Girls, you're walking on the sidewalk and make and hold strong eye contact with a man walking towards you. What are you hoping he will say or do?

[Anonymous]

This is given that you have a reason to ever do so. I just find personally as a guy, that usually when passing a woman she doesn't look at you.

But say you're out shopping downtown, or you're at the mall, and you pass a woman and she's staring into your eyes already without looking away from a distance and she holds it as you approach.

What is her motive? What is she thinking? What is she hoping for?

[AmandaYVR]

Girls/women don't want to be cold-approached by strangers, especially stranger men, on the street. Context matters. In a bar, nightclub, restaurant seated at the bar... maybe. It's acceptable then. In a social setting, at a party, among groups of friends... sure. But a complete stranger on the street... no. You can glance, look, smile, say hi, but that's it.

I go out walking a lot, and I live in dense cities. I've definitely noticed a pattern. Men look at me as we pass by each other (well, actually, they look before, as we are approaching each other, but by the time we are actually passing, they tend to diffuse their gaze and either look away, or pretend they're not still looking). Females almost never look. And I'm female, and no threat to them, and typically vice versa. Females just avoid eye contact, usually. Unless they are surreptitiously checking out a guy they think is/might be attractive. But it doesn't go beyond that. They don't want to be 'busted', and they don't want anything more to happen.

I'm quite puzzled by this male behaviour, actually. I know some people will say, well, it's obvious, guys like checking out women. It does depend how I'm dressed, that is part of it. But I think there's another factor, which is also of a more fundamental, biological level. Men have much better spatial awareness, and although men tend to be more independent, solitary, and perhaps rule-breakers, I've noticed, for years, that they are very polite on sidewalks and in public or open spaces.

I liken them to ducks. In water foul species (of which there are a lot where I live), the birds pair up, and the males always walk (waddle, lol) behind the females. The females move slowly, and not entirely erratically (they do have some common sense, of course), but they seem to go where they please, and they eat and drink at will. If I toss down some seeds or cereal for them, they gobble it up first). The males stay very close behind, protecting them. It's always this way. I wouldn't say the females are oblivious. They're keeping an eye on me too, and watching out for cars and predators, etc. But they are not vigilant. The males are vigilant. He protects his 'chic'.

Men do the same thing on city streets. I cannot count the number of times that I am approaching, and a woman is [seemingly] oblivious to me, and her man tugs at her arm or waist to shuffle her out of the pathway. There's another component to this, though - females often do see me/us/a group coming, and they don't move. Deliberately so. So, it's hard to tell which is standing their ground, feeling entitled and that others will always move around them, or when they truly were oblivious.

So, men are always aware. And it's not just checking women out.

Girls don't want men to "do" anything. You can smile, nod, acknowledge, or say hi, but don't do anything more. That's not what they want.

I, personally, do make eye contact, both for my own safety to keep aware of my surroundings and who's around me at all times, and because I feel a bit bad for guys being seen so often as potential criminals/threats. Some men will even hop across a street, or deliberately steer clear of a woman they see approaching their direction. It's to make the woman feel relaxed, safe. But I, by contrast, or maybe it's in keeping with this, acknowledge men sometimes, or give a half smile or nod, just to let them know they can use half the sidewalk too, lol. There's a big difference between a stare and a glance and nod. I would check your counting system. Women don't invite men into their space unless it's in a social context like a bar. And even those 'invites' are subtle, too subtle. You guys have to become expert body language readers. The vast majority of females will avoid doing anything more than that, even if they are interested, because they think it makes them look "desperate" and puts them at a disadvantage. Not to confuse you, but this is separate from walking down the street. I suspect your "strong hold eye contact" is a misinterpretation. She's probably just checking you out as a potential threat. Second option: She's checking you out a bit, but she'll go into panic mode if you actually stop her to chat. That, she's not prepared for. And if you get a number, it'll be a fake one, so don't even bother.

I asked a q related to this topic long ago...

Men, how does it feel to be avoided?

[dustybiker2]

I tend to make eye contact more if I am on the phone (with my mini piece in my ear) People sometimes think I am encouraging conversation. I'm just distracted and keeping more aware of the space around myself than I would in peripheral when not on the phone.

You can always smile. Smiling hurts nobody. If the do want to talk that would be their opening.

[Finchie40]

She probably just doesn’t want to walk into him and making sure he doesn t walk into her , why it’s best to grow a pair of balls and approach her yourself if you find her attractive and say hi , how are you , it’s nice to meet you I am (your name) and you are? And then try to carry on the conversation from there , if she ignores you , she isn’t interested if she stops and talks she might be interested , it just depends on how the conversation goes between you both. Locking eyes can be an indicator that she might be interested in you or not , Most girl’s are shy when they think a guy is attractive , she will quickly look elsewhere and then slowly glance over smiling if she finds you cute. It’s always a 50/50 chance but it’s better to try then not to try at all.

[Asker]

Women throw themselves at me regularly. I was hoping to see the ladies answer the question truthfully but they won't. They won't admit that they act certain ways towards certain men and they're trying to get a flirt or a fuck or a number or something.

I have zero doubt that women are attracted to me. They always have been. I just wonder wtf they're thinking in reality and what their motives are.

Based on the replies though, I don't think any woman will care to open up.

They operate on a hive mind where every woman thinks about what every other woman SHOULD say to a man in order to maintain some kind of social power or something. Women don't want men to know what is in their heads. I 100% believe that. All women know which lies to tell in my opinion.

