Girls, how would you deal with a male coworker having a crush on you?

[Anonymous]

Would you interact with everyone else, but him? Would you be sometimes mean to him? Would you occasionally use him as an ego boost / string him along?

[_Maya_]

I would just shrug it off. I refuse to date anyone I work with. I have seen it go terribly wrong and it actually becomes awkward for everyone... not just the two in the relationship. Because what side do you choose then? I would just tell someone politely that I wasn't interested. I wouldn't be mean to him and certainly wouldn't string him along like there was a chance. There is a very easy way to be polite and just say thanks but no thanks. No need for games or any of that stuff.

[Asker]

How would you confront him if he has not admitted to having a crush on you but it is clear from his behavior (e. g. going out his way to help, complement your work ability) that he has a crush?

[_Maya_]

If he hasn't admitted it and can't then I will just act professionally and get along like I would with anyone.

[Booklover_90]

Nah. I would handle it in a mature manner. If the feelings weren’t mutual, I’d just tell him so.

[Asker]

How would you confront him since he has not admitted he has a crush on you but his behavior is a giveaway (going out of his way to help, complement on your work ability)?

[Booklover_90]

If he hasn’t admitted it straight out, I wouldn’t encourage him (i. e. I wouldn’t reciprocate any flirting).

[Asker]

Would you ask for help on something not work related (if he knows of a place for eating out) or would you be concerned that would encourage him?

[Booklover_90]

No. I wouldn’t.

[MarshmallowStar]

A male coworker that I like goes out of his way to help me, but doesn't show any other signs that he is interested so I'm always second guessing myself and not be sure if he is just being helpful to be friendly. If you like her, you need to flirt with her a bit (but obviously keep it appropriate for a workplace setting) such as complimenting her outfit or letting yourself get a bit closer to her and see whether she stays where she is or moves away and see how she responds and then you'll know how she feels.

[Asker]

Do you think asking for help on something not work related would encourage him?

[Asker]

Above reply is for Booklover_90

[Asker]

Marshmallow, I have a crush but I am not going to act on it as I don't date coworkers. But, I think she senses I have a crush and is taking advantage of it.

[Badgirlnatalia]

I'd ignore him