Girls, What's worse? Being catcalled, or never catcalled?

[SugarSugarplum]

Imagine a world where you can flounce around in your wedge sandals, shortest shorts and tightest tank top braless and men don't catcall or wolf whistle.

Now imagine that it's been years and still no one does it.

I hate catcalling. Good riddance!

I think I'd miss the attention after years without it.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I would much rather never get attention than to question my safety every time I step out of the house and look like a woman.

[SugarSugarplum]

I know catcalling can feel creepy depending on the guys and the situation, but I don't find anything unsafe about it. I usually just smile at them and keep moving (preferably into a big group of witnesses).

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I don’t think you realize that you just admitted to being afraid of it too

[SugarSugarplum]

I'm afraid of bees too but I don't fear for my safety.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’m glad you feel so comfortable in your neighborhood

[Kelly6]

@sugarsugarplum never catcalled sounds worse.

[SugarSugarplum]

I mean, we spend $75 and two hours a day putting ourselves together, and no one reacts? NO ONE?

[Kelly6]

@sugarsugarplum
Thanks for Mho

[CrazyGirl2]

Okay, THIS is a great question! Now, being 100% honest, I like catching a cute guy checking me out as much as any woman, but when a guy on the street, or in a passing car yells out “nice ass”, “show us your tits”, or “you need a place to sit”, or even whistles I feel extremely unsafe! Last Halloween, me, three friends and our boyfriend’s were supposed to go to a couple of bars and nightclubs together, enter a few contests and since I don’t drink, they were gonna have some fun. My boyfriend (now fiancé) had to work last minute, my boyfriend's bestie got CoVid, and because my other friend is dating THAT guys best friend, he got CoVid too! The last guy decided against being the only guy with 4 girls so he stayed home! We were all dressed as high school cheerleaders, and we went all out! We got our old high school cheer uniforms sent from home, (I know not very imaginative) and we looked great! When we were leaving the last bar, as a limo pulled up w/ at least 5 very drunk guys (that we could see) poking their heads out of the sunroof and the windows. We got the lot “nice tits”, “nice ass”, “smile baby”, "hey little girls, you want some candy”, and one guy flat out yelled multiple time “I wanna fuck you blondie” (that was me). We were right by the parking lot, when the limo pulled in and cut us off! We were terrified! The limo driver even cut us off as we tried to cross the road to get back in the bar! We all just began screaming for help and the bouncer got off his stool, and began running towards us, shining his flashlight in the rear window and the limo took off! The bouncer got the license plate and the police were called!

I never want to experience anything like that again! I like a little appropriate attention, who doesn't? But that is a behavioral issue that needs to die, and soon! It’s annoying, it’s degrading, and taken to the extreme... it’s terrifying! So I'm sorry but I'm gonna say never again, and gladly! But great question, ‘cause yeah, I’d miss the attention, I’m woman enough to admit that, but too many guys take it way too far, and unfortunately the nice guy who make the one benign comment doesn't know that he’s the twelfth guy to do so in the last five minutes, and I’ve had all I can take! So I’m now the bitch for telling him to fuck himself! So I’ll go with never again. ¯\_(ッ)_/¯

I hope this helps.
Laura 🤗 🥰

[Alli112]

I think the only circumstance I'm cool with catcalling is if it's like your friends or partner joking with you, but then it's not really catcalling, it's just a joke.

Actual catcalling tends to be quite icky feeling (especially since it's a behavior that you don't see as often from people my age compared to previous generations, so either the dude doing it is significantly older (and I look even younger than I am a lot of the time, making it even more weird) or probably is younger but acting in extremely bad taste).

Tbh a girl (or just generally a person who's not interested in women) commenting positively on my appearance is so much more meaningful and enjoyable because there's a good chance they literally just think you look good as opposed to wanting to come onto you.

[dustybiker2]

Last group of men who did this I loudly called back. "Really? I look awful today." They all changed their tune and became defensive of me as I mildly nitpicked to redirect. Completely took the wind out of their sails. Mind you I half knew these people from working at a shop I frequent, but it still worked. Knowing them is also what prob gave them confidence to try it. People are wanting to socialize and most are awful at it, or get slammed now matter what angles they try. It is nice to have the once greedy-eyed-drooling comments shut down though. Those are what are inappropriate. I don't mind friendly or playful with respect that a person could be happily spoken for.

