversation to resolve it. It can be hard to like with and watch someone get so big and have zero self control.
If a random guy, a guy I’ve been dating for a short time, etc, brings that up then yeah no. Next.

[JHAYES317]

@naartjie if you are just dating fine…but if you are in a relationship then absolutely they should say something because I’m not willing to date a fat person unless they are doing everything in their power to change that…

[naartjie]

Yup! There’s a time and a place and how it’s said.

[HappyWoman34]

No, but he’d be disappointed, as I can’t afford a gym membership.

[Inbox]

You can’t afford an additional $10 a month? Hitting hard times it seems 🧐

[AmyHew1tt]

Ugh, Ikr, my monthly pass is over 75$ and it's a small gym too😭

[Inbox]

@AmyHew1tt What gyms do you ladies go to? Planet Fitness is only $10 a month, unless you’re doing some kind of classes or training program in addition?

[tiajoka]

@Inbox doesn't planet fitness have a bad reputation? 😂
And if you were a real fit dude, you'd know to say that you don't need a gym to work out. Just a cleared space to do stretches and squats; maybe hold a bag of rice if you don't have weights! And going on runs or walks outdoors is always great.

[Inbox]

@tiajoka Since you lack any form of common sense, allow me to teach you a few lessons since you cannot afford it: 1) Planet Fitness is amongst the top 10 gyms in the country according to Men's Health, Forbes, and many others, 2) Apartment, Condominium, or pre ordered gym equipment don't always have all the right weights or exercise machines, 3) A person's goals differ person by person - if you want to get a certain shape or size, simply doing your soy boy recommendation type of workouts won't cut it unless you're just trying to stay healthy, and 4) when did I say I was a "real fit dude"? SMH

[AmyHew1tt]

@Inbox I don't have a Planet Fitness where I live. Small town. We have two gyms, Titan and Fitness Northwest. Titan is even smaller and more expensive than Fitness Northwest. A daily drop-in pass is 15$ and a monthly pass is over 75$

[tiajoka]

@AmyHew1tt even with a ton of poverty discounts, the YMCA I'd had near me years ago was still 45$ 😭

[AmyHew1tt]

@tiajoka Seriously. Like, if they want people to be fit and workout, make it cheap to do!

[noemiii]

@Inbox Why so hostile? They were literally sharing their opinions and to be fair, she’s right. I’m a gym rat and I know if I ever didn’t have access to the gym I could literally buy anything I needed and do the workouts from home. You don’t NEED to go to a gym. There is no part of my routine I NEED to do that can’t substitute for something else. And Planet Fitness top 10 gyms? A laugh and must be solely based on the revenue and popularity they bring in since they are Americas top gym chain. But top gym? A laugh.

[Inbox]

@AmyHew1tt Ahh, they must be small or local gyms. Unfortunately, smaller business cannot reduce their economies of scale without some innovative idea or product.

[Inbox]

@noemiii She started getting hostile first. Since you cannot read what I wrote, here’s a little something for you, you sick fuck: NO ONE asked for your opinion and as I wrote above, it’s always case by case, person by person. I’m glad you don’t need to go to an actual gym, but people who are trying to get to a SPECIFIC size or shape may still need to go to a gym for a number of reasons. Also, my points are made from actual sources about top gyms - just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean the rest of us do SMH.

When you misconstrue what I’ve said like this, it makes it seem like you are either disingenuous or just illiterate, which one is it?

[noemiii]

@Inbox Wow you have some real issues. Hope you get that resolved.

[noemiii]

@Inbox Also, you’ve given no realistic reason as to why it is a top gym. Just some statistics that if you look it up, say it’s the top gym because it’s the most POPULAR gym. In that case, is McDonald’s the TOP restaurant? Lol.
And I think you don’t realize you’re talking to women, not men, most women simply want to workout for aesthetic purposes so yes, home gyms will suffice. Every persons goal in the gym isn’t to be huge and swole. And I find it funny too that you say Planet Fitness is the top gym, when I know my planet fitness often has broken equipment, and not all of the necessary machines. I switched over to a Golds Gym and got a much better approach to if I was going to do bodybuilding. PF doesn’t even incorporate that in their gyms. Again, a laugh to say PF is the best gym. Maybe if it’s the only gym you can go to..!

