Has anybody here been academically dismissed from a university?

[Anonymous]

I used to attend a four year private university, but got academically dismissed 3 years ago. Now I am torturing myself at community college, where I don't feel like I fit in with any of the folks there. My mother is still pretty pissed at me and yells at me often for getting kicked out of uni ( that happened 3 years ago). I'm hoping that some state uni would accept me at the end of this school year by some miracle. Is anybody in the same situation as I am in and trying to get back to a 4 year uni or college? I feel like I have no strength left to go through applying for colleges and all that crap again... All my work in high school is wasted and came back to NOTHING!

I frequently think about dropping out of college altogether and just becoming a waitress or some entry level job, but I know that is very insulting to my parents. My mother reminds me how worthless I am and tells me to die and that I'm just a leech. She yells at me a lot because I was academically dismissed from university 3 years ago and that thyve wasted a lot of money for the tuition ( If anybdoy know NYU and how feeaking expensive it is to go there).

I don't know what to do with myself. I don't want to go through the college applications process again...and I know its a detriment having an academic dismissal on my transcript...

Anybody have been / is in the same situation as I am in now?

[Anonymous]

well... your not alone in that matter I too got academically dismissed from a prestigious university in Canada I don't know if you know it though it's Dalhousie University. Anyway, my major in Dal. was engineering it was hell I was taking like nine assignments and a project every week. So I know how you feel pretty much it sucks but it is not your fault judging from my experience I was a smart student in high-school I got great grades which led me to high honors and a standing ovation from my parents. When I went to university for the first time I had very bad friends unfortunately most of them were hypocrites and my grades started to drop fast because I was not comfortable also in Canada I was depressed, homesick and fed up with my grades. In the first semester I got a GPA of 3 out of 4 and in the second semester I got 1.6 out of 5 I failed 5 out of 6 courses. I went back home to Egypt shocked and I told my best friend one of the courses I got an FM which I joked honestly about it and told him what is that letter grade and he told me I don't know and he laughed and then I told him maybe the professor wrote failed miserably hahaaha but it was not long when my mother and father came in they turned on me with shouts and curses and stuff like that in front of my friend... but I got to admit I deserved it they didn't mean it in a wrong way they want you to be the best in what you do and they want you to have everything they didn't have and be better than your friends. and I have to tell you my parents they are very smart my father graduated from Mcgill university and then took his PHD there and then went to Stanford university, and my mom well she is a doctor and a very good one. I guess I deserved the insults hahaha

After that at the end of my transcript that I got a 1.6 out of 4 which below the requirement in engineering which is 2 out of 4 therefore you are going to be suspended from engineering and have to repeat again your first year. I repeated my first year again but this time was studying in Egypt for it and when I went back there they changed the curriculum which sucked hahahaah they added new courses and they were pretty hard hahaha in the first semester I got a 3.3 out of 4 because I knew the answers and stuff but in the second semester there were six courses new and mandatory and they were incredibly hard I failed I got a 1.8 out of 4 because honestly I got a nervous breakdown and lack of sleeping so I didn't attend the finals. anyways my grade is still below the requirement so they told me that you are going to be academically dismissed I went back home to egypt depressed ofcourse because it sucks to confront the whole family and tell them that you failed and you got academically dismissed from a good university for a year and there will be no universities to accept you during that year and you have to stay at home and study do what ever you can to prove to that you are doing academically well.

don't give up and forget about the past

[sa230e]

Oh my God, you're mother says that to you? That's horrible. Parents are supposed to nuture and support their children, even when they screw up. I can't imagine how awful it must feel to be disparaged by the people closest to you, the ones that you need the most. It's a major betrayal.

Just an idea but why don't you apply to some universities here in Canada? Universities here are partially subsidized by the government so tuition is apparently far cheaper than American schools but the quality of education they provide is excellent. Who knows, they might not even be able to access records of your dismissal. And to top it off, it'll get you far away from your nasty mom.

[Asker]

Well don't all colleges require that you send a transcript from all your previously attended schools? Well, my mom did kinda put in a lot of effort into sending me off to a great college after HS... And since I failed, she feels like her work for me all amounts to nothing.

[sa230e]

Well it's still not right. Parents should love you because of your inherent worth, not because of your potential. She's putting a lot of weight on your shoulders and it's wearing you out.

And yes you do need transcripts but I went to college too and got my diploma and I gave them those transcripts and they accepted me. If you have good grades and you can find a way to state your case, I figure you might be able to pull it off. Wouldn't hurt to try at least.

[Anonymous]

YOU CAN DO IT!

my cousin went through the exact same thing...it was really hard, but she made it through and got her degree. it is a detriment to have that on your transcript but YOU CAN explain it. the admissions committee understands that people get to where they are in different ways for different reasons. do NOT give up on your education. you can come back from this. I have 100% faith in you. don't pay attention to your mother. she's just so upset that this is happening to her kid, can you blame her? she just isn't handling it all that well. since she can't motivate you, you have to motivate yourself. look towards the future. it's your life... you only get one shot, make the best of it.

[Asker]

It just feels like its taking forever to get back into college...i just feel so out of place at community college...

[Opinion Owner]

i know... but it's a means to an end... think of your end goal... just focus on that and let the rest melt away. :)

[dudeman]

no but I got suspended for a year for getting drunk then when they like ambush/arrested me I threw a cop down because like you don't just grab a drunk dudes arms without telling him what's going on, it was such bullsh*t.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

I wish I could have attended a university to be dismissed from.

[beerY33]

Why were you dismissed?

[Asker]

Due to Noteeting gpa requirements at the end of the semester. They actually gave me a warning , but I failed anyways. I didn't know I could take a break from college, I couldve done that though and saved myself from getting expelled :(

[beerY33]

well, take that as a lesson and do it right this time. college is worth your time.

[Asker]

It's just bothers me a lot that all my classmates at NYU probably graduated now and are looking for jobs while I am still struggling to even gain acceptance in college YET AGAIN... Do you know sending a transcript from NYU is necessary? Can't I just give my prospective colleges a transcript from my community college? not from my academically dismissed college?

[beerY33]

I don't know the answer to that, but I feel like you probably could just send a transcript from the community college, unless you're counting the classes at NYU towards your community college degree.

[Love2Ball]

Wow that sucks :(

[Asker]

Yeah.

[Love2Ball]

Goodluck tho. I really mean it