[Damaged00]

I straddle the line here. On one hand, being catcalled can get annoying and gives me a very unsettling/uncomfortable feeling. But on the other hand, when I'm having a bad day it can give me a little pep in my step.. like wow what a shitty day but at least that dude thinks I'm sexy.. especially if my hair is in a messy bun and I'm makeupless. Honestly, I'd probably miss it.

[jennyPuss]

I think I'd go crazy. I get it all the time and never feel weird about it. Maybe cause I'm married so I don't have rejection insecurities. If you get cat called by the men you don't want to be catcalled by, and never get noticed by the men you want, then I guess I can see why it would bother you

[katiesmuff]

Never saw to much of that and when I did I would just ignore it or give the middle finger sign!

[SugarSugarplum]

The half-peace sign!

[PeachyPie93]

I don't dress like a whore so I have only been whistled at at or honked at times when I dressed up or wore tshirts, so I never seen it as an issue lol. Plus it does feel nice sometimes to get attention when I want it.

[ZamerZ]

You don't need to "dress like a whore", whatever that means in your book. My 13 y/o niece got catcalled by a guy when we were on the subway in winter and she wore a huge scarf with her coat, you barely saw her face or body.

[PeachyPie93]

@ZamerZ That doesn't happen on the regular unless you live in shitty dirty cities.

[ZamerZ]

If you say so it must be true, mustn't it? Bring the wisdom to every corner in the world, for you have the power of determining this to be the true universal experience for every woman and man on the planet. It's gonna be life changing.

[PeachyPie93]

@ZamerZ Yes. Besides your incident that you claimed happened. How often does it happen on the regular? Most men have self respect and don't go around doing that. Unless you live in a big city but all big cities are trash especially in the states and shit bag countries like India. Get over yourself Z.

[ZamerZ]

Wow. You're not only ignorant, you're also unempathetic to those this happens to on the regular. I always wonder how people feel comfortable being like that. This also happens to people on the country side, by the way. Feel free to link me your sources of studies from where you take your knowledge on how most men are normal. Nobody argued you on that by the way. But since you claim to know most men on the planet and in the big bad cities, I am curious now. Go ahead.

[PeachyPie93]

@ZamerZ Its what I see on the regular. I see women dressed likes skanks then whine men look or say something to them. Of course I am unsympathetic because I don't really like or care about other people in general. Stats say 80% of woman have been catcalled at least once in their life, And? Does it really ruin your day because some loser guy said something? I have lived 23 years in my small city only got noticed when I wanted to be noticed even at night time, never had to deal with creeps there. I also lived in a big city in the UK and never witnessed others getting catcalled or had it happen to me, unless we were dressed a certain way or out past a certain time. Sure guys come up to talk but they never made me feel uncomfortable. I have walked around at night at 4am alone in a big city wearing normal covered up clothes did men say shit yeah 2 out of the 5 guys I seen said something (one told me I better get home and one called me over to which I ignored him) did it ruin my life no, because it don't matter and nothing happened. All I can say is toughen up.

[chrissykerdock]

i like being catcalled i like the attention

[silvermoon84]

When I was 23 and told the guys to stop catcalling me I got told “you’ll miss the attention when you’re 40”. Now I’m 40 and I still wish it would stop, but I’m better at ignoring it now.

[SunnyGirly]

I don't know I kinda wish I got the attention

[Anonymous]

I've only been catcalled a few times and it makes me feel a little insecure. I'm sure if it happened a lot it might get annoying but it is a compliment so I voted B.

[Apple1996]

I don't even want to be noticed when I'm out in public so I hate it

[Razp_Sorbet]

A world where I'm never catcalled would be fantastic.

[Booklover_90]

Men don’t do that to me anyway.

[SugarSugarplum]

You're not missing much. The emotional hit is about the same as a coworker noticing your hair.

[Jrg98]

Makes you feel good