[Inbox]

@noemiii Such an opinion only comes from people that MATTER LOL. Again, I understand you have literacy issues, but when did I say that PF is the THE top gym? I said it is amongst the top gyms in the country. Since you've only given me personal reasons for your argument, I'm going to have to call #doublefail because your reasoning is clearly NOT how the majority see it - if it's as bad as you say, they company would be in decline when in fact their revenue and growth has been generally increasing since the company was started in 2014.

Get help lady

[HappyWoman34]

@Inbox indeed I am.

[Inbox]

@happywoman34 I'm sorry to hear that. It's never an easy situation, but as I like to say in adverse times: "this how champions are made." :)

[noemiii]

@Inbox It’s always the other person with issues when you don’t like what they have to say, huh? The cheap insults prove nothing especially that you’re sitting here arguing with someone you deem as having “literacy issues” you seem to understand me just fine.
“Amongst the top 10 gyms in the country” is even a laugh. For what? Popularity? Must be your gym of choice since they keep the prices down. It’s not a good gym whatsoever for anyone looking to expand their gym career, only for someone looking to start it. Also, the irony of saying you’re limited in the things you can do at a home gym, when PF, in the time I was there, was very adamant about keeping heavy lifters and bodybuilders OUT.
Imagine using revenue to prove the point as to why PF is a good gym. A gym that’s $10 a month is affordable to anyone. Why would their revenue be on the downfall? PF is an awful gym, yes it most definitely is. It’s the Walmart of the gym world and anyone who can argue that Walmart is the best place to shop, can also argue PF is the best place to work out. I’m sure it’s the best place for you since it’s all you can probably afford to work out at. No classes, no amenities, no heavy weight lifting. Literally all of the things that make a gym a gym PF is lacking. It is a great gym for the poor, the ones who only come to the gym once in a blue moon, and it’s profitable because since the price is so low, you won’t feel bad losing the money even if you aren’t going. I do love the irony in the Pizza Mondays of PF. Keep the members fat so they keep coming lol

[noemiii]

@Inbox I’m assuming PF is keeping you on the payroll. Especially how notoriously hard it is to cancel a membership there, you won’t settle for any slander of Americas favorite gym! Well, sorry. I’d understand if I never went there and was talking sh*t, but I went to PF for many years so you can definitely suck it.

[Inbox]

@noemiii No, I have more money than you ever will across multiple lifetimes, while you live rent free. In addition to having no money, no family, no love life, literacy issues are definitely on that list because I've had to work with low IQ individuals so I can understand you ---- it's YOU that can't understand what I'm writing because you're walking red flag of an IQ doesn't understand that your poor excuse of an observation does NOT equate to the millions of people that actually DO go to PF.

Also, since you like to make numerous assumptions again and again, I'm not on PF's payroll. Like all gyms, they have equipment that needs to be updated from time to time. Your dumbass arguments going off into tangents like it's not good for a gym career nonsense (where the fuck did you even get the idea that I was ever using that point as an assertion). ALL I said is that PF is doing something right if they're revenue and profit margins are INCREASING OVER THE PAST 10 YEARS and it's even being put on Men's Health, Forbes, or other popular magazines.

Since you want to make Walmart as a comparative analogy, Walmart became the powerhouse that it is because it can reduce it economies of scale to get cheaper products on their shelves compared to their competitors - it's the same EXACT product you'd find in any other grocery store, only cheaper unless it's the in house products. Idiot. It doesn't mean the store is automatically bad just because it is cheaper. I go to PF only because they have equipment the gym where in my condominium does NOT have. You may have had bad experiences, but I've had no issues with any of their equipment or customer service.

