I don’t like being cat called because it can feel very scary sometimes. Especially if the guy comes off aggressively. This guy kept following me once and cat calling me, then proceeded to say that he would scream I did something to him if I wouldn’t give him his number. In broad daylight. I was 18. Just imagine how terrified I felt.
A compliment however is nice. Some men are very kind and that’s something that puts a smile on my face sometimes. For example a guy once pulled down his window as he was driving past and said “Don’t want to bother you. But you look very beautiful today and I hope you have a lovely day.” That put a smile on my face! Who doesn’t like compliments?
Give him my number **... oh and there was also the time I was texting my friend and a guy pulled my phone off me to see who I was talking to and then said he was interested. What kind of behaviour is this. When was this ever deemed acceptable honestly.
I think that some girls have been socially conditioned to believe that if they don’t get cat-called, it means they’re unattractive. So they may like it in the moment because it validates them, but long term, it’s bad for them. They need to learn that they don’t need validation, and they deserve better. Cat-calling them makes that process take longer, and therefore reduces their self esteem.
They don’t like it in the sense that the thing itself is enjoyable. They like it because it reduces an anxiety that in a perfect would they wouldn’t feel anyway. So even if someone reacts positively to it, it is still not okay to do. Cat-calling is disgusting and inappropriate.
I like getting attention by other men on occasion but in a classy, subtle, respectful way. Cat calling is none of those things. Its so uncalled for and embarrassing for everyone around. Imagine just minding your own business and some random guy just comes up behind you and starts saying shit like "hey sexy" like get fucked mate can't you see I'm trying to get on with my day and I don't even know you. It's super creepy too. You instantly know a guy who cat calls women is not a great guy and is best to avoid.
My definition of being cat called is just a whistle, yoo-hoo or a “good morning”. I’ve never had anything beyond this type of thing said to me when “it was allowed” 20-30 years ago.
These days ‘most’ people are considerate. However, there is a large percentage of foreigners in my part of the country, and some of them (a specific nationality) are animals. Grabbing young women on the street, talking filth and generally being vile and sexually threatening. This is unacceptable and cannot be laughed off or thought of as a veiled compliment.
It'd most likely situational. I would love to pull a girls hair during sex but I dont feel the urge to yank hair when im standing in line at the store.
Women probably enjoy cat calls in ideal scenarios where they aren't worried if the cat caller is going to attack them.
On the street at night... bad idea
When she makes an entrance at a party... maybe.
When she steps out of the dressing room to ask you what you think of thay dress? definitely whistles and compliments probably almost always go over well in this setting
The only women I've known that like it are older, less attractive women. They don't get that kind of attention regularly so it is nice for them, but the rest of us don't like it. It makes us feel unsafe like, is it just a compliment or is this guy going to follow me home?
I've heard that under certain circumstances they'd find it funny, but most of the time they find it obnoxious.
The one time I heard of someone who thought it was funny as hell was a school teacher, with red curly hair, walking past a construction site in a dress that bad dinosaurs on it. One of the construction workers called out "hey, Mrs. Friz, I'll let you ride MY Magic School Bus any time!" Or something like that, I'm paraphrasing here. Her reaction was just to laugh as she was too amused to be angry.
I think a girl can appreciate been called pretty, or hot when hey put effort into the way they look. But to follow then down a street just saying something loud and making a weird noise that not so much. And even then if your ugly she won't like it either way. There is a difference between cat calling and complementing a person that's all. Even girls who dress up for attention would rather just have a complement or some guys look there way rather than been a loud obnoxious prick.
Of course, but they tend to be young, insecure, and craving for attention. After a while, even they start to crave a bit of silence. Cat calls are usually generated by body-flattering clothing so it is easy for most women, apart from being ugly from the start, to avoid significant amounts of unwanted attention.
If there are any I haven't met or heard from them yet. The kind and respectful compliments are absolutely fine. But loud, pathetic, weak, repetitively annoying catcalling is not acceptable in any way shape or form. The target of said yelling ends up either confused, annoyed or afraid. Also it makes the person doing it look like an animal, not to mention how embarrassing that this is the level of desperation they have fallen to.
On a related note, if you’re going to grope someone, always make it look like an accident. They can’t arrest you for falling face first into someone’s bare ass.
Remember, how a woman dresses is no excuse. It is NOT our fault. Even if a lady is walking around bottomless and has drawn arrows on the small of her back with a Sharpie, pointing down to her bum or sniz, and even if the bum and sniz are wet and glistening and above the arrows it says "give it to me here", that is not an invitation to be disrespected with heinous catcalls. :(
I hate it with a passion. Why would you cat call someone when you can easily just approached them. I think it’s harder now with covid and 2 meters apart but still.
I highly doubt that. That shit is disrespectful af. You know what happened to one of my friends? Random guy on a public transport grabbed her ass and she felt so "disgusting" afterwards. Some men are pigs what else can I cay.
literally my suburban middle-class neighborhood which is nowhere near "the bad side of big cities" funnily enough when i was like 12/13 for the first time
It literally happens to young girls. And I'm talking as young as 11 or 12. Or younger in some cases. This isn't just something that happens in deep dark alleys lol. This is something some young children have been subjected to. These random seemingly "minor" instances happen to a lot of people. I t might not be you, but that doesn't mean it's not real.
So you must live in a city with very respectful people. Cause a woman dressing up walking alone down Santa Monica pier fir example you’re likely to get catcalled at some point and usually not respectfully
I have lived in a another big city, which where i lived was smaller but, it was still part of the big city, an the small part... i still got it. I do not mind it.
Some like it, but my guess is it works the same as with dick pics. Only with consent, so you'd have to know them. Sure, maybe there are some who like it coming from strangers, but you'd never know.
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