Why don't girls give their guy friends a chance rather than friend zoning them?

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Its funny... most of the time they say the best relationships are based on friendships. That is false... how is it so often than girls come across very good guys, men they feel safe and comfortable with. When these long time guy friends believe that if they stick around perhaps she will develop feelings for him and then... when in truth the girl put him in the friend zone with no chance of anything but a punching bag for her to vent.

So he stays by her side being nice and everything sharing all the intimate feelings and all.

The guy friend sits there waiting for her to come around year after year while she's gets into a relationship with a guy who abuses her and just treats her like shit!

So this nice girl he use to know is living her life... then the guy friend tells her how he feels and she does not feel the same way so now he feels hurt and says his good buy to a girl he really really cared about.

This guy friend grows a spine and learns what he has he cuts off all communication with this girl that he can't have. It hurts so much for him because they shared so much together.

10 years down the road this nice girl is all battered and broken inside from her pour choices in men leaving her alone with no one to help her. As for the guy who really loved her and cherished her all those years has moved on.

He is married and with kids, a house and happy to say he has found a beautiful woman who will love him on equal terms. Boy, does she regret what choice she made and has come to the realization that she really lost someone who really gave a damn about her...

Why don't women give that one special nice guy that she put in the friend zone who really treats her with love dignity and respect a shot rather than her picking up guy who abuse her? This is where my firm beliefs that women love and crave abusive men. Men who hate and even kill them! I have even seen a guy run over his girl friend breaking her pelvis in 4 places!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Men and women don’t have the same friendships. Where men might have their only confidant be their girlfriend/wife, women have several confidants in their mothers, sisters, friends, and coworkers. On average, feminine friendships are going to be more psychologically healthy and stronger than masculine ones. Men take this difference in closeness as a sign of attraction, and when they act on it because of these thoughts it can go very poorly. Women are not sexually attracted to all of their male friends, and in my personal case I don’t understand why you would settle for friends if you want to have sex with someone. There are men who are so desperate for a feminine relationship that they will falsify their personalities in order to get that, regardless of if it’s romantic or platonic. And there are very few pains equivalent to knowing your friend that you trusted only got close to you because he wanted a shot at having you for himself without considering your feelings.

[razelove]

TLDR, they don't give a chance because you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone. I wouldn't be able to get with lizzo unless I had viagra and ecstacy in copious amounts. Those aren't exactly building blocks for a strong relationship.

That's more exaggerated for women since they can choose and get guys easier than we can get women. Why would they sleep with someone they don't want to if they can lock down someone they do want?

If her expectations are too high, that's her problem, not yours, play the numbers game, hit on many women face to face, your game will get better, and someone that you like, and likes you back will shake out.

Well, many someones, but someone that will stick around will shake out.

[Finchie40]

Because sadly that guy put himself in the friend zone with her , he didn’t have the balls to express his true feelings to her. So he pretty much gave her permission to treat him as a friend by him not expressing his true feelings to her. Most females’ want a guy that keeps her on her toes , that she chases , bot the other way around , for a girl to be attracted to a guy she needs to feel he can take lead to make her feel safe and protected , why most girls’ go for the bad boy type. He is a challenge to her , not an ass kisser. When a guy constantly kisses a girls’ ass , she will eventually lose interest in him and look at him as a friend more than a lover. Most girls’ want to be dominated by a man she can look up to.

[Twalli]

Salty much? How many times have you been friend zoned? Maybe stop picking girls you want to date in the future as friends. I have probably close to 20 female friends. Besides my fiancée (who was a friend) I'm only attracted to one other one. That's because I never considered how attractive a girl is when we become friends. If we like the same things, we can talk, we can get along, we can hang out. That's how I make friends, and because of that, if she's an attractive girl, that's a plus. Because my friendships are formed without an ulterior motive, the girls I'm friends with actually like me and if we're both single, they'd agree to a date because, if there's no spark, we still had fun hanging out and probably would have platonically otherwise.

[Anonymous]

1. They're not physically attracted to them. 2. This woman might not understand healthy attraction. You have to understand how few women today understand what makes up a quality man. I've had many lady friends reject me or tell me they weren't attracted to me. Only to later change their minds and want to date me. It makes me chuckle every time it happens. Because I know they're still not physically attracted to me.😆 But over time, they've come to understand what a solid guy I am. I mean what I say, and I say what I mean. I'm a rock in their turbulent, clustef*** of a life. This is what they're attracted to.😆

[Bricealan]

One of mine, did that, but for whatever reason, I did not click with her when we tried sex. With that said, afterward, we had the hottest phone sex, 'talking sex' EVER, after that and we were 'friends".

I just never understood the sexual dynamics of that relationship

She got married sometime afterwards

[ProbablyClueless]

It makes sense if you think about it like this:

Guy friends give women the fun, intimacy, and masculinity that they want without the pressure of having sex. And saying "no" means taking less of a risk than saying "yes" in nearly every situation.

So from their perspective, they can get the fun of having men around at relatively low risk to themselves. Why would they take a risk that they don't have to take?

[slatyb]

Because they don't find them a suitable life partner. The guys who can't figure out why they aren't chosen are the worst -- generally clueless about themselves and life in general.

[NathanDavis]

I never wanted a chance...

my friends are my friends

and I had my girlfriend already, lol... besides my friends

[LiamJHayden]

A guy or girl in the "Friend Zone" is there voluntarily.

[noohair]

If you actually figure out why women do things, you can rule the female world.

[Anonymous]

I wonder the same thing.