If you want to put Jesus as your daddy next and suck it, be my guest, but daddy ain't gonna save you from an argument you are clearly losing and so desperate to save yourself from LOL

[tiajoka]

@Inbox why are you here if you're so insanely ripped, rich, and successful? 😂 I guess we should all thank you for gracing us with your presence.

[Inbox]

@tiajoka I never said I was ripped, but hey, thanks for assuming - AGAIN. So rich folks can’t go on GAG? I suppose that’s what happens when you’re dealing with low IQ people…sigh.

[tiajoka]

@Inbox oh sorry, rich and highly intelligent man... thank you for sparing your time to us peasants. 🙇‍♀️

[Inbox]

@tiajoka I don’t think of you or anyone as peasants, but thanks for assuming again. I was poor once, but I made it. Why haven’t you? Jesus?

[tiajoka]

@Inbox of course, you are so wise and intelligent. Only comparable to Jesus, the way you've drawn yourself up. 🙇‍♀️

[Inbox]

@tiajoka keep your praises to yourself, they’re unworthy

[noemiii]

@Inbox Everyone’s always successful, intelligent and wealthy online. Sure you are bud, funny thing is I see no wealthy people going to planet fitness. Most have enough to go to Lifetime Fitness down the street charging $179 for their membership..😂 guess you can’t afford it.

[Inbox]

@noemiii Yes, I suppose you know every rich person in your city, county, state, country, and a whole list of other places where there's flying unicorns. Multimillionaires aren't always going around driving Ferraris, Lambos, 6,000 sqft mansion homes, etc. Many them are actually quite ordinary people, but someone who does NOT have any money, like someone we both know LOL, would know that.

Since you're too slow to comprehend that just because you can afford something more, it doesn't mean you necessarily need it. I can easily afford a Ferrari, but I don't get it because super cars a pain to maintain, unduly expensive, and I would rather use that money as a down payment for my next business investment.

Many of my friends are people who have little to no money or middle class, but generally are successful business professionals and they have asked me why I haven't I bought a house yet? Well, it's because there is extreme danger in excess. I live with the theory of minimalism primarily because knuckle dragging half wits like you can't see anything beyond your own gorilla sized nose - there's a difference between having money and knowing how to use it wisely is what makes you successful financially. Victory too has it costs SMH

[noemiii]

@Inbox Sure you can buddy. Trying to argue why you go to PF is a laugh. I get twice the amenities at my gym, including classes, a pool, a basketball court, and personal training and I pay $24 a month. Sounds like a bunch of BS excuses to me. If PF is all you can afford, it’s whatever my guy. Just stop trying to make an argument for it being the best gym when you know if you could afford to go somewhere better, you would. Wealthy people might cut corners on a lot of things, but one thing they don’t cut corners on are services they have to frequent. That’s why you don’t see wealthy people shopping at Walmart for produce, they shop at Whole Foods. Also, you are comparing $100,000 dollar cars to a gym membership. Seriously?

[tiajoka]

@noemiii oh leave our wise wealthy master alone why don't ya? 😫 we are not worthy of his precense

[Inbox]

@noemiii I’m happy you can get twice the amount benefits and I’m happy that you’re as slow as you look (all the more proof you don’t have money). Are you making the dumbass assumption that rich people are all alike? Okay, all women are driven by an infantile narcissism that are liars who love playing the victim - sounds fair? 😂😂

I couldn’t give a rats ass if you think I’m wealthy or not, nor is your literacy rate ever improving since I never made the case for it being the best, only amongst the best.

[Inbox]

@tiajoka Oh you again, thanks for showing up - it reminded me to take out the trash LOL

[tiajoka]

@Inbox what? A bazzilionaire like you takes out his own trash? 😲 so humble and down to earth. I am not worthy. 🙇‍♀️

[Inbox]

@tiajoka what? When did I say I was a bazzilionaire? Lol. There’s a 100% probability that your mother gave birth to you at truckstop 😭😭

[tiajoka]

@Inbox you are so gracious

[Inbox]

@tiajoka If that’s all it takes to make you feel gracious, you must be living paycheck to paycheck.