[Finchie40]

Yes because women are weak compared to us men , she doesn’t think like us guys’ do , they are very vulnerable when it comes to things and they don’t have the masculinity that us guys’ have , Most girls’ are very cautious with her surroundings or with things she says and doesn’t say , she is constantly in protection mode because she knows she is weak , why girls’ are drawn to guys’ to feel safe and protected by him they don’t have the same mindset that’s us guys’ do Females are very emotional people why most females cry a lot more than most guys tend to, they were made that way A girl knows deep inside she isn’t a fighter , she just knows how to protect herself but she also wants to nurture and care most females are made that way , when us guys’ aren’t. she doesn’t have the testosterone that we possess , she has hormones , if you meet a girl that seems like a fighter that doesn’t back down , she is actually scared shitless deep down inside compared to us guy’s that really aren’t that scared deep down inside , we have more of the don’t give a fuck attitude so we are wired differently than girls’ are, unless a guy is gay then that’s a different story. Most females are drawn to our masculine energy that’s what turns her on why most females love the bad boy type, she feels she can fix him not realizing she can’t , a guy like that is a challenge to her , why she keeps coming back, if you have a girl that stands by your side and follows you every where you go that’s a girl you should keep by your side because she looks up to you and worships you. She feels safe and protected by you , She will have no problem being submissive to you , she loves being dominated by you. A girl that doesn’t worship you , kick her to the curb , she might like you but she isn’t in love with you , she is probably being plowed by another guy behind your back. I know this sounds crazy but sadly it’s true , A girl that treats you like a King make her your Queen. Best advice I can give

[handsomelad70]

Lots of white women grab their purse or go on the other side of the street when they see a black guy.

[Nifrayu]

I'm honestly not expecting anything when this happens. I usually shy away from eye contact in public, but every once in a blue moon my eyes will be locked with someone else's. I honestly don't know why this happens but nothing has ever happened other than the eye contact.

[Mariena_Anne92]

Im the happy go lucky type. I say hye to random people everyday. If i ever walk to any mall nearby my house. Almost all the workers at the mall knows me, because I like talking and say hi to everyone. Sometimes teasing people , that’s what I do. So if someone is making eye contact with me, I might say hi or tease him.

[IslaTheWitch]

it happens that I do it, especially if this man somehow catches my attention with his moves, laughter, and smile... something is there for sure...

but I don't expect him to do anything... I just observe and don't want him to ruin my experience :D

[Laciejordan]

I must be strange, because I find myself making eye contact with people a lot if we’re walking toward each other. I always get and give a smile, usually words are never spoken. I just expect a smile or maybe a, “hi”.

[Jupiter1]

I’ve locked eyes 👀 with a woman while we passed with each other on the street. Apparently, we both stopped many paces after we passed each other and both turned around to look 👀 again. She just stood and I decided to approach. As I got up close, I asked ‘Do you also feel that strong sense of attraction that I feel about you right now?’ She loudly replied with a resounding ‘Yes!’

[bobalife]

Probably checking him out because he’s really attractive or I like his style, hoping he will noticed me, and approach me haha

[ThatOneGuy247]

You want him to assume that you like him, so he's confident and he will believes in his attractiveness

[bobalife]

Haha yes, my eyes is telling him to come here…

[Asker]

Only some girls do that though. It is always the most beautiful and well dressed sexy looking girls who do that stuff. I see it as a literal challenge they are putting out. If you pass, you can have her.

Most men don't pass the test. I just wonder if she does it on purpose or not. If she is aware of what she is doing or if it just comes naturally or something.

[bobalife]

It can be both naturally or intentionally. But of course with intentionally… we just flirting with our eyes

[ThatOneGuy247]

Yes. I agree. It is a test for confidence and dominance in maintaining eye contact because women like strength if you can hold their eye contact and she looks away first, it causes attraction through masculinity and personality

[bobalife]

Lol did you pass the test

[ThatOneGuy247]

I can't tell you. It's secret men's business. Haha I can't say much cos I can't teach a girl hahaha. A better question is what's mate choice copying?

[bobalife]

Haha do spill the hot tea, isn’t this why it’s girlsaskguys?😂

[PeachyPie93]

No idea since I don't stare at men like that. If she was staring maybe she thought you were attractive and might have wanted to talk to you but I am not sure what people think when they stare at you like that.

[thatshydork]

If I make eye contact with someone I don’t know, it was by accident. I don’t mind if they talk to me so long as they’re not being rude, disrespectful, or creepy, but I am more interested in where I’m going then I am in the strangers around me.

[A_Bell]

I don't make strong eye contact with strangers while walking past unless it's a child or baby.

Eye contact beyond meeting eyes requires an invitation or it is an invasion of privacy, in my opinion.

[Billlewis]

As a male, I can tell you that when I'm in that situation, there's only one thing I'm thinking about -- that when she passes me on the sidewalk, she'll spit right into my face, as she giggles in triumph ❤️

[Laciejordan]

You’re not even worthy of a woman’s saliva. Wimp!

[Billlewis]

@Laciejordan No, ma'am, I certainly am not.

[electromagnetic]

Absolutely say and do nothing. It’s eye contact. Just keep walking

[Kulotz]

I dont know what you're talking about. I never did something like that

[Anonymous]

I don’t make eye contact with women. Only other men, and that’s more to do with identifying possible threats. If you’ve ever been robbed internet he street you know.

[laly520]

nothing

will mind my business n keep walking

[Anonymous]

If she finds him attractive she will want him to talk if she doesn’t she will find him creepy and want him to stop looking at her.

[provokeesmokee]

Leave me the fuck alone.

[Anonymous]

I noticed when I do this, they look behind them. All the time. Why's this?

[7Phoenix7]

I'm hoping he'll just keep walking by 👀

[sheikalana]

I avoid eye contact with men.

[NewgodOmega]

Walk pass you without a single word

[Nikki1989]

Hopefully nothing at all.