I need some advices here?

[Anonymous]

I have a girl who used to be my best friend but we had a big fight and we don't talk anymore even if we see each other every day we won't. she is the one who started it and ignored me for months. Now, she liking my post on Instagram what that means?

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a weird situation man. I don't really know what to think about her liking your Instagram posts all of a sudden. A few possibilities I can think of:

- She could be trying to send you a sign that she wants to bury the hatchet and be cool with you again. Liking your stuff is a kind of small, passive way to reach out without actually talking.

- Maybe she's just bored browsing Instagram and clicked like without even realizing it was your profile. Could just be an accident.

- Or she might be trying to make you curious or jealous, like she's putting the ball in your court now since she started the fight. Like "nah nah I'm not talking to you but I'm looking at your stuff."

It's hard to say for sure without knowing the full history between you guys. If you want to get to the bottom of it, you might have to just straight up ask her what's up. But that could lead to more drama too if she's still pissed at you.

Honestly bro, girls are so complicated sometimes. If it was me, I'd just leave it be for now. Don't hit her up or make a big deal about the likes. Play it cool and see if she tries talking to you again in person. That'll tell you more about what she's really feeling. Just be chill for now and don't stress too much over it.

[Asker]

Thanks, man. i really appreciate it. Yeah i doing just like u said and see what she is going with this.

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude, glad I could help offer some perspective! Definitely good call playing it cool and feeling her out more. Chicks can be confusing sometimes with their signals, so take it slow.

Keep your replies casual and don't double text if she doesn't respond right away. She might just need some time to think about where you guys stand too. But liking her stuff back shows you're receptive without coming on too strong.

I'm sure once you guys chat in person it'll be chill. She started as your bff for a reason, so there must have been some real connection there. Just be your same cool self and see if you can't rebuild that trust and have some laughs again like the good times. You got this bro, keep me posted how it goes! Fingers crossed she comes around.

[Asker]

Thanks man i really appreciate your help.

[Oliverlogan263]

No worries dude, happy I could provide some friendly advice! Dealing with relationship/friendship issues can be stressful, but it seems like you've got a level head about the situation. I'm sure if you and your friend took some time apart to cool off, you guys can work it out and get back on good terms. Friendships are worthwhile fighting for sometimes. Just be open and honest when you talk to her. I'm rooting for you guys to patch things up - let me know how it goes! And if you ever need another objective perspective, don't hesitate to hit me up. That's what friends are for.

[Asker]

Thanks you're a good man. I wish all the best for you in your life

[Oliverlogan263]

Thanks man, I appreciate that! Same to you too bro, hope all is well with you. It was cool talking this stuff out, sometimes just getting another perspective helps. We'll both get through whatever life throws at us. Keep being a good dude yourself! Peace.

[Anonymous]

It means you need to figure out what you fought over and appologise to her (because in any fight both sides have SOMETHING to appologise for).

Also, instagram is completely meaningless. You might as well say 'it was raining today? what does that mean about how she feels?'

[Asker]

Why should i apologize when she is the one who started it and she is the one who stopped talking to me when i was trying only to understand her. I know social media is meaningless, but why on earth she is liking my post after all of this, and 2 or 3 months ago, she didn't like any now she is trying something.

[Opinion Owner]

Firstly, its the mature thing to find the fault others perceive and be considerate of their position (this can be done without undermining your own position, but that must come second if your not a selfish person).

Secondly, by showing you can be a man here, you communicate your worth being a partner. Men own things, and seek to find a balanced viewpoint (real men).

If you, after having tried really cannot find a single thing to appologise for. Then what you can do is still express sorrow that she is unhappy or upset. You can go on to say, you don't understand why, but how that doesn't matter because (hopefully) you care for her. If you DONT care for her, why are you bothering to post on here?

[Asker]

I do care for her a lot, and then she will ever know. I never did anything wrong to her and always apologized for anything i think i did wrong but in the end she just stop talking with me and didn't feel sorry about that at all she just move on like i wasn't her friend. The real reason was what she made me feel. Shewascareless. And told me i mean nothing to her and all i give her was love and caring for her. I think she didn't want that, so one i told her that is wrong we should care more for people we love we don't have to be like this and this not the way she told me that i was right and apologized but i didn't pay it because still after this should could do more but i love so i forgive her and told her that is alright do worry about it and this she ghost me and never speak to even i was only waiting for just one word and i will back like i used to be and more with her but she didn't care. Didn't text me or anything . Now every time i see her i got feeling like she is stalking me from a distance when we are in the same room, and she starts to like my post again like i said earlier that is why i asking now u almost got the full story. Yes i walk away from her for months because she need time and me too she broke my heart when she told that i mean nothing to her i had to stay away only because she ghost me and treated me like i wasn't existed. Yes, i love her, but sometimes to love someone to let them go, so i stop trying. but now I don't know. Is she giving me hope or just doing something else? i never understand humans and how they think.

[Asker]

It's been months since that fight. i was thinking that i am doing just fine, and i am over it, but i guess i never did. Now she is giving me hope or just being nice or something I don't know, and that is killing me. I am an overthinker, and i know for sure her answer is the same and won't change it. But i hope that i am wrong and she is really want to give me a chance. Or just stay away from me because i love her and i want the best for her even if she won't be with me. I don't want false hopes i can't take it anymore . Now u have another answer for ur question if i love her or not. Only if she known that how much she meant to me

[Opinion Owner]

Nod, okay I can empathise and sympathise. I don't know why this happens, but it has also happened to me.

There are two possibilities, the first is what you think is being loving is to here pathetic. There is a type of love called puppy love, which girls can wind up really hurt by. Pupply love is all fluffly and nice and bends over backwards for the girl, before, at some time in the future, the puppy realising they've been nothing but abused and moving on. There are a lot of different ways girls handle this, and IME most girls want the idea of puppy love (in terms of how their partner is) but they fear it greatly as it usually won't last.

If you've been bending over backwards for a girl whos shown she will keep pushing you (assuming she's not just a dyed in the wool bitch here) she might have reached the point of finding you pathetic and less like a man and would just want it over.

What you need to do, is call her out on her crap, but call her out in an adult man fashion. Don't be upset, don't be hurt, just be calmly telling what is and isn't acceptable and make a clean break yourself, saying that you are in love with her, but if that is love as a man you don't need that.

[Opinion Owner]

Then, see how she behaves. If she's all "well thats FINE its what I've been saying all along" she was just not into you, and she was just getting off on someone who was basically her lap dog. However, if she changes her behaviour towards you and comes and appologises to you for the stuff you outlined, you can begin slowly to try to rebuild.

You didn't do the wrong thing always trying to find your fault, it was important, because if this IS to end, you can remember how hard you tried and use that to innoculate against ever getting reinvolved with someone who would be so callus with your love.

Glad you explained that it's important. My ex-gf did something similar, and when I eventually decided "this is bullshit" and broke up with her for good, she got very very very angry. Though afterwards, she appologised for everything, saw herself and wanted to get back together (sadly I was broken, and I could never see her the same, as well as I gave her 3 years of living with her being that way and had enough fights to know that is just how she is vs a mistake). Respect to her, her new boyfriend is great for her and I see she's learned a lot (but not changed).

Best of luck, and my advice stands. Even if you find you did no wrong, the first few times if you c an see any point she has its best to do as I first advised, though now, given what you describe. Hope this helps.

[Asker]

Thank you for being here for me man i appreciate it

[laly520]

not deep

she is only friendly

[Asker]

Why would anyone do this. I answered another question u can read it if u like to understand more about what i meant to say. thanks by the way

[strateguy632]

only gave you compliments nothing else