[tiajoka]

@Inbox such a wealthy wonderfully intelligent man knows what paycheck to paycheck is? You must be from humble beginnings, so incredible 🙇‍♀️

[noemiii]

@tiajoka Yes I agree. Let’s as a collective stop talking to Mr. Richy Rich. Surely, we’re too poor to understand his psychology

[Inbox]

@tiajoka Is this truly your best? You clearly need help lady - I was poor once like you, but unlike you, I chose not to stay at the bottom barreled part of society that everyone pretends not to exist. Then again, you do have help from @noemiii. You know what they say, human relationships are formed by proximity and…. RELATABILITY!!! Hahaha

[Inbox]

@noemiii You’re responses are boring, you can go now

[noemiii]

@Inbox Only one keeping me here is your replies, your highness of PF.

[Inbox]

@noemiii The fact you don’t realize that I’m trolling both of you and your groveling is only making it funnier makes me want to do it more

[noemiii]

@Inbox Pretty sure we assumed so already bud

[tiajoka]

@noemiii his IQ is definitely lacking 💀 wanna take bets for if it's his grandparents or his moms basement he lives in?

[Inbox]

@tiajoka Oh I get it, you're just jealous that you never got past the bottom of society and you're still stuck with the laborious task of email management.

[Inbox]

@noemiii Pretty sure men abandon you upon first sight

[Inbox]

@tiajoka With what money broke girl? LOL Not even that wide cavern below would attract a pornstar, saying, "hell nah." hahahaha

[noemiii]

@Inbox Yea ok

[HawkPerception]

I think it depends on who says it and the context. If it's your partner telling you, then that's their right to say it (although they attempt to approach it tactfully). Most people are attracted to people that take care of their health and appearance, and your partner is no exclusion. People have turned into such snowflakes nowadays that are hurt by the truth and men have to repress their true opinions in regards to their partner's fitness in fear their partner will explode and leave them.

If it's a friend, it's still okay as long as it's said in care and not just bluntly stating an opinion because they think you'd look better if you did workout.

And if it's a random person telling you that, then it's really not their place to say anything and is extremely rude.

[Finchie40]

I would hope so , that is a disrespectful comment to anyone period , people that judge or make comments about anyone else’s weight is a disrespectful piece of shit period , that thinks their own shit doesn’t stink. I would say thank you for pointing that out on me , but I am perfectly happy with the way I am , but sadly apparently you aren’t happy with the way you are, , maybe you should go seek some help for your own personal insecurities , maybe people would actually like you as a person. Truth hurts

[Selliebeanz]

My opinion is a little radical, so it might not apply 100% but... twist it back on him. how likely is he to change something about himself to suit you? I don't want you to internalize his bullshit. They always want you to be in a perpetual state of insecurity and focusing on your own flaws to the point you don't notice he's not matching your standards and in this case being unaccepting. You're not an object he can tweak here and there to suit my needs. If he had said someyhing like that to me I'd tell him the situation isn't worth it. You do it for you when and if you want to.

[blueonblack22]

That is insensitive and he lacks tact. The right thing to say is “hey I want to hit up the gym at least 3 times this week and I want you to come with me”. That way he is leading by example. It’s still dropping a hint but he’s showing that he’s holding himself to the same standard.

This is how I tried to help my last girlfriend. Truth is she was a bit “skinny fat” but I never made a comment about it. But I was trying to motivate her without being rude. So I would always be working out beside her. Showed her my motivation to motivate her.

[DMurff]

WHAT is "skinny fat"?

[tremendousfern]

I would take it as a sign that I need to go to the gym more, but I'm a man and don't get my panties in a twist when people make blunt comments that are obviously well-meaning.

