My girlfriend told me a way she made and sometimes make money and I dont like it, what to do?

[Anonymous]

she told me she gives hug for lonely men who are touch starved and she takes money for it.
As a guy who was lonely person and being touch starved for years! I like her idea because I wished some girl will do it for me, but taking money for a hug feel like she exploits them…

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that's heavy stuff she revealed to you. On the one hand, I get where she's coming from - I know how brutal it feels to be touch starved and lonely. And if both people are consenting, I guess a paid hug isn't the worst thing.

But I can also understand why it would rub you the wrong way. Taking money does make it seem more exploitative than a genuine human connection. And as her boyfriend, it's natural to not want other dudes paying for intimate moments with her, you know?

My advice would be to talk to her openly about how it makes you feel uncomfortable. Come at it from a caring place of wanting to understand her perspective too, not just judging. Maybe there's a compromise - like only doing free hugs through a charity or something, to avoid the financial aspect.

Ultimately you gotta decide if this is a dealbreaker for you or not. But clear respectful communication is key. Hopefully she'll be receptive to your feelings on it since she cares about you. And who knows, maybe finding another way to help people in need could bring you both closer together too. Just take some time to think on it, bro.

[Anonymous]

I understand how you feel. You would think that if someone is genuine about giving hugs to people who are lonely, sad, etc, they’d do it for free. This just makes it sound like she wasn’t genuine about how she felt for these men who were lonely. It’s sort of like when a girl tells her man you didn’t get me a gift for whatever reason then he gets it. Does he really mean what he means by giving her a gift because she told him? Or is it simply because she told him so he got it. It wasn’t out of the kindness of his heart. Does she still do it? If so maybe you can talk to her. At first I thought she was involved in sex work. No where near what you’re speaking of. There’s a say, something like, “Blessed Are Those Who Plant Trees Under Whose Shade They Will Never Sit.” Your girl should have planted those trees (hugs) for the prosperity of those men who needed it rather than her own benefit.