It would be one thing if you're anorexic, but if you're overweight then you really should go to the gym more. Why get butthurt when someone else says what you know to all ready be true? Because they didn't tiptoe around the issue like a bunch of other people willing to let you harm your health because they didn't want to bruise your ego a little by stating the obvious?

[At3mis24]

But what is overweight? When I saw Star Wars and see Rey the first time, I'm thinking "she's too thin, I wouldn't have her body"

[tremendousfern]

@At3mis24 A bmi over 25 is overweight

[At3mis24]

Oh, I have 24, that's ok.

[tremendousfern]

@At3mis24 Yeah, that's fine. It's a guide too, not a strict line. If you have a bmi over 25, but you're super fit and muscular, that's fine. Or if you have a bmi under 25 but you eat garbage and never do any exercise, you're probably not doing fine. But most of the time if you're over 25 you should lose weight and under 25 you're a normal weight.

[Peter_Penetrator]

As a guy answering this question, the suggestion being made to go to the gym depends on two things:


(1). Selflessness, as in your health depends on it.


Or:


(2). Selfishness, as in, even though l want to spend the rest of my life with you, if you were to lose weight, my dick would get hard more often.


Remember this however, if you lose enough weight, to the point that other men begin to notice you, your confidence will grow and whomever suggested you do so, will become insecure and fear losing you. That fear may also change his/her negative behaviors/attitudes towards you.

[At3mis24]

I don't want men to notice me, I need to be invisible to them! I'm happy enough with my own life, I don't need them.

[provokeesmokee]

I wouldn't date or fuck him, personally.

I have plenty of people wanting to love me as I am, and I used to be smaller, lol.

That said, if the dude wants me in the gym to build more muscle or because he's encouraging me to do something I've already been doing (climbing/training), then I would assume that's supportive.

But just some guy trying to neg? Fuck off, buddy. Sounds to me like he needs a girl to tell him he needs to go to therapy, lmao.

[chris_987]

Lol I like how you admitted that there are people you wouldn't date but would fuck

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah, that's not really uncommon.

I'm not demisexual, and I vet my play partners thoroughly.

Some people are better friend material than dating material. Your mileage may vary - demisexuality is valid, so is not needing romantic connection to fuck.

Maybe you'd get laid more if you got that.

[At3mis24]

"Love me as I am" this is my new course of action ; it’s a toxic attitude to want to change someone, even out of love

[alice55]

I would tell him that I don't got to the gym cause I refuse to get sweaty and sore and if he want me to lose weight he can just take me to five star restaurant that's the easiest ways to lose weight considering the portions are so small XD

[ManOnFire]

Right, like a baby salad and little piece of bread lol.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire No it's five course meals and no bread, with cheese, coffee, meat, fish, vegetable, cake, etc... and all in very very small portion.
I don't eat salad I hate it and I never been a fan of bread either.

[ManOnFire]

That sounds like a Japanese dinner lol. Never met a person who hated salad. Or bread.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire That's not Japanese at all, nothing to do it with it, Japanese don't eat cake neither cheese neither coffee after their dinner. They mostly just eat salty things.
This is French traditional diner.

Lots if people hate salad in France. This is very common things, why would I be interested in eating a things that taste like grass?
Bread make you gain weight and is uninteresting to eat without topping but all bread topping are heavy in calories.

[ManOnFire]

Ohhhh you're French. Yeah, that sounds about right.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire Everything is about portion here ad we don't work out at all here either, it's said that more than 90% of French don't make enough work out not even walking.

[ManOnFire]

It would make sense seeing as France has an aristocratic history, no offense. Back then French rulers and wealthy Parisian folks just cared about money and appearances, so not surprising that in some ways that passed through the generations/culture of the country.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire British are ways worse than the French in those matters. France is more towards bourgeoisie than Aristocratie.
And ervyone care about appearance in France even the poor this is not a poor vs rich things. It's important to look clean and proper.

[ManOnFire]

Both Britain and France have issues like that. I mean, Europe has always been a powerhouse and in general they do care a lot about appearance probably because of their historical cultural things surrounding that. America is not perfect either however, but at least here I can probably be a little more relaxed in that sense.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire I much prefer France and Europe personally. I love to take care of my appearance i's an hobbies of mine.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire There's nothing wrong with caring about appearance and liking being good looking though the men in France don't take care of their appearance at all so even if you lived there you wouldn't fell uncomfortable. After 30 no men care for their pperance at all.

[ManOnFire]

In a hygienic sense you do have to care about your appearance, and I even care about my own. But people - especially women - care to a very great degree about appearance in the sense of worrying what other people are going to think of them because of what they look like, being paranoid about what people think if she's being seen talking to a guy who is not considered good looking, etc.

But that's a whole other topic. I mean people care about appearance as in image/social status.

[alice55]

@ManOnFire It's nothing to do with caring about what people think, not at all, most people don't give a shit actually, when I had a dig I walked it in pajamas outside or also go searching bread in pajamas and slippers.
It's just I like to be well dressed most days because I like it and is it much more interesting to stare at myself in the glasses well dressed and with great hair than looking at myself wearing sweats and a bun...

I mean worrying about being seen talking about a guy is normal cause she would get a bad reputation if she's seen talking to multiple guys or talking to others guys while in a relationship.

No, people just like to stare at themselves when they're good looking nothing interesting to see if you're in sweats or in lazy clothes, make me become crazy.

[At3mis24]

I'm French and I don't care about my appearance, I'm just proper, but I never go to the hairdresser. At home I’m in tracksuit and I don’t go out badly dressed. I have never bought gloss or eyeshadow, I just don't like it on me.

[At3mis24]

A hobby? Really? For me, it's just a chore, lol

[alice55]

@At3mis24 If you don't go out badly dressed then you care about your appearance.
J'aime aussi passer des heures des essayage et me regarder dans le miroir ou faire des photos donc oui pour moi c'est un hobbies. Tous le monde a des hobbies et pour moi me faire belle, m'habiller, recherche les tendances, faire des essayages, faire des masques, me brosser les cheveux, faire des coiffures différentes, etc... sont des hobbies.
Je ne vois pas vraiment en quoi c choquant tous le monde est different apres j'ai 25 ans normal que j'aime prendre soin de moi et bien m'habiller.

[Dinklex3]

If you mean a significant other/boyfriend then I don’t really mind. I like to stay somewhat fit anyways and the men I hang around are active and gym rats anyways.

My current boyfriend loves the gym, when we were just friends with benefits we used to go to the gym together as well because he loves it so much.

[Asker]

No I'm talking about a guy I just met

[Dinklex3]

I’d be confused as to why he’d even bring it up?
Did he just randomly bring it up?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

First of all, who is that guy?

If he's a co-worker who has a girlfriend or a wife, I might say "It's none of your business."

If he is someone who likes me, and I like him back, maybe we can date at a gym.

By the way, my future husband shouldn't be so shallow and ignorant for where my fat is actually located.

[Anonymous]

You have to look at it from the mans perspective. They often don't know how to word sensitive topics.


He could be concerned for your health mixed with his honest losing attraction.


He's trying to say something even if it's coming out in an abrasive way. At least that's how some woman might hear it.


At least he's saying something and not just cheating or leaving, yet.

[Asker]

I just met this guy

[Anonymous]

If I’m that “ATTRACTED” to him, yes I’d go to the gym for him.

If I’m that into him, if I’m that entranced by him. YES.

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If not, then no. I could care less to impress him.

Hot Guy = Me wanting to be hot

Ugly / Mediocre Guy = Me wanting to be ugly

[Pinay_ako]

Oh I can’t count how many times guys tell me I should go to the gym. But I don’t let them dictate me. Idc who you are. My body, my rules.

[Asker]

Is it hurtful to you when a guy who wants to date you says that?

[Pinay_ako]

No. I’d take it as he cares for me. I don’t mind going if he also goes and trains me. Make it a date

[At3mis24]

You're right! Women weight is none of their business!

[RavVid]

If he says you look great but need more gym then he isn't telling you that you look great.

[At3mis24]

This is a big red flag.

[RavVid]

@At3mis24 At least he is being encouraging.

[SillyMari]

Hell yeah I would be put off!

What does he think I'm fat or something? I already go to the gym enough.

How about he goes to the gym more often?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

He would need to either follow that up with a very emotionally vulnerable speech about why he wants to spend time together at the gym, or preface it with such in order for me to accept it as a positive thing

[TommyMountainFigure]

As a guy? I'd cringe just trying to tell a woman she needed to go to the gym more!

That said, I usually do go for women that spend a lot of time in a gym!

What can I say? I am somewhat of a paradox!

[electromagnetic]

I already go a lot but if my partner said I need to go even more, I’d be suspicious about something. Considering we spend almost 2hrs a day for 6 days a week, alarm bells are going off.. why. I don’t think I’d be out off, I’d be concerned.

[more_than_a_guy]

Depends who said it and how. If it's your partner that noticing you have started to get heavier, it's ok.

If it's a random person or even someone not close to you, less ok.

Anyway, getting into the gym and exercising, even in small amounts, is beneficial to get a better version of yourself.

[PeachyPie93]

If he was new, I would lose him. I hate people who go into relationships and try to change the person.

[thatshydork]

If he tells me to go to the gym more often, I’m never speaking to him again. You don’t speak disrespectfully to me and get away with it.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork that’s not disrespectful…being fat is unhealthy…

[thatshydork]

@JHAYES317 that doesn’t mean you point out when someone’s gained a few pounds. You don’t go up to a lady and say “are you pregnant?” so why would you go up to someone and say “you need to go to the gym more often.” Maybe they’re already in recovery from an eating disorder and you pointing out that you think they need to loose some weight could completely eradicate all the progress they’ve made towards recovery. They could be already having a terrible day and you saying “I tHiNk YoU nEeD tO gO tO tHe GyM mOrE” only would make it worse. I mean, what if I pointed out one of your biggest insecurities and said, “yeah you need to get that fixed”? That’s not nice, is it? It’s no different when you tell someone you think they need to hit the gym. Also, just because someone may look overweight doesn’t mean they actually are; muscles present themselves differently in some people.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork the difference is my insecurities involve my height and dick size and my hair, none of which I have any real control over…whereas with weight you can actually do something about. I wouldn’t randomly tell a woman she was fat…but if I was dating someone and I lost attraction because they became obese, I would want them to look into either fixing it or I would want to stop seeing them if they refused to try…

[thatshydork]

@JHAYES317 actually, weight can be out of someone’s control. Weight can be genetic as well as other components. Weight gain can be caused by bloating due to a number of health conditions, bathroom issues, periods, etc. and none of those things can be controlled. Also, if they can’t change something in a matter of a few minutes, it’s best not to point it out. Think of if you heard someone speak to your mom or sister that way, how they’d feel. I guarantee they’d feel insulted and humiliated.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork weight gain can be out of your control but you can still keep the overall weight down through exercise, dieting, and sometimes medication. If someone is working out an hour and a day and eating in a caloric deficit and taking the appropriate medication…it’d be almost impossible to remain obese.

[thatshydork]

@JHAYES317 you’ve never thoroughly studied the science behind weight loss or nutrition and it shows.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork no I have. Literally anybody can lose weight, if someone never eats no matter what eventually their body will cannibalize their fat…

[thatshydork]

@JHAYES317 so what you’re saying is people should starve themselves (which by the way is a deadly eating disorder)? Good to know.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork I’m saying if people eat the caloric count of their goal weight instead of their current weight…as well as exercising regularly…they will lose weight. Maybe take a medication too if they have thyroid issues or diabetes…but there’s practically zero situation where you would need surgery to lose weight

[thatshydork]

@JHAYES317 smh

[Babygirl_S]

Depends on how he says it. Since I already exercise, it wouldn't put me off. However, if he is disrespectful, I wouldn't take his comments seriously. Constructive criticism is not the same as mocking someone.

[JuliaCartorez]

if he was rude about it probably. I wouldn't mind if he just asked me to tag along with him at the gym.

[TrueConfection]

That would sting, but in my case he'd be right. The truth hurts. I'm thin, but by no means am I a hard body.

[Billlewis]

For me, saying something like that would be very self defeating, because my goal is to help her gain a few pounds, not lose them.

[OddBeMe]

Just to add…I’ve been told that numerous times. And it is painful, but if it’s a loved one doing it for actual health reasons their tone should sell it as that.

[laly520]

its def not very nice if he tells her that

[Asker]

He wants to be my boyfriend too...

[Asker]

Like this isn't right

[laly520]

r u sure he likes u

[Asker]

We just met

[laly520]

he seems like jerk to me

[Unit1]

The Context depends. I know going to the gym is not a bad idea and there are no malicious intentions of suggesting it.

It can be phrased a little better than that.

[Paris13]

I would Wonder if I Really Needed to Do More. Not Insulted, Appreciative Instead. xxoo

[At3mis24]

If a man says that to me, he walks away! I'm a woman, not his toy.

[JHAYES317]

@ar3mis24 sure but it’s not healthy to be fat…if you are already a healthy weight though yeah that’d be annoying

[At3mis24]

@JHAYES317 I have a healthy weight, I'm not fat, but I don’t want to get too thin because I think it’s not pretty for a woman, I’m fine with my current weight

[alexandraa1]

I mean, in general it's good to live a healthy life so if that was the reason why he said that, I would take it :)) But if he says it just for looks, no way.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I would think he's crazy since I only weigh 115.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Maybe he thinks you should be bigger?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@BoopBoopBeep Oh to get buff? Lol I would laugh. 😂

[Pohjolan]

Its not just weight but aging better and muscles are protecting bones.

[Kingofkings1992]

He’s an authoritarian dick. Stay away from him

[Anonymous]

It depends, is she overweight/ serious condition?

[Asker]

Overweight, mental health and medicine. Just had a baby too

[Opinion Owner]

Then I would say it, it’s for a good reason. Even if truth hurts you need to say it

[bobalife]

That’s douchey, next.

[JHAYES317]

@bobalife nope…being fat and refusing to admit that it’s a health risk is douchey…

[handsomelad70]

The lady in the picture likely can't spell "gym," let alone having visited one.

[Nikki1989]

Of course, that is insulting.

[Anonymous]

If a guy said that then he wouldn't really mean you look great.

[Anonymous]

A smart guy wouldn't say that.

[Anonymous]

It's a perfect fine statement.. I wouldn't want my girlfriend getting fat

[garykingg]

What's wrong with being fit and healthy?

[Kingofkings1992]

Nothing, but there’s something wrong with being an asshole

[Asker]

@Kingofkings1992 exactly

[Lara_Croft]

Nope, just be suprised

[evgonz0410]

That would be my cue to move on

[JHAYES317]

@evgonz0410 you don’t want to take accountability for your health?

[evgonz0410]

I mean ofc I do, but I feel like that wouldn’t be a guys place to tell me that

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you move on

[ThatOneGuy247]

That's a likely hypothesis. However wouldn't it be great if women can put on weight, have white hair and age getting more wrinkly and things like the respect, attraction and love grows deeper for the rest of your life in a relationship or marriage?

[KittygosMeoWW]

No, he better be going with me though

[MaxUsefull]

Maybe you really need to lose your weight

[Anonymous]

Id block him